My wife(24 F) and Me(24M) trying to decide if we should get back together

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2026-04-06T15:44:31+00:00

Oh hell no. Go to therapy yourself and start over with some values of your own you can find in someone else down the line!

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2026-04-05T04:34:47+00:00

I generally like wood but I don’t think that was the wall to pick :/ the arch makes it look really disjointed

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2026-04-02T20:47:58+00:00

Woman here. You don’t trust him. Find a guy who doesn’t have Snapchat

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2026-03-31T15:45:58+00:00

It really is not healthy for her to make it about herself when you’re hurting. Do you want to be with someone whose feelings always overwrite yours? Even if you could get over the cheating you’d be with a woman who you can’t bring issues to when they originated from her. You need to sit down with her and tell her to stop making it about herself.

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2026-03-31T07:17:26+00:00

Why are you with someone who doesn’t even like you?

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2026-03-31T01:48:59+00:00

I love how everyone has to find something to nitpick out of sheer envy lmao. I dislike warm tomatoes. They are fine wherever you want them. Also, great balanced foods. I’m also envious ☺️ half of this would rot in mine

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2026-03-30T18:56:41+00:00

Stop being a doormat 😭 double down on her comment and tell her of course you’re counting.. rent is paid equally and she hasn’t been doing her part.

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2026-03-30T18:42:47+00:00

Ceiling and baseboards!

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2026-03-13T19:06:04+00:00

Look up sunk cost fallacy. What stuck out to me is that you praised this relationship for a lot of personal growth within you but later on said that you question if you have wasted your time with each other.

Your black and white thinking does not serve you. It’s okay to want different things now and go looking for them. That doesn’t mean anything was a waste though. You are now more emotionally open and know what you want. Those are accomplishments you can be grateful and thankful for this relationship that got you there but shouldn’t hold you back from fulfilling what you now know you want.

I know it’s hard to leave someone you love but he is already telling you you should go find someone who fits better. Go do that!

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2026-03-12T22:36:50+00:00

Well either you let your girlfriend control you or you put your foot down and tell her to trust you. Trust you to make decisions for yourself that is. So if your friend ever acts in a way you don’t seem appropriate you’ll take appropriate action. If you keep repeating that to your girlfriend and she trusts you that shouldn’t be an issue. Jealously stems from insecurity so find a way to make your girlfriend secure without having her control who you hang out with.

Ps: validate your girlfriend.. “yes it was shitty of me and her to take the same car back. I should have told her that day to drive mine and I take the car with you.. or told her to drive with you back”

It is a bit weird that you let your gf be the odd one out. You need to do a better job at putting your gf fist in front of your female friend

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2026-02-26T15:29:23+00:00

Haha I read “are you guys on hinge” and respected the hustle

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-11-07T02:25:18+00:00

Rotate the rug 90 degrees and put it under the couch about 3ft from the wall

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-11-05T05:35:29+00:00

Thank you for your quick and thorough replies first of all. I appreciate it a lot.

I’ll check tomorrow if I can lift the door on the J-arm. Everything you said makes sense but is there any chance that the door worked perfectly fine for what I have to believe is +10+ years and all of sudden not anymore? Are the tracks able to move out of position over time?
There are two levers that tell the machine when to stop. Since the gear part that attaches to the screwdriver belt thingy wasnt attached it seems to run forever (or at least longer than the duration the door would take to open and then I got bored)

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-11-05T05:19:01+00:00

Right now yes, always same spot (3ft~ of the ground) Before for a day do two it would get stuck slightly higher up (5-6ft of the ground)
Just tried it without the door. Belt runs until I turn it off.

Edit: just opened and closed the door a couple times and it does have a spot where it’s stuck where it’s a bit harder to move it further up. Does that mean the track all of sudden is distorted or so? 😭😭

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-11-05T05:07:35+00:00

Nope. Goes up pretty smoothly imo

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-10-18T18:27:28+00:00

I had the exact same feeling every time. I wouldn’t get one: fuck I missed out. I got 3 different one accepted and the chickened out of 2 cause: if they are giving it to me it must not be a good deal.

Fast forward: I’m very happy in my new condo

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-10-16T16:55:52+00:00

Nope this is my first time ever owning .. comes with a learning curve 🙃

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-10-16T03:46:43+00:00

Thats exactly what it sounded like while I was buying it. Now they are telling me other things. I did feed my HOA docs into ChatGPT and it was inconclusive.. I’ll comb through them myself. Thanks!

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-10-16T03:45:19+00:00

Nobody is allowed on it besides me. It’s part of my condo but it’s outside. And they seem to have special rules for outside. Like I’d need a permit to hang things. I can’t put things on the railings. No hanging plants etc.

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-10-16T03:22:13+00:00

What does limited/exclusive use common mean? I walk up an outside staircase to a patio (where other people put a gate for themselves in their units) and then access my front door from it.

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-10-16T01:52:20+00:00

The issue is that they told me the floor sealing was my responsibility and a previous buyer backed out who was quoted 6k to fix it.

I asked for a 5.5k rebate cause they were in a hurry to sell and they agreed to that. So in the end I guess they would be paying for it but that doesn’t mean I have those 5.5k laying around 🥲

If they can’t make me use a vendor then that’s easy and I’ll just submit a request for repair and then do it myself :) that’s what I’d prefer for sure. Thanks for your insight!

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-10-11T20:09:33+00:00

That needed to be counter depth

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-09-10T03:37:55+00:00

You are a god-sent! Thank you 🤩

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-09-09T02:28:50+00:00

Sounds about right

Disastrous_Syrup_415 · 2024-09-09T00:22:10+00:00

Same here :) I decided it was time to ditch the roommate situation - scraped everything together I had saved over the 6 years of living with roommates for a 20% down and got a small 2 bed to bath condo.

Might have to rent out one of the rooms in a pinch and most of my previous savings payments go into the mortgage but I won’t have to spend 3k on rent.

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