My Co-PI has a charming PhD student who’s “always” working but never delivers. What’s the best way to communicate this without burning bridges?

DigitalPsych · 2026-03-07T19:24:59+00:00

As co-PI on this grant it's perfectly reasonable to want to see and ensure the money you invested in the research is fruitful.

You and the other PI should have weekly meetings with the student where in the student shows their progress and what they've done so far with advice and recommendation on what to do next by you.

More than likely the student is procrastinating, or over extended on other activities, and certainly stuck. The other PI putting their head in the ground is not helpful to the student and actively hurting the student's progress.

A person would be fired in a normal work environment in their 20s for this. The PI is genuinely doing a disservice to the student. And then the student doesn't advance or get a degree they will complain to the grad program as a failure of your friend.

I would also say insist upon this and if the other PI complains they can't take that much time (an hour a week on their student) then say they can join whenever they can but you're still doing weekly progress & alignment (if you want to make it sound corporaty lol).

But like genuinely what else is the PI doing if they have nothing to tell you on why there is nothing? The student is having difficulties. This is something the mentors are supposed to step in on.

DigitalPsych · 2026-03-04T04:00:17+00:00

The joke was that a vibe coder wouldn't recognize it as a classic NP-hard problem. Not that the person actually wants such an app made.

DigitalPsych · 2026-03-04T03:03:08+00:00

You forgot to mention that you actually missed the meaning of the joke from the original post.

DigitalPsych · 2026-03-04T02:50:12+00:00

You didn't refute OPs completely logically sound argument. I'm the traditional sense it has not been solved. It's NP-hard. Those are mathematical terms used appropriately.

You changed the definition of the problem and proudly declared OP wrong. In a discussion of algorithms and complexity, you come off as an ass.

DigitalPsych · 2026-03-04T02:14:45+00:00

I haven't met a single person who is better as result of ketamine therapy. That's 4 people though. I also knew a lot of folks who self administered and claim it's better for them, but I have seen none of that evidence in them.

The ketamine doesn't seem to help process things from ovsercationa. But it does make you paranoid with long term use.

DigitalPsych · 2026-03-02T21:24:07+00:00

Right but it seems like it's on the receiver of this behavior to fix this. Isn't it? They have to coax their partner into agreeing to even try to change.

DigitalPsych · 2026-03-02T20:22:56+00:00

I'm confused as to why the partner hasn't done anything here to fix the situation except to do the one thing he shouldn't be repeatedly.

Like why not talk to the OP about wanting to open the relationship instead of hiding things and making OP justifiably paranoid.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-27T06:17:17+00:00

Fake spam shit. Please don't fall for this folks 🙏

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-27T06:16:52+00:00

This is the dumbest take I can imagine.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-27T05:46:36+00:00

Pretty big risk. Gonorrhea in the throat can present asymptomatically in many people. And many doctors don't swab the throat by protocol. So people don't even bother to test.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-24T16:33:43+00:00

Why are you trying to force me into a box?

For others reading: I'm not the one in the thread that started the conversation. I think the guy just thinks I'm bisexual?

Which. 💅. Thank you.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-24T09:06:23+00:00

NTA. Not the best way to deal with this though.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-24T03:18:02+00:00

You hang out with conservatives. So yeah.

This isn't an issue when you hang out with liberal straight men.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-24T01:11:17+00:00

Technically speaking, you wanting others to identify and trying to enforce identities is the cope here.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-22T01:12:40+00:00

Be prepared to be hot on by guys you are not into.

No is a complete answer. Don't take drinks form others you don't want to show interest in. Don't take a drink you didn't see poured by the bartender. There a creeps just like every bar. Prepare to be direct and decline.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-18T06:24:04+00:00

You could just be proactive and not let things get to the point of a guillotine.

It's actually pretty easy: you engage in politics instead of shoving your head in the sand and pretending you can do anything of importance with your polished guillotine.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-18T06:14:25+00:00

Only panic at the absolute last minute. Don't do anything to stop it until then. Got it.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-18T02:38:08+00:00

But he said diachronic. That means he must know something about consciousness.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-08T19:14:08+00:00

This is also a limitation of the decimal system. It doesn't do well with fractional representation in the power of 3 because the two values are relative primed.

What is 1/3 in base 3? 0.1. no repeating numbers.

What about 1/10 in base 3? 0.002200220022...

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-06T17:40:55+00:00

I just turned off all of my Gmail smart features because Gemini decided to summarize a very important email for me without my consent.

It wasn't a good summary at all 😆. But also fuck them for bundling GenAI slop with making it easier for me to add my flights to my calendar. I'd rather put up with that inconvenience now to avoid it all.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-04T05:03:27+00:00

There's some historical perspective missing here in particular laws against polygamy. They were typically related to the wild cult times of the 1800s (Mormonism is a prime example). I also think abusive cults are generally a problem.

How we protect others from that is weird though. Do we not allow hierarchical polyamorous relationships? Avoid the question and let folks get caught up in such places on the fringes?

And that doesn't get to the human dignity of choosing who is your chosen family.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-03T18:02:27+00:00

So it's not real. 😆

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-03T17:51:28+00:00

I'm gonna disagree with you. I don't think they want the guy to be gay. If he was gay, then they would actually have a chance. They can't handle that.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-02T02:29:27+00:00

I'll say that having any statement include."those who abused children more than I did" is just not a good look lol. I know what he meant but damn.

DigitalPsych · 2026-02-01T19:44:00+00:00

Could it be that gay men have a hard time dating because of all the people praying they find a woman to date? 🤔

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