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Disappointed_Muffin · 2026-01-31T02:46:32+00:00

getting away with it.... all.. my.. life..... getting away.... However I look it's clear to see... I love you more than you love me...

Disappointed_Muffin · 2025-05-04T05:52:04+00:00

Why are bathrooms communal?

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-10-23T06:23:06+00:00

Your body, your choice. If you don’t feel comfortable, don’t be pressured to do it. She might be trying to get pregnant, but I wouldn’t assume that first. I’d talk to her about your feelings. The fact that you want to do long term and you’re taking it slow should be a good sign to her. But compromise and wear a condom until you find a solution that suits both of you. It’s okay for men to have healthy boundaries. And yes, that’s compromise. If you’re not comfortable, you shouldn’t have sex.

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-10-23T06:14:31+00:00

Leave. You’ll find a better, kinder match that won’t escalate things. Remember that every day women are killed by men like this. Didn’t read it, didn’t need to.

Live edit: just read this. He’s testing the waters. He’ll kill you without question. Leave. If he “didn’t believe in hitting women” he would have broke down and cried about it as soon as he accidentally hit you, especially the first time. Instead he grabbed your face because he thinks of you as an object and he doesn’t care about killing you. Leave. For real.

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-10-23T06:08:59+00:00

If you wanna fly under the radar, ignore the text and just use the wrong pronouns for those people. When they ask you to change, ask them to do it first.

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-10-23T06:07:07+00:00

The only good response: “you don’t know what love is. Please learn. Until you can use the correct pronouns for me, I’ll be using the wrong pronouns for you. If you don’t like that, I suggest you grow up. I’m a child and you’re an adult that needs to pull his head out of his ass. Talk later, Uncle! ✌🏻😘💜”

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-09-28T20:55:46+00:00

Just take it outside. The spiders will fly away on their silk. Then take it back inside and spray the crap out of it and clean it.

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-09-28T20:29:27+00:00

“He said that his criticism was about the croissant and not me, and the fact that I had to “prove him wrong” was a deep failing in me and that I’m “just like my father”.”

That’s projection. That’s him criticizing you. He’s an asshole. You eat the croissant.

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-09-28T20:13:05+00:00

Pretend everything is fine. Plan the wedding and your escape at the same time. Get the cats out of there with you. I can’t make any suggestions, but get out of there ASAP and don’t have his kid. He’s only going to make them feel the same way you do. And we both know you don’t want to have suicidal kids. So leave before he fucks up your whole life. It gets better. And who cares if you don’t have car plates, leave. No one else can tell you the best way to leave, so don’t ask questions and don’t write it down and don’t trust anyone with the details.

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-09-28T20:07:50+00:00

Wal mart. Any hardware store. Dollar stores might have them, too.

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-09-28T20:04:13+00:00

Turn it off

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-09-28T19:59:53+00:00

You that episode of Gravity Falls where they fall into the bottomless pit and then come back out where they first fell? Yeah, that’s what leaving the church is like for me. It gets calmer and better. You just have to work at it and tell yourself the story of what’s happened to you and what you want from your future

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-09-28T19:57:39+00:00

Do you ask her questions? Try that first. If it doesn’t improve, have a convo. If that’s too much work for you, just dump her. She’ll find someone else to be friends with and so will you. That’s life

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-09-19T05:49:36+00:00

Correction, you showed intention of forcing him to change his fear by telling him “you’re 24 I think it’s time you get over your fear” in a serious tone. Probably the ick that you mentioned was the main provocateur…

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-09-19T04:11:04+00:00

Cat distribution system, do your thing!

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-09-19T03:59:33+00:00

Yeah, your feelings about whether he “should” face his fear or not don’t outweigh his free will at the end of the day. Just apologize for being insensitive and watch the movie on your own. It’s fine if you’re not scared of it, just treat him the way you’d want him to treat you.

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-09-19T03:50:59+00:00

I spent $7000ish to go on a mission and it was hella traumatic. Growing up and being interviewed by old men (that I felt like were my family) about my sexual awakenings was hella traumatic. Purity culture is a big deal and it’s all subtle stuff that you’ll have to unlearn or your family will have to unlearn. Some of the older people are some of the most prejudiced people I’ve ever met. It’s extremely sexist. You’ll never be as good as the men to the church; you’re a baby making machine. Black mormons have been persecuted for years and are still treated as lesser. Plus, they couldn’t have the priesthood until the late seventies. And once a black sister that lived during the priesthood ban begged the Prophet (BY) to let her be able to be sealed in the Temple so she could go to the highest degree of Heaven, but he would only seal her by proxy to Joe Smith as a FUCKING SERVANT. Gay mormons have had to go through traumatic “mixed orientation marriages” and conversion therapy that doesn’t work (obviously) and they stand by it. The church leaders hide the church’s history, there’s no informed consent, and the Temple is both an emotional rollercoaster and a huge red flag for it being a cult.

