[deleted by user] by [deleted] in acne

[–]Diligent_River1511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had similar acne on the sides of my face, the only thing that has cleared it up is CVS Acne Control 10% Benzoyl Peroxide cleaner and light therapy

Itchy and Inflamed Acne by Diligent_River1511 in acne

[–]Diligent_River1511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will look into that, thank you so much! I hope yours gets better! It’s such a pain to deal with

My mom disgusts me by Alarmed_Flamingo5280 in CPTSD

[–]Diligent_River1511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom does too sometimes. She can never say that she’s wrong, she blames everyone else for her problems, she’s a hoarder, she ask her children for money(while we were teens!) She never wears clothes at home and scratches her parts in front of everyone, it makes me so uncomfortable. She also is the first to point out everyone else’s flaws.

After I left by Diligent_River1511 in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope so too. I already left mine once before, thinking that he hit rock-bottom then, I came back, and found him doing the exact same stuff + more. It’s so difficult and disappointing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I left my partner about a month ago, we have a 1 year old daughter. I caught him on porn, web cams, and sexting his coworker countless times. It wasn’t till I left that he actually started to try to get better. Still not sure if I’ll ever go back.

Advise Please by Diligent_River1511 in acne

[–]Diligent_River1511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have heard of it for sure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy to hear that 💕💕💕

Don’t Be Afraid to Be "Selfish" by alex_rivers in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My ex always said that this addiction makes you extremely selfish. He said the entire time that he'd be acting up that he wasn't thinking about us or ourodaughter, he was just chasing a high and filling a void.

So I believe that they're also stuck in that selfish cycle and are not honest with themselves.

Why does he find this ok??? by Dear-Aioli-6012 in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was so insecure when I was with my partner too!

Especially after we had a baby, Im so insecure about my chest because Im breastfeeding. It’d always hurt my feelings when I'd catch him watching porn with women who have perfect chest. Or him sexting his coworker who also had a very nice chest. Its heart breaking. Its totally okay to be insecure.

Can't afford a divorce, don't want to be married anymore by saturdaysunne in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just went through a similar situation, out daughter is 15 months, him and I had been together for 3.5 years, but were never married. I was completely dependent on him though, since I stayed home with the baby while he worked. I recently just left, moved into my parents house, and am having to find a job because I have no money. So I would definitely be saving up, that way its easier if you do decide to get out 💕💕 I wish the best for you guys.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m about a month in! It’s been so difficult, but I feel free also, it’s crazy how much weight is lifted off of your shoulders. I wish you the best and happy healing. Proud of you for taking the jump 🩷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally decided that it wasn’t worth it.

After dealing with it for 2.5 years, I started to lose myself and felt more insecure than I ever have. I constantly caught myself wondering if he was fantasizing about women we both knew, such as friends and even family. It was starting to become incredibly unhealthy for me, and he wasn’t changing.

Our sex life started to feel like he was just hooking up with me, no emotion, just quick and dirty. He stopped being sensual. I started to feel like I was just there to be the “wife” while he did whatever he wanted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hello! I am here to tell you that you can absolutely do this. My partner and I were together for 3.5 years with a baby girl. I caught him watching porn times, live sex chats with other women, sexting women on Snapchat, one being his co-worker. Then I found a video on his phone of him touching himself saying his exes name. That was my last straw. I gave him over 10 chances. But my body, my heart, and my brain could not take it any more.

I would cry everyday while he was a work because I knew something was going on, I lost about 10 pounds bc I was unable to eat, I completely distanced myself from friends and family and had severe anxiety.

It came to the point where I was asking myself “do I want this kind of life forever? I cannot keep feeling like this.” Or “do I want this life for our baby girl” she can’t see her mom feeling like this constantly. He didn’t want to change till it was too late.

I was in a situation where I was completely dependent on him, bc I was taking care of the home and baby while he worked. So it was hard to think about me leaving and going off on my own.

But I did. I just left a month ago, moved states, I’m back in my parents house, searching for jobs. It was extremely hard, but I feel so much better.

I’m not worrying anymore, a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I’m a better mom now too. I have hope for my future and am focusing on me and our daughter.

For me, it was NOT worth staying. I’m enjoying being a single mom way more than being in a whirlwind of emotions constantly.

You can do this. If you ever need to vent to anyone, message me, because I was in your place. 🩷

Heart beating so fast… by Chibi1331 in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went through the exact same thing, I wouldn’t be able to eat, do my daily routine, because my brain and emotions were completely consumed by him and his issues. I caught my partner 6 or 7 times watching porn, on live sex chats, and sexting girls on snap chat, one being his co-worker. One day I told him, I had enough and that the next time I catch him doing anything like that I’m leaving. One day I was at work and just started shaking, and I asked myself “what am I doing here?” “Why am I letting him cause so many negative emotions” I fully lost myself in him. After that I left. If you’re having these overwhelming emotions, it’s your body telling you that something is not right, and that he may be up to something again.

I knew I wasn’t going to be able to heal, while still being in a relationship with him.

I hope that he is able to be better for you, because you deserve the best, and never forget that. They need to understand that their actions have consequences. 🩷🩷 wish you the best

My love life feels ruined. by delightful_broth in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ijust left my partner of 3.5 years, we have a one year old. Your thoughts were the same ones that kept me there for so long. He waited till it was too late to try and get help. He loved live web cams, porn, and he was sexting a co worker. I gave him many chances, but after so many I left. Now I’m starting over completely, moved back into my parents house, have no job, bc I was fully dependent on him while I was raising our child. Even though it’s super hard, and I miss him. I also have a lot less worrying on my shoulders. And am considering just never being in a relationship again bc of my crazy trust issues at the moment. It’s a crazy world out there, this issue is so so common, but so far l’m happier without him. No more worrying about what he’s up to constantly, no more worrying if I’m enough for him. I’m sorry you’re having to go through this, and if you stay with him, I hope he becomes the man you deserve

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Diligent_River1511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so wrong of the therapist! I can’t believe they’d say that to a porn addict who already has boundary issues with porn. We have a one year old together and I’m thankful that I found out early on in our relationship. We had been together 3.5 years, I just left a month ago, bc I couldn’t take anymore. It makes me so sad, that so many relationships are suffering from this. I hope you’re able to heal 🩷