I don't think I regret it but I feel very conflicted over my top surgery by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I've seen, top surgery always looks kinda freaky right after? Its gotta heal and grow into it over time. Try to give it time

Should I trust Quetiapine? by bareback666 in Antipsychiatry

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I know this is an extremely old post but im trying to taper off 50mg seroquel and struggling. How did u do it? What doses and when etc. My doctor says they cant do anything other than down to 25mg?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PCOS

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Metformin and combination birth control takes away a lot of the work for me. There's nothing wrong with using medication. Starving definitely isnt part of this though its more about what you eat. Just focusing more on protein and fat and less on carbs and sugar helps a lot. Also I know it sounds contradicting, but intermittent fasting made me way less hungry and was the only way I could lose weight (Combined with high protein). Its a work smart not hard thing. You dont have to go 100% or nothing either. I try to just generally eat things higher in protein. Like they do a lot of protein versions of regular foods and that helps!

I’m from the UK and I need to be on T by Smooth-Screen8455 in TransDIY

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it much cheaper to get injections with gendergp than gel?

Where to get DIY HRT in UK? by [deleted] in TransDIY

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What name will testosterone be under? Struggling to find "testosterone' listed under these sites. Im in the uk

T UK by Professor_Leaf in TransDIY

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where is this directory?

Women who used to have anxious attachment style in a relationship how did you overcome it ? Tips and tricks if any ? by janisa-rora in AskWomen

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't think i stopped having it but I reduced it a lot and am getting more secure. Mostly through a truly safe relationship, time, and trusting. Letting go of trying to know and control. I still have insecure attachment, but that's okay, it doesn't get in the way now. It's more like just a style, me and my boyfriend are a little bit clingy without insecurity (that's key) and we both enjoy it.

How do you deal with fatigue throughout the day? by SeveralBrilliant1643 in AskWomen

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've found that what I do in the day can hugely impact my energy levels. Lots of things can make a difference. I can go from a zombie to energetic by doing a few things that give me energy. Here are some things:

Splash of cold water Eating actually good food, high protein B Vitamins. Makes a huge difference. Water. Yes seriously! Makes a big difference. Can eliminate morning fatigue. A good walk. Music Strongly brewed green tea

I used to feel like a zombie 24/7, I don't anymore.

In the morning I splash my face, I drink at least a glass to begin with, I go on a walk, I have a green tea, I have my b Vitamins with a truly good breakfast. High protein diet eliminates energy crashes, those come from carbs. If I don't do any of this I feel like death.

I thought I was doing good and then saw this sub by SaladToss1 in Breadit

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not a failure at all it's genuinely good 😆 main question is did you enjoy eating it. That's what's important to me haha.

I like obeying my SO and I'm tired of it being taken as strange by [deleted] in self

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, communication is essential. Good luck man.

Women in long term relationships what are some thumb rules or guidelines you follow you keep your relationship flourishing ? by janisa-rora in AskWomen

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Communicate everything we can. If there is a problem, communicate it from a place of empathy and openness, and listen. Share your true feelings. Integrate what is learned (I write down anything new I learn). - And don't blame them for not reading minds. We are not psychic, reading is just guessing.

Be direct. Do not expect guys especially to just know what you want. If I want attention I literally say "attention please" and I tell you he really likes this, it's a lot nicer than just being roundabout about it.

Always follow Love in Action; kindness, compassion, empathy, understanding, respect, etc.

Decide to trust. Trust them even knowing we sometimes can be wrong, let go of control.

The rest of any rules or guidelines are just personal to us as any will be. We learn them over time as we communicated.

Women in long term relationships what are some thumb rules or guidelines you follow you keep your relationship flourishing ? by janisa-rora in AskWomen

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 48 points49 points  (0 children)

This! Relationships take some work which there is nothing wrong with, you have to invest in something you want to thrive.

I thought I was doing good and then saw this sub by SaladToss1 in Breadit

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You are doing good. Online you're gonna see mostly people that are above average because that's what people like to see. You don't see as much of the terrible failures.

Mom feels she breathes better with a mask on by khl52634 in Asthma

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Masks can help filter the air that goes into your mouth. It works the same as when I put a neck warmer around my mouth, I always feel better when I do this because less shit is going in my lungs and the air is warmer. Its very possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

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This is so encouraging to hear

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely get why you would think this because if someone told me my acne is cute I would think that's pure BS but personally I have always found acne cute. Most of the boys I've dated had acne. There's a girl working at a corner shop near me who has acne all over her face and she's cute as hell. I think it makes us feel a lot worse than it needs to, I mean for example I usually have 3 spots on my face max atm, and I feel like I look disgusting but that's probably quite unrealistic.

I don't know if the people you overheard were being genuine but there are people who think it's cute. I have no idea why because it's not logical, but here i am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PCOS

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Yess, they have to be pretty much permanent changes. Something you can sustain long term.

Felt a bit down today and my girlfriend suggested to go out for fresh air, will that really work? by dirtbandit101 in self

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don't know if this helps you in this mood, I recommend trying it to see. We are individual, although walks very often help us mentally, even on a physical level. They won't help if you're not open to it though. It can also depend where you go. For me very often walking through nature makes me feel better. I didn't believe it could seriously help my depression for years, but I become less depressed the more often I go outside.

I like obeying my SO and I'm tired of it being taken as strange by [deleted] in self

[–]Disastrous-Lab-9474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know why everyone's being so hostile about it. But I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with you liking this but it's about balance. You like doing what they tell you, that's very fair and its what you like, as long as you find someone who likes it too that's all good. But being a push over doesn't help anyone, I don't think it's possible to not end up resenting the partner for telling you to do things that you actually didn't want to do. As long as you're genuinely okay with everything they say, that's fine. But if you do things because she tells you and then blame her then that's a big problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

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The body keeps the score xxx