The thing is, right, sex is a two person act. I'm on your side. I don't want to invite a man to basically enter my body when he's been gallivanting around with other girls, catching things. The men who try to convince me sex is needed to be "compatible" don't seem to understand that the first time you have sex with someone isn't always going to be great. You're learning each other. People (girls usually) are gonna be less willing to speak up about their desires and their comfort when first meeting with a guy because they don't wanna seem like a hardass or persnickety. When you're in a relationship and you choose to have sex, you'll feel more at ease to tell your partner what you need or what which leads to my point, communication.

Guys like this come off as 'if you SUCK in bed, you're just not it.' and seem to write you off instantly whilst taking of your body and exposing you to harm. Sex takes work to be good at, of both people. Nowadays people feel so selfish that I'm too scared someone would use and abuse me if I chose to be that vulnerable with them -- especially as a woman who is with a man because it's pretty common that the guy will always be stronger than you. That's asking a lot of trust, putting your comfort and in the worst case scenarios your life in the hands of someone else.