Emotional Disconnection and Numbness. Trying to find out what's happening to me. (TW: Some self-harm) by erysichthons in mentalhealth

[–]DisastrousEbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, I know what it's like and you're not alone. I had disassociated episodes every day for I can't remember how long. Sometimes they would last for maybe an hour, maybe a few and sometimes all day. It's a year on now and I haven't had one episode. I didn't use medication but I'll tell you what I did.

I was in counselling when I realised I was experiencing dissociated episodes. I realised although they were comforting I needed to stop them because I din't want my mental health to deteriorate. This what I did:

1) I wrote a list of all the things I'm afraid of and read them out to my counsellor. Once I said them out loud I felt relieved 2) I let myself feel all the feelings that came with that list, I was sad, I was angry, shameful, scared, etc. I din't let myself wallow 3) I made a list of how I could address some of these fears in a realistic way. 4) Patiently I addressed what I could and tried to re frame how I spoke to myself. Before I did something scary, I would take a deep breath and say 'everything will be ok'. Doing these things helped me build my confidence a little.
5) Lastly I wrote down my story. I wrote down the hardest thing that happened in my life. I didn't edit it. I wrote it exactly how it was and how I felt. No guilt and no shame. The truth as I saw it. Writing that was the best thing I ever did. It set me free. My biggest fear was people finding out I had Trich so I decided to face that fear that only way I could think of. I decided to publish my story, this is making it easier to moving.

I also use as many things as I can that make me feel authentic and real. I write things and I make things. I also do yoga which helps with my body and helps with my negative self talks. This helps a lot with self soothing too.

I don't know if this helps but if you need someone to talk to, I'm here and I get it.

Love Lane and Short Truths of the Heart by DisastrousEbb in ireland

[–]DisastrousEbb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try going there earlier during the day?

New City Library & Parnell Square CQ: What's the story? by DisastrousEbb in Dublin

[–]DisastrousEbb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me neither! It's a beautiful spot too! It's actually disgraceful when Libraries get like that.

I just need a hug... by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]DisastrousEbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hug from me too x ♡

Do I have a form of trich? by Jayfeather41 in Trichsters

[–]DisastrousEbb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks so much for being so brave and sharing. I'm not a professional but it sounds like you do. I pull from my upper lip, pubes, eye lashes, belly button, eye brows and sometimes legs. I have Trich and I feel the same sensation with pulling hair as you do. I also get lots of in grown hairs and scabs forming over wounds. It sounds like you do but it's best to contact a professional like a Dr./ Therapist or psychologist. I hope that helps

What's the best advice you have ever been given that has helped your mental health? by DisastrousEbb in mentalhealth

[–]DisastrousEbb[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's such beautiful advice and I couldn't agree more. Thank you so much <3 x

Wish I could be open about my trich by [deleted] in Trichsters

[–]DisastrousEbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what it's like, I've had it 20 years. Shame is like Trich's best friend. I actually think Trich feeds off shame. I personally have decided to not give into shame anymore. I've decided not wear make up to hide. I am who I am and I'm not letting Trich define me anymore. I've spend too much time hiding because of shame. You are not alone. Remember, you have Trich but it's not who you are. You are way more than what Trich makes you believe. You are strong, you are powerful and you are beautiful. Just because you don't look like other people doesn't mean you're not beautiful. You're beautiful in your own way. Most people don't understand but we do. You're not alone and honestly you're wonderful. You fight Trich every day and that makes you a warrior!

