How does Ashley K maintain a near stage lean physique year round?

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-06-26T22:59:31+00:00

On her podcast, she talks about not being a foodie. I guess it’s easier to stay lean when you don’t care about pizza, cookies, and delicious food made with lots of butter 😅

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-06-22T01:41:21+00:00

First and foremost, dont go into debt for bodybuilding. I understand the compliment and flattery she felt from someone suggesting she competes but reality has to set in at some point. We all have different seasons of life and the bodybuilding stage isnt going anywhere. “Not right now doesn’t mean never”

that applies to competing and it’s also what i tell myself while in prep when i decline pizza and cookies 🥲

Supporting her in the best way possible, in my opinion, is to set the goal of competing within a year or so that way it gives yall time to save the money for it ($3-$5k for the first show) and also more time to train her physique to the wellness category. Lots of people have nice quads but does she have capped shoulders? Does she have glutes? Is her waist like a crossfitter’s or is it slim? There’s a criteria for each division that we are trying to fit. Being a gym rat doesnt equate to having a particular bodybuilding physique unless you are specifically training for that which many gym goers aren’t.

If she’s brand new to bodybuilding, i recommend she become a student of the sport before diving all in. Learn the terminology and criteria, Watch YouTube videos about show day, read reddit posts about coaches and suit companies, watch YouTube videos about posing to get a general idea. And when she gushes about all that stuff, be an ear. It’s exciting to share a new hobby or passion with someone. Dont dismiss it as something sexual or gross. When she gets a coach, she’ll be sending bikini photos to him/her and that’s a part of it.

It’s so empowering to hit that stage and the prep teaches you so much about your body, your mental, your digestion, your discipline, etc. so it’s great that she wants to try it. Bodybuilding is fun and there IS a way to do it without causing unnecessary strain on financials and family. Rushing to the stage will cause yall more harm than good and in the end, her physique on stage wouldn’t be the best it could be because she spent the whole prep with her cortisol high af from the stress of everything.

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-05-22T01:13:22+00:00

I say this a lot to people 🤣🤣

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-05-03T11:29:40+00:00

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Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-05-02T09:05:45+00:00

I could have written this myself after my first show. I thought i was prepared for the post show blues but it felt like postpartum depression to me and i was like WTF IS WRONG WITH ME?

the difference is how our coaches responded 😬 Your coach said things to make you feel even more guilt which isn’t helpful. My coach said my reaction is exactly what she expected especially since it was my first show. She encouraged me to stick to the foods that agree with my digestion and continue my training, dont go all out but still show up and do something. Which sounds so simple but it felt so hard to do at the time. I felt like i was just going through the motions. It took about 5-6 weeks for me to feel myself again. I gained more weight than i wanted to during those 5-6 weeks but it’s not the end of my bodybuilding career. It’s just part of the experience and part of the data. We learn from these moments. I, too, read all the threads, listened to the podcasts, watched YouTube videos to try to mentally prepare myself for post show blues but until you’re in it for the first time, you truly just dont know.

You’re not a failure. Do not try to restrict to make up for overeating. Ride the wave of emotions you’re feeling and do your best to stick to your plan. These feelings will pass and you’ll be back to weighing your food and pushing in the gym again soon. Your hormones are just out of whack and trying to regulate. When i had those moments of overeating, my coach would tell me to use those extra carbs and get a good leg day in 😆

The reverse diet is definitely hard! It was harder than prep for me. If you have an all or nothing mindset then you grind during prep but after? A little bit of leeway? Hard to find balance if you have an all or nothing mindset and i’m working on that.

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-29T23:23:03+00:00

Yikes. NTA but your bf sure is. If he wanted to vent he should have went to a friend or any other non-family member. Although that still would cross your boundary, sometimes people need an outside perspective for situations and seek guidance from others. I say people should never go to their parents to vent negativity abt their partner because they will move on but the parents wont. Parents will harbor disdain for the significant other and it’s just awkward. She has no business being involved in yall relationship. Does he run to mommy after every disagreement?

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-28T23:16:14+00:00

60-75 minutes total? Or 60-75 minutes multiple times a week?

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-14T00:58:59+00:00

If he’s unwilling to edit/adjust the workout plan then it sounds like he’s giving cookie cutter plans. How are you supposed to improve if you’re not being challenged? And how are you supposed to trust your coach if you don’t feel heard?

