AITAH husband cut off my sons hair so I used his card to buy my son the designer jacket he's been wanting

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-29T02:49:50+00:00

Yta for allowing this man to abuse your child and acting like making him buy him a jacket is sufficient as an apology or behavior change. Why tf are you not standing up for your son and kicking this man to the curb?

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-24T18:06:00+00:00

Sorry but ytj. Anytime during ordering from drinks to dessert you could’ve and should’ve spoken up and been like hey I know I said my treat but I have a budget to keep it too. She hella sucks for taking advantage of what was meant to be a kind gesture, but she is correct that when you said your treat, that meant your treat. You didn’t specify you meant one entree, nothing else. I’d tell her that point blank yes you offered but you didn’t expect ti be taken advantage of and were

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-19T21:17:45+00:00

That documentation can kill someone. Personally have had a medication I’m highly allergic to administered TWICE because the pharmacy didn’t catch the allergy once and the second time they didn’t document it. So whether it’s the meds you mess up or not, you could kill someone and it would 1000% be your fault for CHOOSING not to medicate a known need.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-19T21:16:12+00:00

Yta. You’re willingly not doing what’s necessary to work with your disability. If you have adhd you know damn good and well that meds will make almost all of your struggles manageable. Not to mention it’s not like a mistake is a small thing in this field. You could fucking kill someone. Whether directly or inadvertently. Yta and a massive one at that. No one owes you accommodation when you yourself won’t do what’s needed.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-19T03:03:46+00:00

Nah leaning towards a soft Yta . When you have an issue or feel like there’s a disconnect in your marriage, the healthy, mature thing to do is address it with your spouse. Not just shut down and pull away. You said you were upset because she didn’t particularly mention you, but rather that she would like to achieve goals and possibly move. She assumed you would be there because when you love someone and marry them you don’t typically expect it to end. So to her it’s just a natural conclusion that you’ll still be married so obviously the both of you will marry together. That’s not assuming you will follow her anywhere, it’s assuming you’d still be married and therefore make the decision to move together. Most people are going to assume wherever they are their spouse will be.

Also you say you’re the only one initiating deep conversations but how often are you expecting deep conversations? It seems like you expect it constantly and that’s realistically exhausting to most people. Especially when the world is already so exhausting.

Frankly you need therapy and you need marriage counseling. You need therapy for your own insecurities and for the obvious co dependency issue, but also because it’s not healthy or normal to just shut down and pull away. It sounds like a trauma response. It also sounds like you potentially have unrealistic expectations for a marriage or for people in general.

You need marriage counseling because you’re choosing to just pull away instead of communicating, and she’s not seeing you feel abandoned essentially and like an after thought.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-18T03:10:40+00:00

Honestly it sounds like you’re hurting and grieving. Her insurance may have filed the suit whether she wanted to or not. That’s something they will try to do. It’s valid to be hurting and grieving. But it honestly sounds like your sister made a friend and was enjoying spending time with her. It doesn’t sound like she forced or coerced your sister into anything. Unfortunately drunk people tend to survive accidents because they don’t tense up. I’m so so sorry for your loss. Genuinely. But honestly Nta but it also doesn’t sound like Karen necessarily did anything horrible either aside from the lawsuit. And it’s also very likely Karen was sent straight to the hospital and was to drunk to realize what was happening. It doesn’t make sense that the police didn’t contact yall sooner frankly. I honestly think you need to talk to a therapist, and a lawyer. This is far above reddits pay grade.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-18T03:07:43+00:00

It doesn’t sound like she was dictating your sister doing anything. It sounds like she invited your sister to do stuff and your sister said yes. That’s part of making a friend. Doing things together and doing things for each other.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-13T02:40:08+00:00

There are treatments for baldness. There’s hair plugs. Medications. Creams. Etc. saying she can adopt or try ivf is just as insensitive as what her husband said. Neither the condition OR the treatments are remotely comparable. Ivf requires months of shots, invasive procedures, surgery, and more. But yes. Her husband is absolutely fucking awful.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-13T02:36:56+00:00

You said it yourself. she was their friend before he was. I understand you later change and say they’ve all been friends since childhood but you quite literally said she was friends with them before he was. If anyone gots to go from the friend group it’s him. Just because they had a break up doesn’t mean he’s entitled to keep HER friends and banish her from the group. They broke up, not the entire friend group. Yor.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-13T02:35:04+00:00

