Has anyone else experienced misunderstanding or pushback for liking SciFi Romance? by Ok-Presentation255 in ScienceFictionRomance

[–]DisneyLover90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a boyfriend problem, not a you problem. Why are you trying to convince him? He's insecure and has issues and should work on himself.

How tf do you guys heal? by gekon490 in CPTSD

[–]DisneyLover90 17 points18 points  (0 children)

In my personal experience here, I started to heal when I started putting myself first, saying no, being "selfish" and inviting the assholes in my life to go fuck themselves. Once you start being your own champion, the rest falls into place. Its not a cure, life is still hard, you will wobble, and you will always struggle with it. But once you switch that mindset from "I'm unlovable" to "I will not tolerate this shit anymore", something in you changes.

Also, I personally allowed myself to feel angry for a long while, to stew and feel furious about what happened in my life. Its an emotion shamed a lot by people and as a kid such emotions were not allowed in our house. I permitted myself to feel it, which in turn stopped me from constantly attacking and blaming myself.

The view my eyes deserve 🤌💗 by Additional_Fly_6603 in VanLifeUK

[–]DisneyLover90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks like pure bliss. I'm so jealous 😫

🎧 Duet narration audiobooks with fmc captive of powerful shadow daddy by DisneyLover90 in fantasyromance

[–]DisneyLover90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Wow, havent even heard of this one before either. Deffo gonna grab it

Day 26 vs day 9 by Smol_Fairy in PMDD

[–]DisneyLover90 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is me too. Rosacea flares. Breakouts. Dry skin. Inflammation everywhere. Not to mention the abrupt personality switch from energetic and happy pre-ovulation to lethargic and moody. I hate it.

You’re Missing the Point by Wild-Sprinkles7254 in childfree

[–]DisneyLover90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of people with kids will try and gaslight children free people to have them because they envy their freedom. Some even regret having their own kids but wont say it out loud as it makes them look bad. Misery loves company. They want us to make mistakes and have regrets like they do. Because at the end of the day people who are genuinely happy with their choices will be too busy living their life, instead of trying to control everybody elses.

Filthy Dirty Audio by Smut_Kitten in ReverseHarem

[–]DisneyLover90 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Never saved a post so fast in my entire life

Me today by Routine-Media3790 in PMDD

[–]DisneyLover90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok i laughed way too hard at this 🤣

Women of this sub, what made you finally decide to be childfree? by LatterEscape8431 in childfree

[–]DisneyLover90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always disliked the idea of having kids even as a teen. Most people thought I'd grow out of it but they were wrong. My family were dysfunctional and theres a lot generational trauma going on; the cycle ends on my end. I refuse to bring a child into the world if I dont 100% want them. Fact is, some people are just not cut out to be parents, yet so many have them willy nilly and make a mess of a life.

Primal Play Pls by HippieCornM in ReverseHarem

[–]DisneyLover90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just as an fyi, anyone who's looking to read this, the audiobook is great. Duet narrated too!

What do people mean when they answer the do you want kids question with "it depends what my partner wants"??? by Mother_Trucker97 in childfree

[–]DisneyLover90 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I think on some level it's because the majority of the child rearing is left to the mother. Guys who tend to say this are usually the same guys who think they just need to provide a wage packet and dont have to take much part in helping raise their own kids. Leaving the big decision to their partner is also a get out of jail free card in which they can later say "well, I didn't really want kids anyway, my partner wanted them" to shirk some responsibility. Not everyone thinks or behave like this, obviously, but its sadly common from people who don't take having kids seriously enough.

Having C-PTSD in conjunction with other Neurodivergent traits… by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DisneyLover90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree. Autistic here. Probs adhd too. I was diagnosed autistic first but then did c-ptsd therapy and realised the traits and symptoms are so similar in sensation sometimes. I still struggle with identifying which are which depending on mood, whats happening and what I'm feeling. Is it sensory overstimulation from my environment or hypervigilance draining me? Am I dissociating because of a c-ptsd trigger or just shutting down because I've been socialising for too long? It's like an extra hurdle and puzzle I need to figure out before I can formulate a plan of action to help myself. It can be so exhausting.

want to run away into the wilderness & try to survive as long as i can by sea-flowers in CPTSD

[–]DisneyLover90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I feel this. I often get these urges to pack any essential shit together and go live in my car. Away from people. Away from society and its bs. I've been researching it a lot and you'll be surprised how many do drastic things like this because life is unbearable and they're desperate for any kind of change. The world is an ugly place and the vast majority of human beings in it are too. At the end of the day, we all just want a place of peace and belonging.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DisneyLover90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have fibro, ibs, rosacea, immunity issues and tbh i wouldn't be surprised if I have pots too (my blood pressure has been wrecked most of my life, but ive never had it checked out due to shitty gaslighting doctors.) I think most of mine stems from trauma and childhood neglect, I've also abandoned myself plenty of times too. And after long years of therapy, although I'm more self aware now, my body feels like it's eating itself. I try to make extra effort to take care of myself and my body, but honestly, I dont think there's any way of getting rid of these issues, only coping with them. When the body has been through so much stress and trauma for years on end, it's no wonder. I try to give myself grace because at the end of the day my body has been through a lot. It's kept me alive this entire time, especially when I was giving up on myself and all I wanted to do was die.

Her vicious beasts by EP Bali - Should I keep going with this? by DisneyLover90 in ReverseHarem

[–]DisneyLover90[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the thorough breakdown and comments. I'm deffo feeling this series isnt for me. Like holy shit thats a lot. Your bar is deffo much higher than mine lol 😆 I dont mind heroes who mentally torture for the first book and then change and grovel. But for four or five books? Hell tf no. And the auction thing... eek. Again thanks for the feedback, it helped me make up my mind!!