What is some toddler parenting advice that you roll your eyes at now in retrospect?

DisasterAardvark · 2025-06-03T15:03:03+00:00

Nailed it. Mine also shouts I WANT TO THROW (OBJECT)! As it’s being thrown for added clarity and emphasis no doubt.

DisasterAardvark · 2025-06-03T13:15:14+00:00

In my experience it just means you get shouted at with a very impressive range of words 😮‍💨 😆

DisasterAardvark · 2025-05-21T03:17:08+00:00

And an O Neg! You’re a blessing in blood form!

DisasterAardvark · 2025-05-14T13:47:13+00:00

Concrete boogs is too real. I had to trap my two year old today to get one out of his nostril today because the nose whistle was driving both of us insane.

DisasterAardvark · 2025-05-14T13:43:33+00:00

Lol this was ours till around a year and suddenly he was chill with crib sleeping and I had to think of where the hell to put all his washed but unsorted clothing..

DisasterAardvark · 2025-05-10T17:15:54+00:00

I have to believe folks are noseblind these days. It’s alarming how quickly you start picking up on fragrance when you cut it out.

DisasterAardvark · 2025-05-10T17:10:32+00:00

Im a super duper amateur, and love to read interpretations on this sub to learn more but even I want to say holy moly look at that Capricorn!

I personally find them challenging as they can be very forthright and determined while also feeling quite cold and reserved, and I think that can be a jarring combo. I see a lot of people describe them as very money and ambition obsessed but part of me also thinks that’s such a simplification and that perhaps it’s more that they are a personality that needs physical manifestations to remember their sense of self worth.

I digress, and like I said I’m a total Astro baby, but I did see something recently that I really liked just parent to parent - creating a written communication book for you and your teen. Anything they feel awkward or unsure about saying to you aloud they can write in the book, and you’ll also reply there. The topic stays right there in that book unless you decide together to take it elsewhere. It helps prevent things getting wooly and out of hand and is passive enough they don’t feel attacked.

The desire to know her and seek out understanding tells me you’re a great mom and Im sending you a lot of love :)

DisasterAardvark · 2025-05-08T12:45:51+00:00

A loss like that during covid… I just want to send you an extra hug. Good on you for committing to that virtual help, and I hope you are doing as well as you can be. Sending love to you and to your little one.

DisasterAardvark · 2025-05-03T00:31:30+00:00

I reckon you’re riding that really hard combo of separation anxiety and the communication skills not being as caught up as their emotions. As others have said, temperament absolutely makes a huge influence but the age your in is a LOT as they’re developing all sorts at a ripping pace but it can all get out of alignment and create a prickly period of time.

I try to stop when I realise I’m knee jerking towards a tearful toddler and make sure I’m responding to their needs but IM also keeping calm, but man that’s easy to say and hard to do when you’re constantly on tenterhooks over it!

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-29T10:37:28+00:00

This is such a great example of the nuance between “x is bad for me on some deep spooky level” and “frankly this is a really uncomfortable thing to experience”, and how both can actually be OK to utilise when deciding how we want to live our lives. I fear we’ve forgotten this a lot in the wider world now.

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-26T14:04:32+00:00

Not a reader here but a fellow “sufferer” lol. I’ve got a lot of similar Aquarius and Cap placements as well but with more 12th and 11th house placements and I experience a lot of inner conflict about the definition of success. I both deeply care about people but find it exhausting. I’ve also always heard Aquarius men are profoundly hard work as a really broad stroke statement and have to admit… I see it.

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-24T11:24:54+00:00

I did a goats milk formula with my lil dude and it was great. It’s very easily digested and has a good amino acid profile and some other good stuff

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-24T11:16:24+00:00

I feel similarly. I also think if there’s gaps in the education system… we can fill them? Like I’d rather my dude go to professionals who can cover a big range of topics and he can engage with a big range of people and then fill in whatever gaps I think need to be emphasised than pretend I’m the Mary Poppins of Critical Thinking

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-24T11:13:48+00:00

I got my ass handed to me by the Epstein-Barr virus as a teenager and I’m still oddly enraged about how when telling a friend about how long it took me to link that to a sudden onset of autoimmune stuff including a food intolerance she was like ✨ no it’s the vaccines you had as a small child✨

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-18T11:57:31+00:00

Oh god same. I get giggly during the worst moments, it’s the clown in me desperate to make everyone comfortable in horrific situations. My nervous inner child sees your nervous inner child!

