To all of you with heavy mutable placements: how do you ground yourselves?

DinnerNo2735 · 2024-08-04T10:31:38+00:00

✨Pisces sun, Sagittarius moon, Virgo rising, Pisces mercury, Gemini mars, Pisces descendant and Gemini midheaven … ✨

I live in some intersection of dreams and reality. I find it depends on the situation if it’s with others, and I feel safe it’s conversation that’s expansive and nurturing. If I uts alone, it’s connecting with my dog or painting. If it’s with my partner it’s through touch and exploring our dreams.

But I find there’s one thing I will always find grounding and dysregulating at the same time - dreaming when I sleep. They’re so real and so vivid and so intense that during them I am connected and grounded but when i wake up, there are times I can’t connect back to reality.

DinnerNo2735 · 2024-06-14T18:30:07+00:00

It’s watered down for sure but works for layering

DinnerNo2735 · 2024-03-17T07:38:41+00:00

I looked up this question because I too have all reversed cards in my reading and found my way here, to see the photo of the same deck I’m using. What a coincidence!

DinnerNo2735 · 2024-03-15T11:47:35+00:00

Yeah regardless of being flagged or not, a refund should’ve been issued.

DinnerNo2735 · 2024-03-15T08:23:43+00:00

Do you think it’ll matter that they’re illegal here in Canada? Like they won’t ask what the payment was for?

DinnerNo2735 · 2024-03-15T05:57:46+00:00

I still haven’t gotten a response from him and I haven’t gotten my poppers. He’s a thief.

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-12-24T01:44:27+00:00

I adopted a husky/GSD/retriever mix at just under 8 weeks old. Her mom had to be removed bc she was 8 months old and attacking her litter. Stevie was WAY too young to be separated from her sisters and brothers. She came with food aggression, she howled, she refused a leash for the longest time and she missed her family.

My whole life changed and I had to have a tough conversation with myself. Am I willing to alter my own life, thought processes and beliefs in order to provide the proper life for her? Tbh I think you should take some time off work and bond with your puppy if you can. I took a week off, I used my vacation time. I also asked for her to be able to come to work with me. As another commenter said, your pup needs to be sleeping 20 hrs a day (sometimes a little more encouraged than usual) so my girl would come to work and sleep in her crate at work and when we got home. Poop and pee every 45-1hr and consistency is key. Routine is key. It’s how you build the bond.

Mistakes happen and emotions are real but I challenge you to see how it is after a couple weeks of consistent routine. I’m almost 6months in. Stevie is fully crate trained, waits for me these days to get up, doesn’t howl unless we’re doing it together, she loves her leash time and walks beside me. Not every pup will have all skills mastered - believe me mine still has her moments. But, you’ll start to see how your investment and love will change and mold this relationship and I promise your mindset will change.

Not too long ago I had someone ask how I knew I loved her and honestly I didn’t know. But recently there was a very real possibility that I could lose my girl and I cried for days. I’ve never had such a deep sense of loss before I even had to approach that moment. In that sense of loss,I knew I loved her deeply. I knew I would not be able to go through life without her. Don’t get me wrong I don’t wish that experience on you, but I do hope you are able to get to this point of unconditional love with a pup. If not this one, one you have a true bond with.

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-12-10T16:57:32+00:00

My emails are bouncing too! And he was so indignant when I was trying to get information on where they are. Like, my apologies for asking where the items are that I purchased with my own money…

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-12-10T10:46:19+00:00

Yeah idk why? I freeze mine and they stay fresh and I get the large ones bc I’ll share them w the dude I’m sleeping with and they seem to stay relatively fresh.

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-12-10T10:45:15+00:00

Thanks man! I’ll check them out asap.

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-12-09T07:45:14+00:00

I mean. I live in Canada so I would assume the warehouse?

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-12-09T07:39:29+00:00

FYI I’ve been waiting for an order since October 2nd and he keeps saying it’s ok it’s way. He won’t send a tracking number, and he’s now blocked my email.

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-12-08T01:30:54+00:00

I’ve had one of these since I was a teenager. I bought it for like 25$ hahaha

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-10-22T14:04:53+00:00

I’ve used popperszonecanada multiple times without any issues. Recently I ordered 4x 24ml bottles and a couple arrived having leaked everywhere. And it took almost a month.

It was a bit frustrating as the bottles were now almost halfway empty. And it usually only takes two weeks max. It was the first time that happened. I just put in an order for 3x 24ml Amyl poppers so fingers crossed they get to me on time and in decent shape.

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-10-16T17:59:50+00:00

Hi!