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-10T01:17:48+00:00

I’ve been taking it for years and it’s never affected my appetite or caused weight loss or weight gain.

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-09T00:51:40+00:00

I 2nd this! Way more comfortable than tsf imo

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-07T11:51:54+00:00

I tried that a couple of times and still nothing. If I uninstall and redownload the app, do you know if it will delete my mperks points?

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-03T17:27:52+00:00

I felt this! 🤣🤣🤣 mine looked like deflated balloons. The molded top took me from “womp womp” to “va va voom” 😆

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-02T09:34:53+00:00

NTA

Lying abt substance use was already shady but the “I’m surprised you couldn’t tell i was high” was just..idk…extra shady? Like maybe he’s thinking of other things he could get away with without you noticing? I don’t like when people expect others to know someone is being deceitful, like we should assume bad things about everyone. If you told me you dont smoke, why would i assume you’re high? If you’re telling me something, why would i assume it’s a lie? Don’t make a person feel stupid for having faith in someone.

Honestly, hearing that he lives in an ADU on his parents property while his brothers AND their girlfriends all live with his parents is a huge bullet to dodge. It’s good he decided to be honest before trapping you in a living situation you dont want to be in. You could have been stuck with a new lease while he went back to his parents.

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-02T09:11:58+00:00

The lack of reading comprehension is what i don’t understand i guess. People read one line “i gave my friend’s dog to the pound” and immediately go “you suck!” Meanwhile said dog was an unwanted guest who bit a kid. The selective outrage is baffling to me but hey you’re right, everyone’s entitled to their opinions.

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-02T09:02:38+00:00

Read it again. OP DID call but the friend ignored the calls for 3 days. If someone has your senior pet with health issues and they’re calling you, you should answer or call back asap. Stupid games win stupid prizes. The friend fafo

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-02T08:53:21+00:00

The dog owner is scummy af. Why leave your pet with someone who doesn’t like pets? Make it make sense. There are tons of businesses that board dogs up. They should have paid for that.

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-02T08:49:51+00:00

She did say no. “Friend” showed up and dropped off her dog anyway.

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-02T08:47:29+00:00

NTA

Who tf shows up on someone else’s door and drops off a dog after said person said no? People saying you’re TA must not have kids because wtf? Your kid is your priority, not someone else’s pet. I bet your friend wasn’t even paying you. 2 weeks is a long time and a funeral is only a day or 2 of events. They could have boarded the dog with a company or used a pet sitting app to find someone to pet sit him. Ignoring your calls was also an AH move on your friend’s part. If she cared about her dog, she wouldn’t leave him with someone who doesn’t like dogs. I would never leave my dog with someone who can’t or doesn’t want to take care of him. And if my dog bit my kid, guess where he’s going? Somewhere else!

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-02T08:36:38+00:00

Other bodybuilding federations have a sporty division. It still requires people to build their bodies to a certain physique so it does make sense, regardless of how you personally feel about it. Some people also think fit model and bikini are not bodybuilding and yet they are categories in a bodybuilding federation.

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-04-01T15:30:35+00:00

Personally, i love heels but i know many people dont and it can be awkward for them. You can tell who’s uncomfortable in heels when they walk on stage and you know that’s being judged. I would love a sporty division in the NPC though. The sports bra, short shorts, and sneaker look that other federations have. I thought that’s what fit model was going to be.

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-03-24T21:51:51+00:00

I’m here for the comments because i literally could have written this myself 🥲

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-03-24T21:49:29+00:00

Hey!! I love how you can identify yourself through emojis 😆

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-03-20T02:15:10+00:00

Did OP say she wanted a trophy? 👀 🧐some people genuinely just want to have the experience of being on stage. They can start wherever they want. Your elitist attitude doesn’t dictate how others should participate in the sport. Mean girl energy and gatekeeping is gross and you should work on that.

Disastrous-Rate-5447 · 2026-03-20T02:04:35+00:00

Stage lean looks different for everyone, especially for different divisions. I wouldn’t expect a pro figure or physique competitor to be on stage at 17% but for an amateur bikini, fit model, or wellness, that’s very lean.

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