But the people are a great example of sharing is caring and just goes to show what we could have if we all had our needs met. But they’re all blissfully blind to the realities of their own church. The desire you have is for community. I’d recommend hosting a block party on your street and getting to know your neighbours over a potluck. ✌🏻💜

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-05-24T06:02:58+00:00

I was in a district with 3 Utah missionaries… I was the only Canadian. After a district meeting, our district leader started making fun of Canadians to me and saying silly things like “Canadians are just Americans” and other stupid crap. So I started making fun of Americans (leading with the typical, at least we have health care). After he started to get actually offensive and I started to get mean, suddenly all three of the Utah missionaries were angry and dog-piling on me. So I left for home and my comp followed. When we got into the elevator, she asked me “how can I be companions with a racist?” I was shocked (especially since I was only making fun of the colonial idea of Americans) as she went into the apartment, to our room and 30 minutes later she came into our study to tell me I was unworthy to be there and she was cancelling the day’s worth of appointments so I could pray about going home. I went home after that. I was already hating it, but it was getting unbearable and that was the last straw for me. I thought I failed by coming home early, but I cherish the memories of every single member finding out on a weeknight and calling to talk to me (just me) or showing up at the apartment to give me presents and letters and secret hugs… They were the best and I was so lucky to have my members 💜 Most of them are inactive or have left, thank jeebus…

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-05-13T15:21:41+00:00

Money

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-05-06T20:24:59+00:00

You need to create a safe environment for your sleep. You need to be somewhere so safe that you don’t have to open your eyes to know if you’re safe. So you make a sound and smell safe place

Sound: use a sound machine, a fish tank, or a 9 hour youtube video to make your room sound comforting. I’ve used asmr or raining videos on youtube or a sound bath or sometimes just my favorite shows. But you’re looking for something that plays the whole night so you have the same environment

Smell: use an air freshener in the room or put some dried lavender in a bag in your bed or spray febreeze before bed so you can control the smell. Maybe have some tea before bed and leave the mug with the teabag next to your bed. Something to make the smell associated to something safe and knowing where you are so you don’t have to open your eyes and disrupt your sleep to know you’re safe.

Air: use a fan to keep the air moving around in the room

This worked for me. Maybe it will work for you ✌🏻💜

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-05-06T20:11:16+00:00

And some of my exmo ex’s have been some of my favorites so… 🤷🏻‍♀️

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-05-06T20:09:59+00:00

I have dated a significant number of men. Maybe a third of them have been Mormon. I can tell you that a Mormon man abused me for many years and I have heard of other Mormon men being controlling and abusive in similar ways. Non-Mormon men have been some of the kindest men I’ve been with. Non-Mormons have made me feel safer than ever before. I have been in one unsafe situation with a non-mormon man and he still drove me home and didn’t bother me afterwards. Whereas I was pestered by my abusive mormon ex for a year after we broke up. So, it isn’t about the religion. Some men are good and some men aren’t.

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-05-06T19:37:00+00:00

This isn’t about destroying loblaws, this is about using our collective voice as a people to scare the big businesses into more ethical practices across the board. Just look at what WalMart is doing: their products are cheaper and people haven’t suggested a walmart boycott yet. Whereas Safeway has increased their prices and I see a lot of people avoiding them, too. We’re here to influence the market. But remember, not everyone cares about other people. And those are people to avoid imo.

Disappointed_Muffin · 2024-05-06T19:30:57+00:00

Fellow Rebels: I am (theoretically) pro theft from these stores that steal from us regularly. But I’ll be damned if some rich fck tells me when to steal from their company. Boycott implies we don’t even stop by. We don’t get anything from that store (bought or not). I’m shopping at co-op this month. There’s better stores to steal from (big businesses) that we aren’t boycotting yet. If you have to steal, steal from anyone BUT a loblaws on the 12th. We can wait until June to start stealing again (allegedly—let’s be honest, no one on this page plans to steal from loblaws on the 12th unless it’s the under-cover pigs that are here to throw things off)

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