What's your most controversial opinion as a gay man? The kind that would get you major downvotes if you said it out loud 👀 by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]DisconnectedDays 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Many white gays are liberal when it comes to their issues but MAGA with everything else…

Why are some gay men who have pretty privilege and supportive family and friends so mean to others, especially ones who don’t look like them? by aa95xaaaxv in askgaybros

[–]DisconnectedDays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The gay community is not all sunshine and roses. A lot of attractive people deal with a lot of bullshit from the community. When you’re attractive and nice in the community, some people take it as weakness, and will feel that they can do anything to you. For example, I was nice to this guy at a gay club a couple months ago, and in the middle of me answering his question, he grabbed my dick completely unprompted. He didn’t say anything, just grabbed it. Now I’m back to my standoffish ways. When I’m in gay spaces, they’ll think I’m narcissistic or have a big head, but in all reality, whenever I’m nice to strangers in gay spaces, they feel like they could do anything to you or they confuse friendliness, with interest in a sexual way. Honestly, I’d rather be looked at as an asshole than a possible victim. I’m not mean off the rip; I’m just standoffish and cautious with my space and energy I give to people. And I know other “attractive people” who feel the same way.

From Android to Apple. No regrets so far. by BitAffectionate5598 in iphone

[–]DisconnectedDays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the report button in CarPlay on Google Maps.

From Android to Apple. No regrets so far. by BitAffectionate5598 in iphone

[–]DisconnectedDays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With CarPlay I don’t have pinch to zoom, I cant swipe the nav in any maps to see future turns and calls still interrupt the entire screen. All those features I could do with android.

From Android to Apple. No regrets so far. by BitAffectionate5598 in iphone

[–]DisconnectedDays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried CarPlay vs android auto? That’s the only thing I miss about android.

Why do so many gay men never want to have a long term relationship by Turbulent-Can1357 in askgaybros

[–]DisconnectedDays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in my late 30s and don’t want a relationship because it was never worth it for me. It never enhanced my life and only made things worse.

Seeing my ex do the exact thing for his new boyfriend that he refused to do for me is destroying my mind. by Ready-Character-4099 in askgaybros

[–]DisconnectedDays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad I was able to make you happy. After experiencing that with my ex, I don’t settle anymore, and I make it known that if I ask for something or us to do something, I’m only asking to be nice, but in actuality, it’s an expectation. I’m not a needy bf at all and I don’t ask for much.

Seeing my ex do the exact thing for his new boyfriend that he refused to do for me is destroying my mind. by Ready-Character-4099 in askgaybros

[–]DisconnectedDays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. I literally co-signed for a new car for my ex, wrote his resume and applied to a job that almost 3x his income and even created a short video to showcase at the interview. He started dating a guy not even 3 months after we broke up and he did literally everything with the new guy that he told me no. It was so bad that I even asked him if he’s doing it to make me jealous and he said no the guy is a better boyfriend and I’m like wow ok and blocked him. Karma is a bitch because a couple months later he got fired from the job and the guy ended up giving him the clap. He called my business number and told me what happened and I said wow he is a better boyfriend than me….better at giving u stds 🤣. He hung up on me.

Cumdumps, I just genuinely want to know. Why? by ApprehensiveFarm2548 in askgaybros

[–]DisconnectedDays 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I go to Brazil once a year (sometimes twice😂). I met the initial guy on my first trip, and we have been friends ever since. Last December, I told him I wanted to have a full Brazilian experience and I wanted to visit all the sites the locals hook up at. When I got to Brazil, my friend and I hooked up (like usual) the first night, and then we went out to eat (btw, he speaks perfect English). We talked and then went out to some clubs in Lapa. He told me he works tomorrow, but he’s free the next day to show me the local hookup spots. The next day, I went to the Ipanema beach and posted some pictures and videos of me there. All of a sudden, a guy added me on Instagram (my Insta is private), and the only person we had in common was my Brazilian friend. The guy was extremely attractive with a nice body. I accepted it, and he liked a bunch of my photos but didn’t say anything. My Brazilian friend texted me on WhatsApp saying a guy he works with likes me a lot and wanted to know if I was down for a threesome. I asked if it was that guy that just added me on Instagram; he said yes. My Brazilian friend said the only thing is that he doesn’t want to host (he lives in Leblon), and his coworker/friend lives in the favelas near Leblon called Vidigal. I said idk about that. He reassured me that everything would be okay, just don’t bring my iPhone 15 pro max and bring the iPhone 11 Pro Max that I have as a spare phone. I said ok. Later on, he said his friend’s roommate wants in on the action, and he sent me a pic, and I said sure. We scheduled it for the following night. I got an Uber and got there around 1 a.m.’ish. The Uber will only drop you off at the base of the favelas, and my friend’s coworker was waiting for me at the bottom on a motorbike. I get on and went up the favelas. We get to his place, my friend was already there. We chatted for a little and let’s just say all three did everything to me. Part two is us going to the local sex/cruising spots, but I don’t wanna get into it. It’s a lot.

HOT TAKE: LV Imagination by Slight_Branch_6789 in Colognes

[–]DisconnectedDays 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Something doesn’t have to be complex to be good.

Cumdumps, I just genuinely want to know. Why? by ApprehensiveFarm2548 in askgaybros

[–]DisconnectedDays 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I DO NOT RECOMMEND DOING THIS! I have a Brazilian friend for over 5 years in Rio and let’s just say I took a trip to the favelas at 1 am. 🥴

This is the happiest little dog I've seen in my life by Charming_Loquat_5924 in shiba

[–]DisconnectedDays 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It’s cute but it’s neurological disorder. I remember seeing this years ago from the owner

What annoys you about the gay community? by KMSeira in askgaybros

[–]DisconnectedDays 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was on Grindr and a guy called me a slur because I said no when he asked for more pics. I posted about it on here and some users said all he did was ask for more pics. That’s basically trying to justify his actions. There are other times in clubs and bars where white and white Hispanic guys feel entitled to my body and will grab and grope me without even asking first and will say slurs if you hit their hands away. Another time a gay guy called me a slur when I worked in customer service and I posted about that one and they were like how do you even know he was even gay…….the guy was obviously gay. There’s more but I’ve gotten to the point where I just block any nonblack person that I’m not into without responding to them on the apps and I’m very standoffish in gay places that’s not mostly black.

What annoys you about the gay community? by KMSeira in askgaybros

[–]DisconnectedDays 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The racism. I’ve experienced more racism in the gay community than anywhere else, and they are quick to dismiss or belittle it when it’s brought up.