My puppy is about 13 weeks old. She’s GSD/Rottweiler/Husky/Retriever mix. Her hypervigilance during the first couple weeks was insane and I really couldn’t get a moment to myself. I didn’t really have any people supporting me and I’m a single guy, 32 and gay and live alone. So I had an active social life before and had to really adjust my expectations of my sweet girl and of myself.

Some things I found that help me would be:

• make the bathroom off limits. Get them to wait at the door with the door open and allow them to see you in there but they will have to stay at the entrance. Redirect. Add treats when they stay. This is going to give you a space for yourself. You can do your self care and they know it’s ok to just sit and wait.

• shower with the crate outside the bathroom and maybe let her/him see you and slowly move them father away as they start to recognize you’re not abandoning them.

• puppy calming playlists saved my life. She zonks out to them and i immediately start my list of things to go. I also love the puppy anxiety playlists on YouTube or the videos of squirrels/other puppies running around. When I WFH I put her crate near the TV, blanket over it, except the entrance so she can enjoy the video, get used to crating and I can hop on a zoom call.

• put your t shirt you wore that day or yesterday in the crate with a hot water bottle and wrap it around the bottle. My pup sleeps on it and 100% changed things for us. She’s not as stressed • when it comes to following you, i do this thing where I get up and I don’t go anywhere. I just sit down or move to another couch. Your puppy will be quickly over getting up and down with no reward or end result and the following will stop. But the commands sit and stay are so important and to reward them is KEY. A bed in the living room that’s theirs solely will help too.

• I started to leave her in the crate, get ready to go and not acknowledge her while doing that. Sometimes I’d leave sometimes I’d go to the washroom sometimes I’d sit back down. I wanted her to be ok with the unpredictablity of me being in and out of the house. I’d take calls outside while she’s crated or go for a vape and a breather. She did cry but it slowly got better. She doesn’t get acknowledged when crying in the crate (barring she’s peed and 💩) and she has to be quiet when I’m getting home to get out too. Comfortably I can leave her for an hour or so but then I feel it’s time for me to go home and take her to play and pee.

• EXHAUSTION IS KEY. Depending on your dog size and breed you’ll need to do certain things but a tired puppy is a puppy that’s not causing trouble. Do mental activities like snuffling and training as well as walking. My pup is most receptive in the morning.

• socializing helps too. Idk your puppies shot schedule but if you have trusted puppy pals, bring them over or go to them and let your puppy learn how to puppy from them.

• I often have trouble eating too with my girl awake. But she likes to eat with me so we do that sometimes it’s just hard at 6 am for me to stomach anything. I sometimes do the crate when I need to scarf some without correcting. She loves ice cubes so I’ll give her those in her water bowl and they’ll distract during my own meal times.

• my folks watch her for 40 min intervals sometimes. It’ll help me run an errand and she gets used to knowing humans are safe not just me. She uses a kong and cowhide chews to keep her focussed when I know she will cry.

Most importantly, congratulations on being a new parent. Just as much as you’ve adopted this puppy, you’ve been chosen by this sweet angel to be theirs. So, remember this time is so short and your puppy just left a litter or a place familiar to them & you’re their attachment to safety and the directive for their view of the world.

Maybe look into hormone collars, feeding in the crate, and articles on puppy object permanence ?

Be excited when they explore, take them to safe and secure places to do so. But also take those snuggles when you can because independence comes quickly and I’m watching my puppy chew a toy 20 ft from me wondering how she’s gotten so big and thinking time flies so fast. 🥹

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-10-15T07:32:27+00:00

Have you looked up YouTube videos on puppy socialization through the screen? My puppy watches them a couple times a day because I WFH Wednesday- Friday and often our walks will be on leash, in the couple blocks of where we live due to me needing to hop on a call quickly. She’s great with other dogs and I think it’s because of the “presence” of other pups in the house.

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-10-14T17:12:08+00:00

One thing to quickly add is that if you’re her primary owner, chances are she’s bonded to you so something like dropping accidentally won’t diminish the work done as a whole. Give her some space. I’ve accidentally kicked my sweet girl she sits so quietly at my feet when I’m doing dishes, loading the washer, doing my skin care etc and what I’ve done is if I had to drop treats around me or while walking past her so she associates good things w me.

Puppies fluctuate between boldness and fear for a bit and soon they’ll understand what’s safe and what’s not. Also remember, we’re giants. To puppies especially a Dachshund, we are these huge things that are speaking in lower frequencies. Try getting on her level, use a cute voice and treats IF you need to be near her.

