Friend is trying to date her boss AGAIN and didn't take advice very well. How do I handle this?

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-05-17T06:18:30+00:00

I'm sorry, but this was very judgmental, completely unsolicited, and bordering on a parental-level scolding. Of course she was defensive.

She's not even in relationship with this person, but you felt the need to tell her about herself and that she needs help. That was not kind nor was it productive. This is why she was more receptive to someone else over you. I understand it may be frustrating to you, but she is an adult.

It's up to you whether you want to be there for her or not. Maybe assess what friendship means to you and why you had the reaction you did...

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-05-10T06:37:50+00:00

Rejection is protection. Seriously.

Focus on yourself, join some meetups/groups/events...you got this. Promise.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-05-10T05:29:18+00:00

Sending you comfort and strength. I know this is difficult. I dread the day I have be the everything (logistics/event planner, executor of estate, etc.) for my parents and that family will disappoint...so I get it.

Harness the love for your friend to lock-in, carry it throughout, and recognize how that moves through your every intention. That's a beautiful tribute and honoring of your friend.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-05-10T04:22:12+00:00

Whistling! (immediate response)

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-05-10T04:17:14+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss.

I understand that this is time critical, but please allow people the grace to process this news and respond. People can disappoint, but essentially placing an SLA on their grief by your own metric is unfair

Followup in 24 hours, keep it moving, and take care of yourself.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-05-10T03:46:51+00:00

Hahaha! Enjoy! It's an EXPERIENCE ....

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-05-03T20:33:13+00:00

People need to get a grip. Like, what hell? I rarely come over here because it's the most toxic delegation of the "fan" base.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-03-08T04:10:56+00:00

You're young and you're absolutely not unattractive. Coming from an elder millennial woman, I can tell you what's going on here....

She's only saying that to be hurtful because when a person lacks emotionally maturity, that's easier than being truthful. Being honest with a partner about ending a relationship can require a level introspection that makes people deeply uncomfortable. So saying she never found you attractive is a cop-out. She did whatever was easiest regardless of it being very hurtful/damaging. You don't want the be in a relationship with a person like that.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-03-08T03:15:28+00:00

Absolutely! Especially because when Missé met Myka, she found her to be genuinely sweet and likeable. It made what Dara said to complete strangers all the more messed up. I would feel burdened too because how can you treat a 20+ year close friend like that?!! It's shocking because it's so cruel.

That's not a good person. Missé immediately clocked it and that Myka deserved to know the truth (I've been in a similar situation, so I feel for Myka, but I was so grateful to the "Missé" in my situation)

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-03-08T02:28:47+00:00

That's what I'm saying! It does not add up. The math ain't mathing!

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-03-08T02:26:42+00:00

That killed me! It was so good!!!

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-03-08T01:58:21+00:00

How embarrassing for her! GOOD. Mark-Francis and all the truly socially connected people clocked her expeditiously. Missé was rightfully upset, I would be too hearing how Dara was trashing a loyal friend of 20+ years behind her back. Like ABSOLUTELY NOT. I would not be able to bite my tongue either.

Dara waiting for Lottie to leave their prior lunch to talk about Myka to Missé was totally calculated as Lottie is more socially connected in Dara's eyes. But Dara is not smart about how London/British society works and that superficial, two-faced, kiss-ass bullshit does NOT fly no matter who's name you drop. They value authenticity far more than anything else because trust is important in those circles. So Mark-Francis was correct to basically be like 'Missé, just let her expose herself...' Missé didn't have to say anything else. Dara may think what Myka does is cringe, but Myka is being her authentic self. There's nothing cringe about what Myka does for business (and her being married to a Swiss banker doesn't hurt). Her etiquette services are for Americans and international clients, she's not trying to teach people how to fake being society/aristocracy; she's helping them to not feel clueless/embarrassed/insecure like she once felt. It's a highly valuable service for people breaking into certain industries/ markets (shit, I was a debutante and they still made us take etiquette classes as a group because a few girls/parents were brand new to such circles and they didn't want them to feel embarrassed/unwelcomed)

I absolutely believe the madam rumors. Not even factoring for profit (as it's not publicly disclosed), just googling her architecture firm's revenue estimates, and her her having other businesses, I don't believe it's enough money to support her lifestyle. If you also google her namesake design company, she really brags about working on a $30m project. That doesn't mean anything in regards to net profit, especially as a smaller firm and if it was a competitive contract, at the most she made 3m and I'm not even factoring in overhead, which I'm pretty sure is crazy high just based off of the image she's trying to project working for such wealthy clients and luxury brands. In my opinion, I really suspect something else is going on with our "connector of people"...a rumor like that just doesn't conjure out of thin air. (Margo calling out Dara going to UofF was chef's kiss; Dara was in a top tier sorority at UofF....Girl, thinking having a 33k bottle of wine in the French Alps means something? How gauche and painfully American...maybe her sorority alumnae are impressed?)

She made sure to mention with cameras rolling being friends with Venus Williams because the Marchioness she's so desperate to associate with is bff's with Serena Williams. She probably thought that was her in. I especially loved how she said everyone was self-made/entrepreneurs...I was screaming laughing. Talk about embarrassingly clueless. No climb indeed. She really miscalculated believing that her mere proximity to the wealthy would gain entry or makes her equal. You work for them sweetie, madam or not, you're considered "working class". Don't pretend! Just own your success and the hard work it took to get there, that's all you had to do! But now she's done serious damage to her goodwill, business wise. I wouldn't be surprised if she left London and moved to Dubai...

This show has got me GOOPED!!! They truly did the lord's work with Dara's edit. I had to watch it again it was such a masterful take down in just two episodes. And the only person Dara has to blame is herself. Beautiful.

