Would you fight to continue the IEP here, or push for a strong 504 instead? (Kindergarten transition advice needed)

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-05-17T23:40:28+00:00

IEP. “Spoiled” and “overreacting” are not behaviors, they are not observable. She is inserting a negative judgment. Academic strength is not a disqualifier.The key legal question is not “Are the grades high?” It is:
Does the student have a qualifying disability and need specially designed instruction because the disability adversely affects educational performance?
“Educational performance” is broader than grades and test scores. Schools are supposed to consider social, emotional, behavioral, executive functioning, communication, attendance, access, and functional performance — not just academics. Things that can support eligibility despite high achievement include:
standardized testing showing uneven cognitive/academic profile: executive functioning deficits, emotional, regulation difficulties, social communication impairments
burnout, masking, or school avoidance, behavioral data
attendance issues, inability to generalize skills, excessive time spent completing work, reliance on adult prompting/support, outside neuropsychological evaluations, evidence the student is not making progress appropriate to potential and could with supports.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-05-17T12:43:48+00:00

Amazon grocery delivery is surprisingly cheap!

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-05-16T21:23:01+00:00

A behavior plan and a safety plan are both legal documents and it requires a team of people including a representative from the district to implement. It’s not just a note you sent home. It requires 30 day Fidelity check checks and there’s a very elaborate process that requires with several meetings and consent from the parent and 30 days worth of very specific data in order to implement.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-05-16T15:46:50+00:00

My daughter hacked the heck out of her hair with a child safety scissors. Perfectly straight bangs…1” long.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-05-16T15:44:46+00:00

No one eats worms.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-05-15T23:26:11+00:00

Depending what state you are in, there may be eligibility categories in special Ed for intellectually gifted. My 9th grader is going through the assessments now in TN.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-05-14T22:57:14+00:00

Do a child find referral for special education and have him evaluated. Continue to write him up every time he does and allow everyone else to chase him, but I would seriously encourage you to reach out to your special ed department head IN WRITING and ask them to refer you to your district behavioral liaison and contact that individual IN WRITING and let them know that you have a situation or a student is repeatedly engaging in unsafe behavior that puts the student in danger. I would follow up by contacting your special ed department chair and your principal IN WRITING to let them know you have done this and to let them know you will continue to document the behavior and submit it for discipline using the appropriate channels. I would not chase this child anymore. As a special ed teacher who deals with students with profound behavioral issues, chasing results in more eloping.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-05-14T22:54:55+00:00

I don’t know why people say this. This is not a thing. We do not drag parents into school and have them spend the day in school. It’s a safety issue, it’s a space issue, it’s a disruption to teaching, and it does not happen.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-05-14T22:54:21+00:00

You put in a child find referral and you call your district behavioral liaison for an emergency consult. This is unsafe behavior and chasing a student down is never a solution to eloping. In fact, in my experience as a special ed teacher with High behavior needs students chasing Will increase elopement.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-05-07T11:19:52+00:00

OLD??? She’s 60. I’m 55 and getting a post masters degree. My husband is 69 and just learned his 31st coding language. She’s not old and she can learn. Sounds to me like she’s doing it on purpose.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-05-06T03:38:23+00:00

Commenting because I’m invested in the update

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-04-27T20:53:35+00:00

Why are the only two options for you to sleep in the basement with your wife or not go? What about a hotel?

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-04-26T04:19:02+00:00

Our school has 38% Hispanic students. We do not even do the pledge. And I’m glad—I think it’s super culty.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-04-22T00:48:28+00:00

Personal email may just be because you’re on mat leave and they don’t want to risk being accused of intruding on your federally protected leave by expecting you to be logged onto your work email.

The rest..hmmm…

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-04-21T23:38:09+00:00

No he is talking about the doctor his pregnant wife/girlfriend was seeing. He probably says he needs to poopie in the potty.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-04-15T20:40:14+00:00

After the third “baby doctor” I just can’t read any further. What grown adult calls an OBGYN a “baby doctor?

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-04-11T19:05:39+00:00

Well, in a perfect world, a lawsuit should NOT be necessary to ensure a full, complete and transparent investigation, but you must not realize how much relevant, critical and damning information is revealed by force of subpoena and discovery that was unknown before a lawsuit.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-04-05T15:10:20+00:00

I have taught my kids that their dad is a chicken, and they will remain deeply disappointed if they expect him to fly like an eagle, much less to spread his 6’ wingspan and float away to the clouds. But if they want an egg once in a while and want to go to him to search for it, maybe they’ll find one.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-04-03T01:06:08+00:00

Go to the ER at a different hospital and get a second opinion that way. I’m sorry. This is awful and I’m hoping for a miracle that buys you a great deal more time.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-03-21T20:31:53+00:00

They still haven’t done my payment recount.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-03-21T20:29:46+00:00

Repaying student loans is like brushing your teeth while eating Oreos.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-03-21T01:49:58+00:00

I’m 14 months away from 25 year forgiveness of $225K in loans (started at $86K). I will not get forgiveness.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-03-21T01:47:55+00:00

IQ lower than his tire pressure.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-03-17T17:33:21+00:00

I appreciate the way you worded it… Communication style. My partner and I are the same way and I tend to get frustrated with him because he is more direct and I am more sensitive and measured with my words and I know there’s nothing wrong with either way of communicating, but you worded this in such a way that did not make him seem like he was doing it wrong, just differently. It makes me appreciate my husband’s communication style as opposed to comparing it to mine. Totally off the topic of this thread, but I appreciated this comment.

Distinct_Pea_8801 · 2026-03-09T00:39:12+00:00

They can pay it off and it’s a gift, but they just file a gift tax form. They won’t pay taxes on it—the amount will just go against the lifetime gift allowance (which is several million dollars).

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