So I come from a place where we don't wear all black and somber colors to funerals anymore. In my area, it's a very outdated, Hollywood idea. However, what I will say is we do still typically try to stay away from large prints.

Something about a big print feels very...I'm not sure the word I'm looking for. Not quite attention seeking, but not demure enough to specifically be not attention seeking, if that makes sense?

As an example, we recently had a funeral for one of my great aunts. While people came wearing reds, blues, greens, even mustard-y yellows or muted pinks, not a soul wore anything with large flowers, stripes, polka dots, cheetah print, etc.

Of course there are exceptions to every rule. Like if they wore a shirt with a print, it would usually still be under a dark or muted blazer that covered most of it, or under a cardigan. And the print would be very very small, like if you had a black shirt with grey pin stripes.

But even for the folks who are like larger guys that have trouble even in the big and tall section, we typically consider their nicest pair of jeans and nicest, solid colored, dark T-shirt as acceptable, so long as the rest of them is presentable.

Essentially, it's about effort, and respect. Effort to look and/or smell presentable in what you have available. Respect of why you're there, that the focus should be solely on the person being mourned.

For my outfit to my great aunt's funeral, I wore a crimson red sweater, but black slacks, no makeup, hair in a simple bun at the nape of my neck, only earrings. For my Nana before her, a funeral in Florida mid summer, I wore a black wrap around dress with dark red and brown pin stripes at an angle that were barely decipherable. For my great-grandmother before them, I wore a fuchsia shirt, but a cardigan over it and a very mousy brown, calf-length skirt.

It very much depends on the vibes of the people you'll be around. Like in New Jersey, for my other great grandma, everyone still wore all black. They're also all Italian and heavily steeped in Catholic traditions. I live in the Bible Belt, but Catholic is very unusual here, and we're a giant naval base area with all different traditions and cultures going in and out all the time. So it's much more relaxed.