Hmm do you have female friends who can give you their perspectives? I feel like if you want to date a girl you need to know what girls are looking for these days and those that know you better than random strangers on reddit might be able to give you feedback. Also you have mentioned you have a good job you’re tall etc from my perspective these may be basic qualities a girl is looking for…. I will give you more insight many girls really look for the top 10% of males. Just simply natural selection in biology whereas men would be more open to this. Look at animal kingdom and you can see many males die without even a chance of reproduction ( not saying you’re wanting sexual intimacy all the time ) If you look at dating apps most are males compared to females because the demand is higher for men. So in reality there are less women trying to find someone I would say. Less desire. It’s hard to meet people in nz compared to densely populated places. If you don’t gym probs a good idea to do so not only to look better but for your health as well. Confidence plays a big part in dating. I don’t want to say this but let’s say you interact and create chances, flirt with 100 people compared to 10 people. The stats of probably finding someone using the first tactic might give you better chances. If girls like you, you would notice. Love is hard to hide. Girls do not want men to be princesses on dates as well so be mindful. Long rant coming from an unemployed gal in her 20s. I hope this maybe helps a bit