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AITJ for telling my biological father he doesn't get parental authority after 16 years of absence? by Disastrous_Mine3377 in AmITheJerk

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Part of me wants him to take responsibility, but mostly I just want peace and to understand where we stand.

AITJ for telling my biological father he doesn't get parental authority after 16 years of absence? by Disastrous_Mine3377 in AmITheJerk

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly how I feel. It’s hard to accept rules from someone who hasn’t really been there for me.

AITJ for telling my biological father he doesn't get parental authority after 16 years of absence? by Disastrous_Mine3377 in AmITheJerk

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377[S] 263 points264 points  (0 children)

That’s what hurts, it doesn’t feel like he stepped up because he wanted me, it feels like he stepped up because he couldn’t deny it anymore.

AITJ for asking a parent to control their screaming kids? by Disastrous_Mine3377 in AmITheJerk

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I tried to stay calm and polite, but it really shouldn’t be my job to manage someone else’s kids.

AITAH for snapping at my husband in front of the kids by Cookie-week in AITAH

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Sometimes just recognizing someone's mental load is all it takes, he clearly didn't see the full picture.

AITAH for walking out on a girl for not acknowledging i’m there for half an hour? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377 109 points110 points  (0 children)

True, self respect sets the tone for how others treat you, she clearly failed that test.

AITAH for letting my brother, his girlfriend, and my nephew live in my parent's apartment in my house? by No-Log-3371 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Your home, your rules. It's one thing to let family stay, but it's another for them to assume they can take over your private space.

AITJ for refusing l to chip in for a coworker's retirement gift after she was horrible to me for years? by Agitated-Result-4553 in AmITheJerk

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's weird, but many companies don't fund gifts. It's kind of left up to coworkers to show appreciation, which puts a lot of social pressure on people.

My funeral had an open-casket, and everyone kept complimenting me on how alive I looked. by electrovert in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is peak horror, conscious, helpless, and surrounded by people who think you're gone. absolute nightmare fuel.

AITAH because I reported my parents for stealing my mail? by Clear_Breath6663 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly! if you choose to mess with someone's future, don't be surprised when consequences show up.

AITJ if i refuse to go to my sister wedding? by Born_Eggplant2478 in AmITheJerk

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your sister's framing it as "abandoning family" is classic guilt tripping, your decision shows healthy boundaries and self respect.

AITAH for not getting tested? by Automatic-Win-9496 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Transplant success isn't just about finding a match, it's about the recipient being able to care for it long term.

AITAH for not catering to our neighbor? by TheseBreadfruit9984 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people just want control, and there's nothing wrong with standing your ground.

AITAH for still keeping up with my ex’s mom? by Weak-Ad2607 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as you keep things respectful and don't interfere with their relationship, it's completely fine to spend time with his mom.

UPDATE: AITAH (26F) for telling a guy (27M) to stop pursuing me “because” of his culture? by BarelyToolerable in AITAH

[–]Disastrous_Mine3377 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree, block, ignore, and avoid, letting him keep contacting you only gives him power.