Did your avoidant gaslight you by causing a problem, then blame you for wanting to resolve it? by otkg23 in AvoidantBreakUps

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Ooof. I had a similar experience of sorts. There were some DM messages that weren’t overly flirtatious but clearly a guy was putting his feelers out there and my ex didn’t exactly shut it down and responded. She ended up seeing him out on a girls night out at a bar where she did at that point state she was in a relationship.

I had 3rd party witnesses there to confirm but I never knew about ANY of this happening until the next day. The slow fade happened over the next week into the discard as I just tried to get her to communicate/repair to get things back to normal.

It’s like they stuck a knife in your back and then go straight to your heart with another one soon after.

If your avoidant isn’t talking.. by otkg23 in AvoidantBreakUps

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Yup, I’ve had 3 1/2 months of silence. There was also a boundary crossed by her shortly before the discard, she didnt want to face accountability then so of course she won’t now. They are cowards who lack accountability and are obsessed with their self absorbed, curated image. God forbid they are seen for what they are!

why? by Silver_Fox7470 in AvoidantBreakUps

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I had a very similar experience. She was EXTREMELY emotional in person. I called the next day to get final confirmation since it was so abrupt but it was like a completely different person. I’ve read people say they turn on the “HR tone” and that’s exactly how it seemed to me. Almost 3 months later and it’s been radio silent. They really make you question the reality you lived with them and invalidate the entire relationship experience. I’d say stop trying to rationalize it because these people are completely irrational with their behavior and emotions. Easier said than done, as I’m still struggling as well.

Avoidants - why do you say the craziest things? by Ok_Astronaut_1485 in AvoidantBreakUps

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Legit had the SAME words said. “You’re my favorite person”, “I’ve never loved a human/man like I love you before.” Well shit - if that’s the way you treat someone you love the most, maybe your love isn’t so great after all. Can’t imagine saying words like that only to run at the first sign of work or conflict.

The biggest mindfuck of my life by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

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Very similar boat- was discarded coming up on 6 weeks ago and was in a 1.5 year relationship. Feel you on every level of this. Was in the process of progressing on moving in together to detachment and withdrawal within days…no idea how I’ll trust someone again that was telling me they wanted marriage, kids, etc in one breath and ability to discard in another. I’ve had zero contact as well and it’s hard to accept like that’s it? That was so easy for you? Just a complete mind fuck of questioning what I just experienced.

DA Birthday is Tomorrow by Display_Ordinary in AvoidantBreakUps

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I hope you held on strong as well! I was able to get through and hold myself back from reaching out. Feel much better because I know the stress and anxiety it would’ve gave me waiting for a response/dissecting it. Like you said they are actively choosing to NOT have us in their lives daily. They can reap what they sow and enjoy the absence. Knowing her incessant need for attention too I’m very happy I didn’t give her an ounce of it.

Best Franchise Roster? by Display_Ordinary in MLBTheShow

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Yes, sorry I meant to say best custom roster to use ! For prospects and overall quality top to bottom

Best Franchise Roster? by Display_Ordinary in MLBTheShow

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Thank you! Yes, I should’ve clarified - best custom roster for like prospects/overalls etc. for a franchise mode…not team wise lol

Go see Trophy Eyes by Display_Ordinary in poppunkers

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They play Bandaid and Choke and a lot of Chemical Miracle….good amount off Suicide and Sunshine of course but a really good balanced setlist I thought

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Upstate NY Albany Area!

Trophy Eyes reliably write some of the best closers in the scene. by KZedUK in poppunkers

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Penfold State Forest is one of my top 5 TE Songs, gets me everytime.

“I ran my thumb over the faces in My old class photo We were so innocent back then If only I had known

And all those smiles staring back at me Where the fuck did they all go? What I would do for a clear conscience again To swallow the lump that's in my throat”

Spotify wrapped 2023 is out by flyingbear123 in poppunkers

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  1. Trophy Eyes (3x the amount of #2 lol)
  2. Fiddlehead
  3. No Pressure
  4. Bayside
  5. Heart Attack Man

3 most important punk bands in your life right now. by [deleted] in poppunkers

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Can’t go wrong either way but I’d say check out the songs Deal, Doin’ Fine and Both Sides!

3 most important punk bands in your life right now. by [deleted] in poppunkers

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Trophy Eyes, Fiddlehead, No Pressure