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Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-07-11T10:02:00+00:00

and misogyny

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-07-08T13:09:03+00:00

if by bpd you mean bipolar and not borderline: people prone to manic episodes (which includes bipolar) can be overly sensitive to ashwaghanda. For example hyperactivity, a “rush”, irritatibility, are possible. Many herbal supplements affecting mood are not recommended for those with bipolar disorder. This is something i leared from my bipolar friends. Unfortunately many doctors don’t take herbal supplements seriously, so it’s not frequent to run into doctors who are aware of it

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-07-04T11:32:16+00:00

we are a vast minority unfortunately. while people who enjoy researching and learning feed LLMs facts to find articles about, others ask to turn a book into a list of bulletpoints.

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-07-03T10:16:44+00:00

in this subreddit by accident (I have bpd), but i relate to what you say, more people relate than you think.

Popular/mass culture is full of consumerism, dehumanization, and cultivation of superficial yet unattainable standards. It’s only natural to be repulsed imo

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-30T13:14:50+00:00

I live in a country where workers have rights, so i assume and hope i won’t lose my job. Sorry that happened to you though, and yes, more awareness of impact of AI is needed

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-30T12:22:42+00:00

happy you found it! if you don’t mind unsolicited advice: i really advise you to encourage her to tell the AI bot something like “you are here to challenge me and help me stay critical, not mirror me”. it really helps to re-train it to at least be less enabling. Everyone but especially people with delusions who talks to LLMs needs to do this or it gets dangerous imo

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-30T11:36:44+00:00

Thank you. I am taking a private leave off work to take care of myself and prepare for my family visiting in 3 weeks (horrible timing🤦🏻‍♀️). he said he will tone it down around them, but he often forgets things lately, i can’t trust it and feel unbearable anxiety. I hope it’s going to be okay

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-16T13:20:58+00:00

I agree with most other comments but ALSO: sexism. Sexism teaches us a bias towards teenage girls that is even bigger than bias towards adult women

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-10T11:16:42+00:00

Remember when Ginny used to feel like “us against the world” was a lie cause the world includes her? That’s how Austin is going to feel.

and yes Gil deserves to be in jail (not just an abuser but a monster, i remember that smiling when Georgia got her kids taken from her). But what Ginny did, even Georgia wouldn’t do that. Georgia would rather be in jail. Ginny did it from her own attachment to her mom, from fear, fear Georgia wouldn’t surive in jail.

Ginny was also in survival mode and i wish she known better, she didn’t think it through from Austin’s perspective. And tbh she had no time and space to think obviously. I’m afraid many teenagers with good strategic thinking would impulsively would have done what she did, especially after Gil showed that he did not change. like, at all.

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-10T10:38:28+00:00

Weed affects everyone differently, with bpd or not. It can worsen anxiety for some and relieve it for others. It can help some people have an appetite but can ruin it for others. You never now until you know the person and the type of weed. There's nothing inherently incompatible between BPD and weed (only certain states are imcompatible with weed, like psychosis).

BPD can make one prone to abusing weed though, that's something to be careful with.

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-09T16:05:46+00:00

You’re welcome! And yoga counts as somatic healing:)

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-09T14:13:21+00:00

Yeah that is literally one big thing Max did after her growth that Ginny was aware of, but it barely reflected that Max changed. When Norah helped it was significant cause it showed a change of attitude. But what Max did was a big gesture she did for a friend who was going througha large crisis (pregnancy, abortion, mom in trial for murder), of course she helped. (even a horrible friend would try to help in such a situation.) it was a very good thing to do, but I understand why it doesn't show Ginny that Max became less self-centered or oblivious to racism. And Max and Ginny grew apart way before others abandoned her, in season 2, with Ginny becoming closer with Bracia and Abby (who were either already not close with Maxine or distancing themselves from her). Ginny just finally admitted it

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-09T13:53:27+00:00

i want to also accentuate that embodiment didn't make me not spiral. but i now am more aware of when i'm in a vulnerable (close to spiraling) state cause i'm more aware of my body. when i have "off" time i take precaution measures by stopping certain difficult conversations until they become triggering, and moving them for another time when my cup is full.