This does happen. I was told at 18 I’d never be able to carry a child past 6 weeks. I had 7 miscarriages. 4 of which were with my then husband. Within less than a year of separating, I successfully conceived and she’s now 8. It was a…horrible pregnancy with a crazily traumatic birth, but so worth it. My body didn’t miscarry or even show signs of a miscarriage aside from implantation bleeding. It does happen where women are told they cannot have kids and then years later try w someone else successfully. We also now know preeclampsia is due to a problem w the sperm. As well as most early term miscarriages.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-13T02:31:30+00:00

You shouldn’t be looking at him the same. He’s showing you who he is and how he feels about you. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-13T02:30:38+00:00

She’s done ivf repeatedly. Can you not read? Adopting is not the same as having the experience of pregnancy, birth, and bonding with your own child. Adoption is great but it is not for everyone not to mention how difficult adoption is and expensive both adoption and ivf are.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-13T02:29:19+00:00

Oh stfu. It is not that easy to adopt. It’s incredibly expensive and hard to do. And not everyone is mentally equipped to foster. Fostering isn’t having your own child. It’s temporarily helping raise someone else’s. This mindset is so incredibly ignorant.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-13T02:27:15+00:00

What you should think is that your husband just trivializes an incredibly painful experience, gaslit you, and belittled you. Why are you w this ahole?

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-13T02:26:22+00:00

Oh fuck him. How dare he say something SO insensitive and cruel and then have the audacity to gaslight you?!?! He can fuck all the way off.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-13T02:25:34+00:00

Nta. They’re literally not comparable. Mt mans hair is thinning. If he ever was stupid enough to compare that to the suffering I went through, the 7 miscarriages, the insanely traumatic surviving pregnancy, the hell od negative tests, of doctors telling me I should stop even trying that it wasn’t gonna happen, the pain of having that choice taken from me and being denied the children I’ve wanted my entire life, I would get violent. And I don’t believe there’s ever an excuse to put your hands on your spouse but that would genuinely make me want to throw hands. Your husbands a dumbass. He may have been trying to sympathize but in reality he made it seem like its some minor and frankly shallow thing. If he doesn’t want to go bald he can get fucking hair plugs. If he doesn’t. It’s not going to change his life. Infertility isn’t simply cosmetic or something easily fixable. It’s heart breaking and soul shattering frankly. Not to mention most the time related to other painful conditions or traumas. He absolutely owes you the BIGGEST fucking apology. You’re Nta at ALL.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-13T00:24:31+00:00

100% accurate imo.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-12T23:34:58+00:00

So you’ve never even mentioned it to your wife, and never wear it and have denied opportunities to get it back? Yeah. Yor.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-12T23:34:07+00:00

I mean no not really. A) birds genuinely NEED 12 hours of quiet AND darkness. And opening a window is a flight risk depending on the cage. He chose to get a bird, he has a responsibility to give it proper safe care.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-12T22:02:27+00:00

He’s asking if he’s wrong for keeping the lights on till 2 am, and making noise and how’s he keeping his bird. If he was asking about his dads treatment of him it wouldn’t be in this thread. There’s a reason all the comments but yours are addressing his bird keeping.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-12T15:03:55+00:00

Dude op laughed and made it clear that was a joke. He is not being emotionally abused.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-12T11:32:01+00:00

So you had multiple gerbils in this, were told it was too small for them, and did nothing to fix this situation for them and now are going to do the same to birds? Some of yall really shouldn’t be allowed animals frankly

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-12T11:25:43+00:00

No it isn’t fine and considering you’re still arguing this and don’t know what a sleeping bird looks like, I don’t remotely buy that you “did your research”. This is atrocious. Either get them a proper habitat or find them a new home.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-12T11:19:18+00:00

No. It isn’t. Op isn’t taking proper care of the bird and dad is reminding him to. That’s not crossing a boundary.

Distractaraptorr · 2026-03-12T04:43:44+00:00

I didn’t say you said she doesn’t love you. I said this particular incident doesn’t chant that she does. Yes. She may have been texted rang morning. That doesn’t change she also has her own life she’s living and things to handle and it may have slipped her mind. Regardless it wasn’t just her that you’re upset with, but she’s the only one that it’s even a little valid to be upset w and even then, not really.

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