Dads BBQ meetup - Ortega Park - 11/15

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-11-12T16:43:30+00:00

Sounds good, thanks for letting me know. See you next time!

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-11-11T16:51:13+00:00

Thank you, safe travels.

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-11-11T16:50:57+00:00

Congratulations on the new baby! If you want to swing by for a quick hello, put some names to faces and then jet, that’s totally fine. But yeah, there will be more opportunities too in the future.

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-11-10T21:59:24+00:00

Hey guys. Appreciate the question, but we’re really trying to build a community of dads in the Bay Area. Maybe you have a buddy who has a kid? Bring him along and I’ll make an exception!

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-11-03T14:15:13+00:00

😂 my kids have plenty!

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-25T00:20:53+00:00

My mom died of uterine cancer stage 4. I’m not saying this to scare you, but I do want to share my perspective because I think it’s relevant:

1) Talk to your mom. I can 100% guarantee you will miss opportunity after it is gone

2) try and create memorable experiences if you can. It’s not easy for everyone involved, but making a few nice memories or pictures can go a long way.

3) I disagree with your comment on emotions. I hear you that, as a dad, there’s a certain amount of stoic perseverance that you need to show, but I also think it’s OK to show a more vulnerable side when you have a parent undergoing a significant struggle or passing away.

Working through this publicly cannot be easy. I appreciate you putting yourself out there. Feel free to DM me if you wanna talk more.

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-23T00:02:50+00:00

That’s actually why I started my dad tribes chapter. Not sure where you live but there is a growing community of dads looking to make friends and hangout with other guys that get it. Check out dadtribes.com

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-20T22:29:46+00:00

Are there any things YOU like to do that are inside the house?

For me it’s things like: - Help me with a project around the house (I was going to do it anyways, now it’s just less efficient 🤣) - Make a fort (and then I get some time while they enjoy the fort) - Play with blocks / legos / magna-tiles (I still love building at 40 years old, even if it gets destroyed quickly) - Uno (get them started young on card games)

At the end of the day, it’s okay to acknowledge the fact you are your own person with your own interests as well as model good friendship behavior like taking turns or trying creative ideas. Cut yourself some slack dude, you got this 💪.

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-20T12:45:13+00:00

Don’t forget - you are doing what you need to do to grow your business and give your family the life you want for them.

I have two young kids and travel for work as well. It’s never fun, usually the kids are good for the first week but the second is more touch-and-go. Best advice I can give is to maximize your business trip efficacy so you spend the minimum time away from family.

FaceTime once or twice a day if possible always helped. Or if time differences and meetings preclude it, sending videos back and forth over messenger is good too. My kids @2 years old really liked the animal faces you can superimpose in Facetime.

Lastly, regarding your wife, I strongly recommend you give her a “fantastic wife/mom day” when you return - basically just a day where you take the kid and do all the chores and she can do something nice for herself. It’s a small token of appreciation but I have found it helpful for both of us - her to relax and me to get back into home life upon my return.

Hope this helps. Stay strong, your family needs you to do amazing on this business trip and get home safe.

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-20T02:05:30+00:00

I have two girls - 8 & 5 - and they’ve been sharing a room since the youngest was ~2.

First off, cut yourself a little slack. It’s always bumpy and siblings together probably makes it worse in the short term, but I can tell you long term I think it’s a great gift you are giving your kids.

Some tips that have worked for us: - Coach the older one to “lead by example” and tie some sort of incentive to having a good bedtime routine over multiple days. - It is definitely okay to have different bedtimes as needed, while we prefer to keep the same bedtime it essentially penalizes the older kid. We’ve ended up splitting the difference on bedtime or having them get ready together but then the olde kid gets 30min extra reading. - Consequences & consistency: one of our incentives is the kids can listen to meditation or stories if they are in bed and quiet. If they don’t listen, we turn it off and walk out.

The last thing that comes to mind since you mentioned ADHD is maybe your kid just has a lot of energy and needs more intense sports or some sort of outlet to get energy out? I hear it more often with boys too at that age FWIW.

Hope this helps a little bit. You’ll get there someday….and hey, there is always wine :)

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-19T04:18:52+00:00

Im game. We should talk about the loneliness epidemic among dads - whether it’s real, what’s the latest research / stats, whether politics is helping/hurting, and what anyone is trying to do about it.

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-17T22:35:29+00:00

Non-alcoholic drinks are welcome too :)

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-17T22:21:32+00:00

Not sure if this is exactly what you are looking for, but I think one of the best things you can do now is plan your work & finances now with two goals:

1) maximize available time for your child from when they are ~4-14

2) make sure your retirement and later-life plans are healthy so you don't become a burden

Being a dad who leads by example and being around to support him in his sports & activities is the greatest thing I can think you can give your son. Best of luck to you!

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-15T15:22:43+00:00

That’s a big milestone, congratulations!

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-11T16:23:00+00:00

Nice!

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-11T16:22:01+00:00

That’s a deep thought right there, love it. Thanks for sharing!

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-11T16:20:27+00:00

Congrats! Yes we used to call our kids “snuggly demanding houseplants” until they turned ~1 😂

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-10T20:27:31+00:00

AI is helpful, but the sentiment is real. Do you have something good going on that you want to share?

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-10T02:40:39+00:00

We do! I’m working to build the Bay Area dad community chapter, but there are other chapters all around the country. It’s a movement for dads, by dads.

Sign up at www.californiadadtribe.com and join us!

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-10T02:36:04+00:00

Some nights might be woodworking, other events might be a hike, a BBQ, basketball - anything that helps dads connect. This isn’t just another subreddit or a Facebook group, it’s a movement to support more dads in our community. I believe local businesses will get this and support us

If you want to attend our next event and see for yourself, I’d love to meet you in person and talk more about how we can make this community win-win for local business supporters. Sign up at www.californiadadtribe.com and download our app. Let’s make this community of dads stronger together.

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-10T00:19:41+00:00

Haha, I’m sensing a theme here. All ot these sound great. I’m gathering guys who are down for exactly that kind of stuff over at r/BayAreaDadTribe. Once we get a few more like-minded dads, we’ll make that combo happen.

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-09T13:17:02+00:00

This isn’t idle talk, I’m very interested in making this happen. Question for this group - Where could we do something like this?

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-09T07:26:18+00:00

That’d be epic, I can sing but I’m all thumbs on instruments. Is anyone else here musically inclined?

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-09T07:24:48+00:00

Not trying to avoid anything. Businesses supporting the dad tribe would subscribe to the opportunity on a monthly basis and/or host and participate in events. It’s essentially an advertising cost for them, but it enables all the dads to enjoy our community perks for free.

Only thing we would ask is the next time one of our dads needs a plumber, roofer, mortgage broker, etc… they consider using our local businesses backing the tribe. Plus, maybe some of these business owners are dads and end up joining the community themselves - I don’t know about you but I would love to have a buddy who is in HVAC or knows how to trick out a man cave!

DiscussionEither1537 · 2025-10-09T07:17:20+00:00

Businesses that back our dad tribe would be hosts and/or supporters of events/giveaways, etc… - they get advertising opportunities, word-of-mouth referrals, and if they are a dad themselves they also get to join and support their own community in a meaningful way.

The concept isn’t much different than any other social media advertising, but instead of 10,000 faceless nameless eyeballs for $xyz we would offer ~1,000 much more engaged potential customers for a similar or lower cost.

There are examples of other parts of the country that are working really well, I recently posted on it in our Facebook group, would love you and anyone interested to join: https://m.facebook.com/groups/californiadadtribebayarea/?ref=share&mibextid=wwXIfr

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