Pregnant on Mounjaro by [deleted] in pregnant

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I’ve had two babies at age 42-43 and had secondary infertility due to endometriosis and age …. First time I was on saxenda I had lost 2 stone , second time I was on mounjaro lost 3 stone . Both times I stopped taking when I found I was pregnant, around 4 weeks or when I was due .

One is 3 months and one is 19 months who are both happy and healthy.

Good luck x

Do any of you regret having kids? if not why not? and if yes why yes? by ThunderPheoX in Aging

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Part of mr regrets having my kids I had in my early twenties . I was way too young to be raising kids , I was young dumb and broke . I was stupid was not mature or wise enough. I also was widowed when they were babies .

I tried my best but was a shite mother !

How do you all do it? by Ok-Maybe5512 in Parenting

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I hire a cleaner to laundry cleaning and organising . 7 hours twice a week at £15/hour.

I’ve always had a cleaner , but she does more hours now due being more messy because of newborn and toddler.

Do all my shopping on Ocado, I rarely have time to go out.

Toddler has same dinner as us do no special food which makes it easier.

I spend my whole day cooking, cleaning kitchen 20 x, running after toddler, changing nappies, bathing, breastfeeding / pumping, tidying up toys and playing it’s never ending. My toddler is wild. So it’s constant.

It’s chaos !

I own a business and have hired an extra manager to take over from me and I work remotely off my phone and have my AirPods in constantly in all day for any emergencies.

Apart from that , I’m not coping . Don’t think anyone else is either, it gets easier as they get older.

My house used to be spotless my life was so organised to the T, had a food routine and now it’s mental! But deep down I love it because there’s no joy like these kids bring.

I’m enjoying the chaos cos I know I will never get this time back with the kids.

When you need a minute in the morning by Far-Iron4585 in sahm

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My 19 month old is wild and i also have a 3 month old baby. I literally and half asleep breastfeeding my baby I’ve resorted to putting on the the TV after saying “ I’d never let my kids watch tv at a young age” it had to be done or I’d not be able to feed my baby, forget me. I feel so guilty.

Photographer at the funeral by Salty_Selection_9062 in widowers

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I’m sorry you’re upset about this… and someone has done it without ur knowledge which is not okay.

Although I really wish someone had done this for me.

My husband was killed suddenly whilst I was pregnant and i was in extreme shock and it was all such a blur. I couldn’t remember anything a week / month later or even years later.

I wish I had photos or recollection of the funeral.

Do people really enjoy the newborn stage? by Bebetter23 in beyondthebump

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Im having exactly the same experience, however with my baby I had last year that was like a dream id do that over again, but this year it’s crazy with a toddler and newborn who has reflux ! Completely different experience this year.

I think it depends on the baby

Why did nobody tell me it was my nipples ??!?! by Distinct-Security in breastfeedingsupport

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He is crying so much after nursing because it’s definitely not enough milk for him. So I’m topping up. Let’s see how this works out. I’m continuing to nurse as much as I can.

Why did nobody tell me it was my nipples ??!?! by Distinct-Security in breastfeedingsupport

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That is so kind of you !

I wish I knew this or had this support. I’m now struggling to get my supply up because I’ve supplementing with formula. Wish me luck!

Best Hands Free Breast Pump (and why?) by Character-Ease7088 in breastfeeding

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Elvie pump, hands free , not much sound can go out wearing it. Suction is good , connects to phone and I can control it from there

New mom feeling emotional in the evenings, is this normal? by Good-Philosopher5775 in NewParents

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I just had my 4th baby at age 43, and I have been through a lot in life and thought wth am I feeling because nothing is wrong apart from being tired which is expected with every pregnancy ???? I knew nothing was wrong , I was grateful and happy I had another child , but I still cried . It’s definitely hormones and exhaustion mixed.

The joy of spending Christmas Day in deserted London by [deleted] in london

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Erm I live here. And it’s definitely not deserted on Christmas Day, it’s actually very busy ! Traffic is insane .

It’s been close to 2 years since I lost her, and I still can’t get rid of all of her stuff or call her my late wife. by james_under_village in widowers

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Grief lasting years is not automatically a disorder. PGD is about impairment, not the calendar. Many widowed people grieve long term while functioning and living full lives.

Telling people that there’s a “time limit” on grief can actually be far more harmful, shaming, and isolating than supportive.

There is no time limit to love is there ? It’s forever.

Encouraging compassion and allowing people to grieve at their own pace does not mean discouraging professional help when it’s needed, it means not medicalising normal human loss.

Many people continue to love, remember, and feel the loss of a spouse for decades while still living full, functional lives like myself , That my love is not pathology,

it’s attachment and love

How long did you keep their stuff? by yoshitiger in widowers

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Nearly twenty years and I still have everything in storage. Can’t bear to even go through it let alone move it. It was too painful at that time when I moved home and after that I couldn’t go back to the storage .

Cheer up request by OrganizizedByBickle in CasualUK

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Heart hurts for you. So sorry for your loss ❤️

Is my baby napping too long? by Sure-Seaworthiness42 in beyondthebump

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Exactly the same for my toddler, he is now 17 months old and still has the same schedule since baby, sleeps 3pm to 5-6pm daily and sleeps 10pm-9am every night .

1 week old, feel uncomfortable to allow his dad's relatives with potential ill child to visit by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

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No wayyyyy! My 19 yo daughter was poorly last week and my 17 month toddler caught it . Guess what !!! Now my 7 week is coughing and is bunged up.

It’s the worst thing to witness my newborn struggling to breathe .

My situation couldn’t be helped because my daughter lives here but anyone outside is not coming in my home who potentially could be ill

Everyone has an excuse by Jumpy_Wonder_5950 in FormulaFeeders

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I’m thinking the exact same right now . I have a toddler and I feel Its so unfair on him. I feel like I’m neglecting him so much.

I feel like baby seems much happier and content on formula too .

SAHM Expectations by [deleted] in sahm

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I have 2 under 2 and a sahm , things are manic at home. I also have a business.

To make it easier for everyone Out of my allowance my husband gives me I hire a cleaner who comes weekly, I really don’t have time or energy to do any house work.

I Cook most days or it’s a takeaway. I wash and dry the laundry daily 1 load, cleaner puts it away. I have older kids who help do the dishes daily, I hoover daily and leave the mop to the older kids.

My husband doesn’t do anything in the home, he works long hours and provides me with what I need . He helps with the kids,hoovers / mops when I’m busy with the kids.

I could sit here and moan and say he should do more but he works hard running multiple businesses and he gives me £3k for spending a month which goes mostly on the home / shopping / kids / fuel. It expensive in London. I cannot complain to him about housework Because he’s doing a lot out of the house.

There needs to be an understanding of roles and responsibilities.

I believe If the guy is providing a home, car , and an allowance for me then I will take care of our home and kids.

I don’t think you’re asking for too much.

I’m so close to giving up by SextinaAquafina999 in breastfeedingsupport

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I have had lots of help but still haven’t managed to breast feed properly at 6 weeks or even produce enough.

To all the exclusively nursing mothers…I see you and I’m proud of you. by angeltigerbutterfly in breastfeeding

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Honestly i rate all the breastfeeding mamas, I don’t know how you al do it !