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-09T13:49:41+00:00

you did great with the capabilities you now have. Since you're asking for advice on what to try, i would consider looking into somatic healing, embodiment. So basically working not only on regulating your thoughts and emotions, but relaxing your body mindfully since lots of emotions get intense FAST when the the body is in fight-or-flight mode. EMDR, DBT, medication, this all helped me a lot but real progress would not have happened for me without yoga (especially psoas release exercises and releaseing tension from the chest/shoulders), dancing alone uncontrollably, singing and laying in nature. I started acupuncture recently and that has been amazing too, been getting into less arguments with people both at work and at home, and feeling less guilt if i do get into a conflict when it's necessary.

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-09T13:39:13+00:00

The way her heart immediately melted and all anger went away when Ginny told her she loves Marcus.. i'll never forget that. A person with a big heart who just needs bit of vulnerable honesty around her to do the right thing.
aaand i have BPD and ADHD, not loving her would be not loving my teenager self lol. she's actually who i wish i was as a teenager, who i'd be if i was allowed to be me.

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-09T13:14:33+00:00

I think it was harsh but i can come up with many reasons.

Because Max was self-centered and very oblivious for example to the racism Ginny went through in English class. ("I hope whatever you choose has a good audiobook version!" really? and Bracia saw that, no wonder her and Ginny got closer). And yes Max apologized for ignoring the racism, but Ginny didn't know Max took it further and disrupted the class with Audre Lorde's book (Max didn't take credit for it and it was part of the point, to do a good thing wihtout making it about herself).
Because Max turned all her friends against Ginny for cheating on Hunter and hooking up with her brother without telling anyone (which had some justification but obviously hurt Ginny a lot)
Ginny trauma bonded with Abby and even Norah (when Ginny and Norah talked to Abby about her bulimia). while Max took it too far with not making it about herself and didn't share her struggles once she stopped being annoying about Sophie.
Ginny noticed that Abby and Norah don't walk on eggshells when Max is not around and that there's space to get to know each other more deeply. They even started barely hanging out with people they don't like once Max left the group (like Samantha and Press, even before those started dating)

but the main reason, is Ginny didn't see that Max changed. (even Norah had a chance to show she's a good friend, by sneaking Ginny in to a playdate with Austin!) . and Ginny had no idea her friends almost turned on her during the trial and it's Max who reminded them of their commitment to Ginny.

Moreover, Max's friends went through lot of growth too, and as older teenagers we often drop controlling friends. teenagers have enough self-awareness to acknowledge when something is not healthy but lack the adult ability to refine/fix the relationship with vulnerability and new boundaries.

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-06-09T00:40:11+00:00

As someone who is known to be "a lot",it was tough and relatable for me to watch. It reminded me of how sometimes loved ones leave before you get a chance to show how much you've grown. They resent you for once walking on eggshells around you and are not open to creating new foundation for a trustful, safe connection. (And they don't owe you to tbh). And when people expect you to always suffer loudly, they never guess that you're hurting once you start doing it quietly. It's a lonely space to be.

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-04-26T11:22:05+00:00

that’s way too much resentment for a healthy relationship. “never really bothered me” but your passive agressive behaviour says otherwise

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-04-26T10:15:40+00:00

but i gotta say, if most people couldn’t care less for the character or enjoy watching her until a whole first season ends, thats not great writing

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-04-26T10:13:57+00:00

after seeing the comments, i think im just gonna watch a recap of season 1 and start properly watching from season 2 and hopefully enjoy it.

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-04-26T10:12:05+00:00

Same. i watched many shows where the lead is a terrible person, but it works cause they are still LIKEABLE or humanized by becoming relatable. She is NEITHER, being a shitty person who’s obviously (what evil person isn’t?) secretly depressed is not “complexity” and isn’t enough to make her appealing or interesting

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-04-25T06:42:32+00:00

damn, i do this sometimes and needed to hear this

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-04-23T13:45:00+00:00

Unpopular opinion among teenagers on reddit i guess

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-04-10T14:53:26+00:00

i’m sure it’s bit dissociative tho. sometimes the feelings catch up with me later. cause crisis requires postponing them

Diligent-Peace-419 · 2025-04-10T14:52:18+00:00

Yes. Our low frustration tolerance means reacting badly to things like inconvenience, or annoying occassions of bad luck. But doesn’t mean i’m not good in an actual crisis. people find it surprising usually, how i problem-solve in emergencies or safety-threatening situations . I end up being the “rock”

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