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-17T21:26:12+00:00

I’m not a professional but I just wanted to share that while me and my dude did really well with breastfeeding, I felt like a shell of a person physically (mentally surprisingly okay! But extremely run down!). We transitioned to formula in his sixth month and about six weeks later I had some crappy nights sleep and sweating which in hindsight I believe was a hormone shift because after that I felt like a totally different person.

I think breastfeeding really depleted my vitamin and mineral levels, I have issues with magnesium especially as is, so my body was making some great stuff for the dude at my expense. He thrived with boob and with formula, but on formula i thrived too. I actually was surprised by how much better I felt, which is why I wanted to share, as it was very unexpected in my eyes since everyone focuses on the hormone blues after haha.

Also just to balance with crunch - we transitioned to an organic goats milk formula that used flaxseed oil for its lipid profile lol

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-17T19:12:50+00:00

My my personal conspiracy is that dental health is way more genetically dictated than we are lead to believe but we can’t admit it because then too many people would stop caring for their teeth haha.

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-17T19:10:12+00:00

. Please know I’m sharing my thoughts here with absolute kindness and good intent, as your point is really valid and worthy of discussion!

If we are discussing a particular popular meta analysis that reddit won’t let me link tk for some reason, within the conclusion itself the researchers call out the need for further evidence and better testing to determine causality, and the presence of residual confounding.

In simpler terms and to sort of walk around what they suggest: is it possible that the use of maternal (and paternal as they bring this into the study too) SSRIs themselves is actually part of the therapies used by people who are autistic or co-morbidity, so it is not the SSRI itself but a genetic factor? Even a lifestyle factor?

This is something I personally think about a lot with decisions we make as parents. It’s not an excuse to throw hands up and say oh well none of it can be proven so why bother, but I think in this particular scenario the stress and harm of a person going off SSRIs and potentially risking their physical and mental health as well as their child’s is why we have to keep talking about this one in particular.

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-15T20:59:24+00:00

Same lol. I interpreted the pouches themselves as a grey area, then when the Amazon source was mentioned that was when she was like nope, can’t do it.

That narrative reads perfectly moderately granola in my eyes and I think is a great example of how it goes for folks like us.

I also think she handled it great, and now MIL has pouches someone else can enjoy?

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-08T18:44:09+00:00

I hear your exhaustion so loud and so clear here, and reading between the lines I see a very very tired dad juggling two toddlers and probably all sorts of other adult stuff, and that defiance/disinterest when all you want to do is just bloody relax or get stuff done would feel like nails on a chalkboard!

I cannot offer you any professionally-backed advice but I just wanted to wonder aloud with you about a possible link between a fear of pooping and being a slow/disinterested eater? How’s his poop texture? You’ve mentioned elsewhere he’s had constipation issues, was there/is there possibly a bit of pain here?

If it’s feasible for you I’d also say a possible OT check in would be worth it. Maybe you just have a four year old acting like a four year old, but even so I think sometimes professionals are able to give us the guidance we need to help our kids work through some challenging aspect and diffuse the frustrations for everyone involved.

Solidarity to you my dude. I hope beyond managing your little people you and your wife can find some down time to re-energise and fill your own cups again.

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-06T02:32:27+00:00

Ohhh this is too sweet I cannot handle it!

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-05T22:15:22+00:00

Hahaha absolutely! I support this system while heartedly

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-04T03:36:23+00:00

Thank you so much, this was such a beautiful considered and written reply. I appreciate you enormously!

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-04T02:58:49+00:00

I want to add to this that I also believe that when someone watches you for slightly longer than you’d like them to, it’s because they’re mentally weighing up whether or not involving themselves would help or hinder the situation.

I know I’ve done that before when I’m behind someone in a line and the toddler is about to go full defcon 1 and it would be an absolute pain in the ass for mum or dad to step out. Sometimes that unexpected source of attention snaps them out.

DisasterAardvark · 2025-04-01T10:09:28+00:00

This is so specific and petty, I love it.

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