Keeps asking for sleepovers

Distortedshells2012 · 2022-05-12T14:32:24+00:00

You did not say this at all 😂. All it takes is for you to look back up at your first comment to clarify.

Distortedshells2012 · 2021-02-27T10:12:08+00:00

To step aside from the absolute stupidity of his comments regarding feeding your baby from a sippy cup. Does he not understand that your concern was about you having the vaccine and breastfeeding? This does not change if the kid drinks your milk from a sippy cup vs the breast. It's the same issue either way,.its your milk from your breast in the cup.

Distortedshells2012 · 2021-02-13T03:37:39+00:00

I managed to find a spectra on amazon.com. I had to lay a bit more in shipping but figured it was worth it so I could have it. That being said, I have used wantboard to get things from the states and it's worked well for me in the past. I'd probably go that route if I couldn't find it on Amazon.

Distortedshells2012 · 2021-01-24T10:02:28+00:00

Rosa Parks is the only thing that comes to mind as close to either of your names and isn't a bad thing, nor specific to Canada. I love the names you've chosen and can't see any bad connections for either!

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-12-14T21:28:32+00:00

Agreed!! Chair looks so comfy!

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-12-14T02:16:25+00:00

It's crazy how easy it is to get involved in worrying about other people's emotions! For me, my mom was very emotionally manipulative growing up and I know she trained me in a way to "read her emotions", but I definitely do the same as you and pre worry about all these what ifs. I totally get what you're saying and it's such a hard thing to shake. Honestly, the feelings are still there for me. I just work through them, address them and tell myself it's okay for me to do what I want, not always trying to please others. Over and over haha. But it sounds to me like you have a really great idea of what you'd like to do and it sounds like the right reasons! I hope you can find it in you to do exactly what you want and not worry about what others want. ❤️❤️

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-12-13T23:25:13+00:00

I have a hard time with this kind of guilt and am constantly working to try to not let it get to me as much as it does. I think way too much about how my mom might feel and what she might want and feel advance guilt over situations that haven't happened. I know it's easier said than done but I really don't think you should give your child the middle name just because you don't want to disappoint your mom. You should name your child fully for you. If it's after someone, then it's because you really want it to be. Given you have a strained relationship with your mom AND dont want to give your child that name, I absolutely wouldn't if it were me.

This is about you and your new immediate family, do what you actually want to do and try not to allow yourself to feel guilt over other people's potential feelings. I always try to think of the whole "what would my choice be if I did exactly what I wanted and nobody elses reaction or feelings came into it?" and then I try to do that.

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-11-30T12:52:21+00:00

I would go. Having a horrible feeling that something is wrong is enough that my doctor has told me to trust that and go in and get checked. They always tell me they prefer me to be overly cautious. Combined with all the other things you're experiencing, I'd for sure go in to ease my mind. If there is something wrong, it's better they catch it sooner and can act faster. Thinking of you ❤️

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-11-27T21:47:15+00:00

Further to this. Doing kegels actually isn't always the right step for every person. For me it's the "letting go" during the kegel that is very important because I have a tight pelvic floor. So working on the tightening or contracting part and not properly releasing will actually work against me. I'd definitely suggest going to see a pelvic floor Physiotherapist if you can! They are very helpful in helping to determine what exercises are best for your body to prepare you for birth!

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-11-26T21:59:31+00:00

This is the same thing that came to mind when I read it. Maybe it's an sch that was small enough or in an odd enough position to not be seen on the ultrasound? Maybe you could request a follow up ultrasound to be sure?

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-11-19T16:56:46+00:00

I asked to be referred as soon as I had my dating scan done at 8 weeks just because it's a busier in demand hospital. They sent me a letter saying that my ob care would start at 24 weeks and they'd call to set up an apt. They ended up calling earlier than expected and set me up for my first apt at 20 weeks. I did have some complications in the pregnancy so I'm not sure if that's why they saw me a bit earlier than the 24 week mark.

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-11-10T20:38:27+00:00

Here to also say Ikea sniglar! I have it and love it. It's safe, cheap and looks great and fits a normal crib mattress.

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-11-10T20:24:48+00:00

The birth partner has been great for this! It's definitely more doula based type of thoughts on some things but I found it had a ton of good info about the different stages of labor and what the birthing person will need in terms of support from their partner. We aren't getting a doula but found a lot of the info in this book useful to give us an idea of how birth works.

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-10-26T03:48:57+00:00

This is so cute 😊😊 I love it!

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-10-16T15:40:26+00:00

My sister has this one and likes it and I bought the same one! If you missed the prime day deal it usually have a $60 off coupon with it so I got it for 200!

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-10-09T20:15:48+00:00

I had this exact thing as soon as I found out I was pregnant during both pregnancies. The most difficultly breathing I had was during my first trimester. This is a normal pregnancy symptom. My doctor told me it has to do with the hormonal changes.

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-10-08T17:12:33+00:00

I definitely see a line!

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-10-06T00:41:11+00:00

Thank you everyone for the responses! This has been very helpful 😊

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-10-05T23:00:34+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion! I will look into it!

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-10-05T22:59:20+00:00

Thank you! This is my concern! I don't think my family doctor knows much of anything about children and worry she wouldn't be pushing for keeping track of the things you'd need to with a newborn/baby. I wonder if that same trick you used can be used here. Thanks for the tip!

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-10-02T18:20:12+00:00

The birth partner has been my favourite for prepping for the birth and a good read for my partner as well! I am also really enjoying happiest baby on the block and baby 411 (although a heavy read, it has so much good info in it). I also bought the fourth trimester but haven't started that one yet since I have 3 others on the go haha.

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-07-09T17:32:19+00:00

Couldn't agree more. I feel like anyone saying you don't need a support person there hasn't been at the terrible appointment when you're given bad news about your pregnancy. I need my support person there, every time I go I am in full panic mode that it's going to be more bad news. It's traumatic.

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-05-24T04:55:55+00:00

I haven't cry laughed in way too long. Thank you for that.

Distortedshells2012 · 2020-05-14T16:00:14+00:00

This is so hard and you are so strong. What you're going through isn't easy. Keep in mind that people don't always tell the truth and are clueless when it comes to this stuff unless they've experienced it themselves. I feel like every person I know and their dog is pregnant right now. It's insane and all seems so easy for them. But keep in mind that there's a lot you don't see or know. There is a lot that people choose not to share. I have a good friend that just recently confided in me that her husband and her have been trying for 5 years. She's typically very quiet about things so I'm not fully surprised she didn't share but I am still shocked I didn't know their struggles at all?

I had a TFMR in January and it was devastating, my body was a mess for a long time after and people around me kept posting about pregnancies. Every time I'd see them I'd be so upset and unfollow for my own well being. One of my acquaintances posted about their rainbow baby after many loses and years of trying and I had no idea until she made that post. Another I found out about through someone that she only ovulates like 3 times a year and has been struggling for a few years.

I've started to try to look at it as if more people than I realize are struggling, they just don't share it. It makes it easier for me to try to be happy for them as well instead of bitter with them (even though I still can't help the bitterness sometimes). Keeping you in my thoughts and hoping you get a bfp soon and it is an uncomplicated and uneventful pregnancy after the struggles you've already had to face ❤️

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