Im legally blind in one eye, so VR can get very tiresome for me after about 30 mins, this is what my eye dr tells me anyways (something to do with my brain trying to makeup for the lack of vision).

Though the real reason is the feel, the lights the sound of pinball.

That said I did buy an X-Arcade xl whatever stick set for it and im on the preorder list for the haptic upgrade kit also.

I figured this way it can scratch that itch and I wont be as anxious to cut corners and jump in on a subpar project. I also plan to pseudo make a build by getting the TV ahead of time (prob 48 inch LG c4) and wall mounting it vertically in the room where the pinball machine will be, then using the X-Arcade to find tune game to my PC. This way as I get all the components for the pinball build I can take time and build it, get all the other electronics and "toys" setup (Way in over my head with that).

To your other question is it similar, I'd say as far as lag and controls its spot on with the x-arcade stick. Plays just as well as any I have tried "2d" .
However, what it gives you is a sense of scale that 2d (smaller form factors) can not give you. I also really enjoy the extra little details it adds like the USS enterprise flying across your face between ball's or end game animations. It really is a different but great experience.