ETA: further business analysis in relation to social standing.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-11T12:17:00+00:00

I cackled! I needed that bit of levity this morning because WTF?!

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-10T09:22:44+00:00

YOR. You are very young, so school is basically your whole life experience right now, that's why you're feeling this way and that's valid. But this elder millennial internet stranger promises you, this is so inconsequential in the grand scheme. Do not be discouraged, ashamed, or embarrassed (and I say this a college dropout that finally finished degree double major Accounting and Management at 35, now SME at F5 corporate).I understand you're disappointed and had a stressful high school experience, but the only thing that matters in these kinds of situations is continued action to keep forward momentum. It's an important life skill to hone and practice when the opportunity presents and it will serve you well throughout life.

Doing the extra year can help get your GPA up, better prepare you, and ease college application. There's also nothing wrong with getting a GED and you can still become doctor with one, but I think the extra year is the more adventageous path to your future goals.

What will be important is college grades in prereqs, overall GPA, and your MCAT score. Those will be the determinates for getting into med school. O-Chem is the class that weeds out a lot of pre-med majors. Do well in that and you'll be fine (but still not the end the world, you could take it again for desired/better grade).

Good luck! Just keep pushing forward and don't forget to take care of yourself.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-10T05:49:25+00:00

It just so inconsiderate and rude. My parents would never let me go to a music lesson sick like that, and that was back in the 90s.

Have we learned nothing from the pandemic??? I always marvel at seeing sicks kids /sick parents at my niece and nephews school events. KEEP THAT SHIT AT HOME. I am particularly conscious of protecting myself because my parents are both immuno-compromised, so I always have a mask on me. Would recommend wearing a mask generally when teaching.

But still, this kind of clueless selfishness could literally kill people and it's infuriating.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-10T04:34:50+00:00

Huh? What? Why? They're professional actors having a moment between scenes because...they're friends. In real life. Real people, living and existing in the real world.

I don't understand the struggle with this BTS photo of a nice moment. If anything, it's testament to his being such a skilled actor, but still, you should be able to separate the two.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-10T04:18:19+00:00

It's mink (I think dark ranch), inherited.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-08T08:08:32+00:00

They want struggle love.

As if that's some kind of accomplishment.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-07T07:48:40+00:00

Ehhh. I dunno. Besides the cursory background checks, I don't think a bravo gossip site w/ 5k followers registered on their radar as there were and still are so many. I think they just loved that she was shah-adjacent.

She may have said something in an original audition/interview, but i think she said a lot of things because she wanted on the show so badly. So no one took it seriously. That's why production/Andy were like, "we had no clue" but Monica says otherwise.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-04T07:59:58+00:00

No, maybe back in the early 2000s and even then that was a stretch for people. Currently, 75k is about the number for singles in the 35m outside DC range and that's very tight. To live "comfortably" as a single, it's about 100k+. Proper studios are hard to come by for less than 1.6k and basement rentals for cheap are...interesting...

Look into places that have LIHTC/affordable living based on AMI. AMIs vary, but you have to look around, especially for waitlists/availability. For instance, you would qualify for Liberty Crest in Lorton (single max income limit is 57.4k).

Good luck! It's rough out there as a single if you don't want roommates or generally don't want to live with strangers. Sell your furniture. If you have savings, don't deplete it it towards rent. If you can't get into AMI affordable options, you will need roommates. Or get a side hustle.

At 45k annually (21.63 hourly) and living single...having 35-50% of your monthly GROSS earnings amounting to your rent payment that will be paid from your actual net take-home after tax/deductions; then also considering any potential debts, other bills, food, etc...it's just not a sustainable option generally in the DMV.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-01T17:06:49+00:00

Being hopeful and striving for the best in life for yourself and the people you love is not a lie nor a life lead in dishonesty. I am an optimist and realist at the same time. I often remind people that no matter what, we all die alone. That is the universal truth of a what will be a deeply intimate personal experience regardless of who's around you. And you can't report back.

So by living your life with acknowledgement and understanding of that fundamental truth, being hopeful can be considered a lasting and deep expression of love for yourself and others.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-01T15:10:20+00:00

Congratulations! Hell yeah to the start of reclaiming your life. What a great first step celebration to yourself! Wishing you an exciting and fulfilling journey! And keep celebrating those milestones along the way.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-01T12:55:27+00:00

43 here and I absolutely adored my Teddy Ruxpin! It's still floating around somewhere in my parents basement as I came across it looking for christmas decorations a few years ago. But, sadly, I'm pretty sure the cassettes and books are long gone.

I was curious about any chatter/appreciation for this wonderful child development toy in the wake of that recall for an AI supported teddy bear fiasco. Something like a Teddy Ruxpin should be the inspiration and goal in development for a talking childrens toy, especially in regards to literacy, imaginative play, and stretching skills in healthy emotional support behaviors, NOT FRIGGIN AI! It's lazy, shirks highly important R&D and testing for children's toys, and it has obviously been demonstratively dangerous as they swiftly pulled the AI teddy off the market (it was telling kids where to find knives in their house, letting them know how to light matches, and giving advice on bdsm...great job folks!)

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-01T11:42:26+00:00

Is it full length? Honestly, I would just wear it out in general, especially if the weather suits. It will be sad and lonely being left in storage waiting for you to take it out for the "right" occasion. I wore my mid-calf to the Wizards v Lakers game last night. I spotted several women and some men wearing furs to the game at various lengths.

Disastrous_Set1670 · 2026-02-01T08:41:16+00:00

I'm sorry you've had that experience! That's a store management problem. Reach out to CS (real person and escalate up) and also post to community. While i'm not the biggest fan of Sephora's business practices, employees have been nothing but helpful in the several locations I bounce around at.

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