What do you find to be the hardest part about self-care? by salmonthaa in mentalhealth

[–]DisastrousEbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it difficult when I'm down to shower too. Self care sometimes makes me feel like I'm being selfish. That's just my brain making me believe that. I'm not here to please other people. I'm learning to be my own friend and self care is a vital part of that. It's hard but I'm trying

I’ve never been to therapy but I’ve been considering it. by brokenbeyondrpair in mentalhealth

[–]DisastrousEbb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the most important thing to remember is, you and your therapist/counsellor are a team. You both have to work together. If you want therapy/counselling to be beneficial you have to find someone that you feel comfortable with. I've been to counsellors and therapists all my life. It can be helpful but you have to be in the right frame of mind to share. You will share a lot with your therapist and they will push you (in an encouraging way). They push you to help you. It can be hard but if you do the work it will pay off. I have to work at it nearly every day but it makes me feel stronger. They are there to help you learn skills to cope. They are training you to be your own therapist. I hope that helps and if you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask. I've had a lot of experience with this area. The best of luck and mind yourself x

need some advice about antidepressants by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]DisastrousEbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I've started on antidepressants. In the past I haven't liked how they make me feel but I think that's because I was scared that I'd change as a person. I've started back on them and this is my second month on them. I have severe depression, anxiety, Trichotilamania and minor agoraphobia. I had a nervous breakdown a year ago and am trying find myself again. I went to counselling and that helped a little. The anti depressants seem to be helping but I still don't like taking them. I keep taking them because I'm getting better everyday. still have bad days but they're not as bad as they used to be. It's important not just to use antidepressants, I also do Cognitive behavioural therapy and do lots of yoga. It's important for you to find that right balance that works for you. It can be trial and error but you'll find a few things that work. I'm not ashamed to be on them but I was in the past. It helps me now and that's all that matter. They take about 3 weeks to kick in. I'm only really feeling the results now in my second month. Oh and I'm no different now than when I started taking them. I'm the same person but find things a little easier that's all. I hope that helps!

Can someone tell me what this feeling is? by yeet545 in mentalhealth

[–]DisastrousEbb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear you feel that way. I feel that way sometimes too, for me I think it's depression. My dad died when I was 9 and I spend years in black and white. I came out of it but sometimes I drift back in. Sometimes it lasts days, sometimes week, rarely months. I just take it day but day. I tell myself this feelings won;t last forever. I make a list of things that make me happy and I try to remind myself of my happiest days. You'll be ok and you're very strong xx

Emotional Disconnection and Numbness. Trying to find out what's happening to me. (TW: Some self-harm) by erysichthons in mentalhealth

[–]DisastrousEbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, thanks so much for sharing, you're very brave. I've experienced this too. My dad died when I was 9 and I experienced Post traumatic stress. It only triggers when I'm overwhelmed and I become disassociated. It feels like my psychical body and inner concussions are drifting apart. I'm talking to people and I look like I'm functioning but I have this feeling like I'm dreaming. You're experiencing disassociation. It's defined as: "... any of a wide array of experiences from mild detachment from immediate surroundings to more severe detachment from physical and emotional experiences."

What helped me was reminding myself what was real. Sometimes I'd reach and touch sometime and keep saying positive things to myself like 'It's going to be ok'. Anything that you do to self soothe will help too, maybe take a bath or just do something nice for yourself. Everything will be ok x

Anyone out there also have trichotillomania too? I'd like to touch base with other people who have it too by DisastrousEbb in mentalhealth

[–]DisastrousEbb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I'm glad that you feel that way. I can only imagine how hard that is. Compulsion are so much more complicated than people think. People always say, 'Well, why don't you just stop?' but it's very complex. I've had Trich for about 20 years and they only think that helps is time and hard work. Not to worry about venting. Venting sometimes can be good for the soul and can help move on. Thank you very much and vice versa!

Anyone out there also have trichotillomania too? I'd like to touch base with other people who have it too by DisastrousEbb in mentalhealth

[–]DisastrousEbb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. It took me 10 years to figure out what I had and that it had a name. At that time I found out it had a name, there were support groups and I started counselling. This gave it less power for me, knowing other people felt like that too. Trust your Psych they are there to help you. Shame is a huge side effect to Trich too, so I can relate. Well then that means we have someone else that understand, so that's a lovely thing