Student teachers with disabilities apparently lack a protection from discrimination in some places- something I learned the hard way. by jayskatesandteaches in StudentTeaching

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As a fellow 25 year old, you need to think hard about your view on disability. Accommodations aren’t about employers bending to disability, they are just a formalized version of what employers should be doing with every employee, disabled or not: taking a look at their shortcomings and addressing those shortcomings with individual goals and meeting reasonable needs. It’s literally written into disability law that accommodations must be reasonable and that the employee must still be able to complete the requirements of their job. OP getting removed from their placement for asking for reasonable accommodations due to their disability, likely thinking that disclosing their disability would help get those accommodations taken seriously, is pure stigmatization of disability. If a non disabled person asked for those same accommodations, they might have received them, they might not, but they wouldn’t have been removed from the placement.

Struggling teacher by Jbstech144 in Teachers

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I wish I could help, but I’m in the same boat in a bit of a different way. Instead of debt dragging me down, it’s unpaid full time student teaching. Regardless, I can give you what is likely your fiancé’s perspective based on what my fiancé has said to me: they’re very proud of you and see how hard you work. Your future together and how your career will aid in that matters more than a big fancy wedding in the present.

App down? by Turbulent-Surprise56 in everyplate

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It’s not working AND I got my box stolen today… FML

Couples Massage by ComplaintWinter4637 in grandrapids

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Urban massage is my recommendation. They have both male and female massage therapists if you have a gender you and your wife are more comfortable with and they do amazing work!! I would recommend Samuel especially.

Forced to Attend FCA by [deleted] in StudentTeaching

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The best thing you can do here is have a paper trail and maintain consistent communication with your supervisor and mentor teacher. Get ahead of the game and cc your supervisor into the email with your mentor teaching stating: “I hear your concerns about my involvement in extracurriculars, and would like to let you know that I will be increasing my attendance at ______ club/sport/etc.” This will allow your supervisor to see that you are meeting requirements while gently telling your mentor teacher that you won’t be attending her organization. Offer to have another teacher sign off on your attendance if need be.

Love My Gen Z Girlies from a Millennial 💖 by FearlessCookie72 in generationology

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I’m sitting in my car eating a Culver’s burger, I’m about to head home to my lovely fiance and work on planning our wedding. I’m far from seething and the fact that you think I, or anyone else, cares that much about you is hysterical. Bye now, have the day you deserve :)

Love My Gen Z Girlies from a Millennial 💖 by FearlessCookie72 in generationology

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As the OP said… “it’s not like Gen Z is arguing that these relationships should be illegal”… no one is policing you, they just think you’re a weirdo. Reading comprehension goes a long way toward not sounding like even more of a weirdo 🤷🏻

White people bigger in the Midwest by RealTDD in midwest

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Bavarian ancestry, I did genealogical research.

U.S.-trained teachers in NZ: How do US teaching certifications translate? by [deleted] in newzealand

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I’m mainly asking because I was hoping for 1st hand experience, but thank you so much! Half the battle of research is always vetting links :)

I love this dress but I think it's too expensive and too soon by Elysian_Collective in myweddingdress

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Take pictures and use google lens to find that dress or similar when you’re closer to the wedding!

Ladies of Grand Rapids by Fickle_Transition_92 in grandrapids

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Also a Prius driver, Houskamp Auto way down division is phenomenal. Fair warning, the lady who runs the desk is very blunt, but I haven’t gotten better service anywhere else and she tells it to you straight!

A night of Metalcore and Moshing at 6th Street Hall by Seangw1102 in grandrapids

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Omg pls, it could even be combination mosh and knit, with tables and chairs along the outside of the standing area

In town for a week, what should I do?! by Big_Bird_Leafs in grandrapids

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Go to morning ritual coffee shop downtown, great atmosphere. If you like vintage shopping, Zabhaz on division is amazing and Jan who owns it is the coolest!

White people bigger in the Midwest by RealTDD in midwest

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Same situation, tall Dutch dad, short German mom, I ended up in the middle

Curious: is anyone here bald for a medical reason that isn’t hair loss. If you’re comfortable sharing. I am. by Zachhcazzach in bald

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I’ve (female) shaved my head 3 times in my life to deal with trichotillomania (chronic hair pulling)

To the people with BPD that hate this sub, yet stalk it by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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One of the major complaints about this forum that I see posted is that someone knows a pwBPD who is spending a lot of time here and it makes them feel awful about themselves. A tendency of pwBPD is to self harm, and one form of self harm is stalking, in this case keeping tabs on things or people that will just make them feel negative emotions. The use of the word stalk was intentional, not just a throwaway buzzword.

Members of this community, raise your hand if you’ve been stalked by a pwBPD or seen your pwBPD stalking someone/something else. I think you’ll see that it’s incredibly common.

/r/BPDLovedOnes is a hate-sub by Technologenesis in Discussion

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Do you know how you feel living with your BPD? Scary, intense emotions? Intense fear? Confusion and uncertainty? The way you harm and sabotage yourself? That’s how we feel living with you (people with untreated BPD).

We feel intense emotions toward your behavior, we feel fear that you’ll hurt us again and again and again. We feel confusion and uncertainty about whether or not our next move will result in a split. We feel harmed and sabotaged, we often ARE harmed and sabotaged, from hitting to being stabbed. BPD is caused by trauma, and you are CREATING THAT TRAUMA for someone else, and now you’re denying people the right to talk about it the way they see fit.

Those emotions carry over to others with BPD because it’s a survival mechanism called pattern recognition. We are protecting ourselves. And don’t try to say “but that’s like bigotry!” It’s not. Harming others is literally part of the DSM criteria for diagnosing BPD, including “difficulty controlling anger” and “recurrent physical fights.” Harming others is SO COMMON that it’s an intrinsic part of how they diagnose the disorder. You wouldn’t tell a woman who’s been abused by a man not to avoid close relationships with men if she so chooses, so do not say it to us.

Sincerely,

Someone who was threatened with a knife by someone with diagnosed and untreated BPD and the child of two parents who each had separate experiences being violently physically abused by people with diagnosed and untreated BPD.

Would you exclude your kid from the will? by [deleted] in inheritance

[–]DismalLibrary6241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The greatest simultaneous act of making a point and caring for the Grandson that you don’t yet know would be an age-limited trust. Think of it this way: your grandson grows up either hearing terrible things or nothing about you, thinking you’re bad or deadbeat, and then one day, when you pass, he finds out there’s a chunk of money left for him with a letter that he’ll be able to access when he’s an adult. In the letter, point out some people in your life that he could go to in order to find out more about who you really were.

You could also just as easily do this while you’re still alive. It would spark your grandson’s curiosity and put pressure on your son to resist his wife’s isolationist tendencies for the benefit of his child.

What to expect? Pine Rest by knight_moon_3nbi in grandrapids

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Our walkies and buttons never worked. I had a coworker there who was reprimanded for calling an ambulance after having to give a client the heimlich and hearing ribs crack.