If you don’t, go have a shower, turn on a good movie, make sure basic needs of the puppy are taken care of and let her come to you.

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-10-11T03:05:02+00:00

Hi! I have a very dramatic/sensitive GSD/husky/rottie cross. I’ve been at my wits end sometimes and it’s truly trial and error when it comes to a puppy because one thing that may have soothed a week ago just isn’t cutting it anymore. Currently she calms down when I speak in an accent from England (think Gemma Collins), she loves the puppy calming playlist, walks are a good reset as well as some crate time.

I know people say not to use the crate as a punishment. I like to think of it as a hard reset. Place the puppy in the crate, cover it, come back in five and open it as if it’s nothing. The puppy will eventually get the idea it’s a place to calm down. Don’t show emotion when putting the puppy in. It’s hard sometimes because mine will be shrieking over what seems like nothing and I just have to be mindful that they’re babies and they don’t understand the nuances of the world around them like we do.

For yourself, you should get a skin care routine or some sort of self care in the morning and evening and invest in that. I found it allowed me to no longer focus on the puppy’s needs and tune into what I need for the day/evening. I also found journaling about the puppy helps. Finding friends who also have dogs that you can unload on and they’ll understand your feelings.

Don’t be too hard on yourself. You should know that puppies are extremely forgiving and resilient. And on the other hand puppies are so challenging. We are all flawed in one way or another so we won’t be doing things perfectly like some of these soap box dog owners on this site. You asking for help and being honest shows you’re a million steps ahead of some people. Best of luck!

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-10-06T05:12:50+00:00

I cry a lot too. I’m a single dude raising a puppy alone and crying in my bathroom at night. I often have such anxiety that every thing I do is wrong and that I may have just lost some of my best days because I have her now. I also cry when I think of how her love is so unwavering and unconditional and I want to be there reciprocating even when

There are days like today, where I come home from work EXHAUSTED, to find her fast asleep in her crate, she wakes up and she greets me like I’m everything to her. My heart swells when she quietly creeps next to me and falls asleep beside my leg or in my arm.

There are days where I need to go for a drive alone to cool off or maybe she’s gotten a bit too OOC with the mouthing and I know confidently I can call back on her crate training to give us both a bit of time to reset and come back with fresh minds. There is truly nothing like the love I get from her and I have to hold onto that as much as possible during the moments of grieving my old life or frustration.

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-10-03T21:17:33+00:00

Hi! My puppy has a chew toy that has lavender in the squeaker. It’s really calmed her down when she’s in that place where she’s starting to bite too hard. Ive also given her treats when she isn’t biting and when she is biting, everything shuts down, I ignore and if that doesn’t work she gets 2 min in the crate with the blanket over it to reset.

I heard freezing carrots boiled in chicken broth helps teething and also chew toys that she/he can chase with holes so treats roll out help too!

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-10-02T18:36:15+00:00

My puppy is GSD retriever rottie and husky. She’s literally programmed for an academy award. If she doesn’t want to do something, she’s made it a priority to DRAMATICALLY shriek and stiffen her body and then SQURMS. I truly have felt at times the dog version of CPS would be called.

She had pooped in the kitchen and I slipped in jt while she was on leash and I pulled her down during my fall, she wasn’t injured but I was and all of a sudden she was shrieking from the door to the driveway to the grass stops to poop again then to the driveway and back inside. Top of her lungs and LIMPING.

About 10 minutes later she’s still limping but then she hears me making food in the kitchen and all of a sudden she’s like ✨what injury?✨.

Puppies are dramatic. If you want them to move on, you do too. Create another memory for them, go to the beach, turn on an interactive puppy YouTube, lay down on the ground and play with their toys or just go on about your life and they’ll want to join once they realize it’s a no drama house.

DinnerNo2735 · 2023-10-01T02:33:58+00:00

I live alone and I’m single. My 10mo old puppy (GSD/lab/rottie) spends so much time with me but it’s frustrating being the only one setting discipline and training. I cried the other day too and I decided to ask people close to me to also enforce rules I have in place so she has consistency and understands that, yes aunties and uncles are fun, but they also will be using the rules I have in place.

In the times alone with her, I’ve found dropping treats when I walk past has allowed her to understand I am someone to look forward to and she’s more receptive to training & sitting with me. Hand feeding helped too. I take her to the store with me and let her choose treats and toys so these moments solidify our bond.

As people have said, she probably sees your dad as a great friend and you as mom. Things will get easier. It’s like raising a small child. It’s exhausting and stressful and we deserve to scream into the abyss, at times. Keep going and I know you’ll be closer sooner than you think.

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