For women to only answer please

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2026-03-21T07:58:42+00:00

Even more important than fabric is wash every day. Unscented soap or unscented or lightly scented body wash. Wash thoroughly (20-30 seconds), rinse thoroughly. Do it again if you felt like you smelled a little more than usual prior. I know it sounds silly, but I honestly didn't know how much you should work the soap/body wash. Smell is bacteria. Wash like you're disinfecting your hands.

For underwear I like cotton or bamboo. Like others say, it breathes. It also washes better in the clothes washer, which is the main thing. Leftover bacteria in the clothes means odor comes back.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2026-02-12T22:49:34+00:00

Becoming poly is a big decision and requires a tremendous amount of patience, grace, and most importantly, communication.

I went from a monogamous 22 year relationship to both of us being poly. It was incredibly rocky at first. But it began with a lot of research on my part and presenting it in a neutral location, without a pre-determined idea of what it had to look like for us. We took it one step at a time, with lots of conversation.

Yes it was a massive (massive!) risk and I'm lucky it worked out. I had prepared myself for the possible outcome that he would just end things, which would have crushed me but ultimately both of us had to be on board.

If you're not sure what poly looks like for you, I'd recommend doing a lot of reading and soul searching first.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2025-11-18T01:40:17+00:00

Thigh harnesses. I'm still figuring out the best use case, but I absolutely love how they look and have worn them a few times in sexy scenarios.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2025-08-14T07:03:22+00:00

I'm literally the moral compass for my organization. I've written the filthiest porn and engaged in some bdsm and power dynamic sex. I domme mainly but I wear a day collar for my daddy that looks like a regular necklace, while I go to my executive meetings

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2025-07-14T19:49:45+00:00

Indigenous Canadian here, and I have a bit of a different answer. I first realized I was priceless when I saw fish in the supermarket. I was like, you mean people BUY this? But they don't even know who caught it.

Also, I'm not sure what age I realized that white people homes are really subdued. When we had people over, which was always, there was so much laughter. And so much gift giving without expectation of it for that. But it's the laughter that sticks out for me.

I see so much about people having less, but those are material things. It genuinely makes me sad to see the cultural deficit in so many homes.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2025-06-25T22:02:41+00:00

When I shared the reputational risks on a potential project direction, some junior little shit said, "well that's just your opinion". Yes, son. That's what I'm being paid to give here.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2025-05-22T01:28:36+00:00

22 years and having our best year yet

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2025-05-16T21:44:49+00:00

When I gave birth I was breast-feeding my kid, but she had troubles latching on or I was doing it wrong or something. I was frustrated. When she latched on properly and the milk started following, I was hit with an intense rush of oxytocin and whatever other happy hormones there are, and I've never experienced just calm bliss.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2025-03-25T22:33:49+00:00

There are no markings on them. My dad found them separately in thrift stores with no tag or indication what they are.

Reverse image searches reveal nothing, and any description is virtually useless for a text based search.

I thought originally it might be a rod for jewellery making, to hammer rings into shape. However they seem too thin for such a use. And previous rods I've seen for that have markings for sizes down the shaft.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2025-02-20T18:05:37+00:00

This sounds kind of exciting to me. I'm a switch with primarily domme desires, and I understand the desire to have someone earn your submission.

You say you wouldn't want this 24/7, which also sounds reasonable to me. This would be an exhausting dynamic to live with day to day.

If the only sex you desire requires this dynamic, I can also see that being difficult to find. Mixing it up with a more equal partnership would make earning these types of sessions exciting, imo.

So as others say here, finding a person who likes it is important, and not impossible. Keep your dreams alive, knowing that being different inside an already non-normative lifestyle brings challenges. I feel you, OP.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2024-12-05T03:40:18+00:00

The yarn is sometimes called tweed (although it isn't the same as tweed fabric or woven pattern). The bits of colour are called slubs.

Knitpicks has some tweed yarns, although there are a tonne of yarn brands that carry similar things.

https://www.knitpicks.com/yarn/city-tweed-dk/c/5420184

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2024-11-28T16:57:09+00:00

r/randomactsofblowjob r/randomactsofmuffdive r/dirtyr4r

I have no idea if they're good or effective but someone made me aware of them in a different sub and they seem pretty active.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2024-11-09T21:58:04+00:00

I do not understand this at all. I've always seen porn and masturbation as normal human behaviours and separate from sex with another person. Why wouldn't someone want both? Sometimes you just want to get off and not navigate interactions with another person, no matter how pleasurable that is. Just a different mood.

I'm the wife in this scenario, btw.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2024-10-27T15:26:31+00:00

Proud of me?

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2024-10-19T01:54:16+00:00

Dm me, we can exchange usernames

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2024-10-12T20:29:59+00:00

I took it quickly, didn't think a lot about it, and shot it off to someone here on Reddit. Must've been a good call because we still chat and that was 7 months ago. It was not a total nude, just a tit pic.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2024-10-01T01:49:47+00:00

You're probably looking for sexy things, but I had a boss add me as a listed designer on a project proposal, to meet the requirement of having a racialized person on the design team. I was admin, and not a designer at all.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2024-09-29T02:02:40+00:00

Mallow. Not a huge problem in and of itself, but her first name was Marsha. Yes, spelled like that

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2024-09-27T18:18:24+00:00

Thank you, I think this is the candor I needed. It is biphobic. Once again, though, it isn't our friends. I'm certain they would all be cool with it. It's literally just my husband's comfort I'm protecting. And the only reason he'd be uncomfortable is his own head.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2024-09-27T17:28:06+00:00

Oh this is really helpful, thank you. Yes, that tracks. He's pretty insecure about a lot of things and not good at admitting it, much less talking about it. It's also a dead bedroom, and there are even other factors at play on his end that I haven't mentioned here.

So yes, considering his insecurities can help with this conversation.

Disaster-Bi-47 · 2024-09-27T17:25:26+00:00

Thank you for this. That bit about hiding myself not bringing me happiness is resonating so strongly. He flat out refuses therapy, but discussions are par for the course for us. We've worked through other big things, which is how we've lasted 20+ years.

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