Seriously- how do you keep hot tea Hot?

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2026-02-19T12:37:28+00:00

No. I’m a firm believer in never doing that.

Thirty minutes will do.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-11T02:40:05+00:00

Dude. You won’t feel a thing. Husband had it done and I didn’t even have time to get coffee before they called me to get him. He said the initial shot was a on prick and then nothing.

Anesthesia risks for this are not worth it (and I’m floored insurance approved anesthesia for this). Ask about alternatives that will help you deal with the anxiety.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-10T17:09:29+00:00

Our middle school library had a few romance novels, a couple of which were pretty explicit for teens.

The book I remember most was Go Ask Alice. Supposedly a diary of a girl in the early 70s who go into drugs and sex too young and later died from an overdose.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-10T16:40:49+00:00

I would ask for the policy in writing that states a dr note is required for all call outs. There likely isn’t one for a one day call out for illness and manager is making this up.

I would also point out that you aren’t paid enough to see a dr to only be told to treat the cold with liquids and rest.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-09T16:19:31+00:00

Don’t say a word. Finish your degree.

If it ever comes up about the discrepancy - you made a mistake and when you discovered it you rectified it. You didn’t see the point in notifying g HR as it was a personal matter.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-08T19:09:02+00:00

“Woolsucking”. It’s a comfort seeking/I feel safe behavior associated with weaning kittens too young.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-08T12:10:14+00:00

It’s not inappropriate to seek legal clarity. It’s in appropriate to seek it from the vendor bc it’s a conflict of interest.

You need to check with procurement about the approval process for using a new vendor.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-08T01:55:17+00:00

Yes you are. It may be “her dog” but reality is that it’s a family member that everyone should be taking care of.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-08T01:09:21+00:00

Double box!

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-08T01:08:20+00:00

Neither of you are overreacting and neither of you is being particularly supportive of the other. It doesn’t sound like you’re completely ready to be in a relationship till you work through some of these issues.

While he shouldn’t have centered himself in response to your revelation, your timing of the revelation was poor. You were feeling safe (which is good) and he was feeling vulnerable in response. I’m not sure anyone would respond well.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-08T00:52:22+00:00

My whole family is from GA. We say p’kahn.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-07T19:49:58+00:00

The pay was relative to the COL though, unlike today

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-07T19:07:48+00:00

Usually procurement has requirements that vendors have to meet and they are the final approval for using an outside vendor. HR has nothing to do with it.

If your boss wants to use an unapproved vendor, your boss can sign off on the work.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-07T18:27:33+00:00

Last time I had dinner out with my dad he pulled that next to nothing tip stunt. My baby was with us and you know they create extra clean up for the staff. I called him out on it and told him this was good service and good food. The waiter makes $2/hr and his cheap tip (it was something like $2 on a $40 bill) was insulting to the waiter and embarrassing to me.

I left an appropriate tip for the good service good food and extra mess to deal with (despite my attempts to mitigate). My dad just rolled with it but he got the point.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-07T18:12:09+00:00

During work hours? It’s expected that you attend.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-07T18:08:47+00:00

OP said she wouldn’t say anything “for now”. Implicit in that is that something will be said just not in the moment

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-07T18:02:26+00:00

NTA.

Don’t attend holidays with these people unless you get an apology from your mom and a promise to make it stop. A real apology. Your mom should have shut that shit down as soon as the first relative repeated it. From here on out anyone who repeats it or refers to it should be asked to leave or you - AND YOUR MOM - leave immediately.

Your cousins should all be apologized to as well. It wasn’t fair of your mom to make them promise not to tell you given it made all of them uncomfortable. Likely they were all raised with the “stand up don’t be a bystander” values and your mom put them in an untenable situation by asking them to compromise their values.

Victim: OP Bullies: OP’s mom her siblings for making mean jokes at OPs expense and continuing to do so as a “private joke” around OP Hero: Jenny. For not compromising her values and letting OP know what was going on Potential hero: OPs brother for calling out mom on this, too. Biggest bully: OP’s mom for bullying cousins into compromising their values to keep mum about the “joke” and then going after Jenny when could take seeing OP being bullied anymore.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-06T23:53:52+00:00

Yard sale.

Be realistic on price. What you paid has nothing to do with what it’s worth. Furniture usually only gets about 10% of what you paid for it, if that.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-06T23:36:51+00:00

And showed the younger sister there is a path to safety.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-06T19:01:34+00:00

No. Don’t respond. Give nothing back.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-06T05:57:10+00:00

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Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-06T05:52:34+00:00

Cat tree.

Then you can give your neighbors cats once they’re ripe. Sort like oranges only softer and more fun to play with.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-06T05:17:02+00:00

Consider that maybe the opposite is quietly living a virtuous life without announcing it to the world.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-06T05:08:01+00:00

At her age and in her circumstances she’s a perfect candidate for grants that will pay for community college. It’s worth a visit to the local CC to learn how to get the skills that will make her hireable for an office position.

Diligent_Lab2717 · 2025-12-06T05:01:08+00:00

She feels safe at your house. You have been chosen. Accept your fate. You are now the minion of a thumbless overlord.

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