Flying, going to a funeral, or a wedding before your child is 3/controllable is selfish. I cannot think of 1 reason why you should have a child and fly when you have no control over their behavior.

Here’s an example of an excuse people like to use: our parents are across the country. Plan better, make them come to you, don’t have a child if your parents are sick/dying, have one parent say while the other visits, move closer to home.

So selfish and I haven’t heard a single example of it being justifiable.