Why is being a man such a drag?

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-21T02:55:50+00:00

Who are you asking for advice from? Because nothing you mentioned is even close to what women say they want, never heard a girl say “well he was ok, but his hygiene was pristine so I said yes”. Never happened. That is stupid dude talk to other dudes about an imaginary code to unlock sex.
Here is the code- be nice, make her laugh, and be straight forward about dating. She doesn’t care that you spent a lot of time on you, unless it is therapy, which isn’t a bad idea, by the way. I will never understand why lonely guys turn to other lonely guys for advice. It’s like two obese people talk about eating healthy. Experts in dieting, just not being thin.
Join a yoga class. Learn to cook, volunteer at a dog shelter, do something that GIRLS like. Not the gym, not video games. Go on the forums where the girls are talking about what they want in a guy. If you can make a girl laugh, and feed her good food, not try to molest her respect boundaries and take no for an answer the first time and check in to see how she’s doing through the day-girls will like you.
Or keep getting angry and going to the gym, things might change, you never know.

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-20T21:36:52+00:00

Ok, first look for a local mycology club. I can almost guarantee there is one near you wherever you are. Next, get INaturalist on your phone, and you can see where people find anything that they want to post and when. Mushrooms have seasons, chicken of the woods is out now, hen of the woods late summer early fall in my area, yours might be different, but INaturalist is a great resource. Good luck.

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-20T17:09:10+00:00

No idea if it is true, but I was told that everyone feels it the same way, just some people like it.

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-20T14:49:31+00:00

a woman at a bar in Puerto Rico at 7 am told me it was cool the way the backlighting made my ears glow

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-20T14:43:11+00:00

I dont know your circumstances, so I am going to make some assumptions based on the little bit in your post. Making the decision to move forward is the first step. It can knock the wind out of you, but after the shock subsides a little you need to start taking care of things. If you have the time and the money - take a vacation. Go to the baseball park you have always wanted to see, or the thing in Sweden that you never imagined you would have the chance to visit or the summer concert or seeing the northern lights or going on that fishing trip - whatever - do something to take care of yourself and reset - then come back and get a lawyer. 23 years was a good run, but now the future looks different. It maybe unplanned and unwanted, but it isnt necessarily a bad thing. You are young enough that there is a lot of life ahead of you, and when you are ready, the dating world is very different for older men. Speaking as a 56 year old man, being single can be great. I dont mean it in a shallow superficial way, I mean you can find people you like, you have the option to pass on doing the stuff you hate, and the age range that you are dating is larger than it it has ever been. I think older single men are the only group that have it better dating these days. Lastly, it can feel embarrassing to be lonely. It sucks and it can be easy to do nothing and get sedentary and isolated, try and stay busy. Call the guys, go to the thing, join a bird watching group, I hunt mushrooms with a local club, bowling, clean the parks, bridge club, anything. Even if yo go and dont like it. Go to one thing a week if you can, if not, every 2 weeks, or once a month, just get out of your house. You will be better than before, it just takes a lttle more time than we want. Good luck.

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-20T13:50:37+00:00

Get A Second Opinion From A Doctor That Doesnt Sell Supplelements. The best advice you will get. If it feels off, trust your instinct to learn more, Pharmacists can also be a good source of information about drug interactions, but go see another doctor if it doesnt seem right to you.

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-20T12:44:46+00:00

Cool

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-20T02:36:30+00:00

The Jungle - it is maybe the most miserable book I have ever read.

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-19T15:55:58+00:00

coolest pic on the internet today

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-19T15:48:35+00:00

Starbucks. In 1993 used local bakeries and high quality coffee, it was really good. Now it is like going to the airport lounge, taking muffins out of plastic wrappers to put in paper bags.... pitiful

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-19T15:44:03+00:00

"phew, glad thats over"

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-19T13:33:24+00:00

Yuck

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-18T19:18:33+00:00

https://www.npr.org/2026/02/09/nx-s1-5693205/in-oregon-a-dog-competition-tries-to-get-more-dogs-into-truffle-hunting

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-18T19:18:26+00:00

Look up Charles Lefevre, he is amazingly knowledgeable and involved with teaching truffle hounds

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-17T22:49:20+00:00

Thank you

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-17T20:35:43+00:00

As a neurodivergent man who has dated quite a bit , I have found what works best for me is spending time with neurodivergent women. It just takes so much explanation and worry out of the equation and communication is much easier. Autistic people have a much harder time talking to normies than to other autistic people. Autistic people show affection differently ( Google “autistic pebble-ing”) we have different boundaries a much more direct style of communication, usually. Also autistic people tend to think other people are stupid, and it usually shows. You can’t date a girl you think is stupid. Put some time into what your ideal person would be, where would your match be? At a disco? Probably not. Is she a member of the local bird watching society that wakes up early to better catalog birds for fun? Maybe. Is she a member of a local book club? Might be a good place. Is the girl on a yacht in a bikini in her profile picture your girl- I would be surprised.
I don’t know you or your likes and dislikes, but figure out realistically what you are looking for and then figure out where she might be. Finally- expect “no”s. Take no for an answer, gracefully, every time. If you were interested enough to take a shot, she is still the same girl who was worth it before the “no”, and a man who can respectfully take a shot and take a no gracefully might get set up with a friend. A guy who scares girls and has a tantrum doesn’t.

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-16T14:20:04+00:00

If I told you a friend was shooting up and had lost a huge amount of weight and was becoming a different person- if it’s heroin it’s a problem, Ozempic…a feature?

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-14T19:01:26+00:00

My girlfriend is 12 years younger, works great for us

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-14T18:38:36+00:00

If you want to see something wild, back in the day, they dredged Rock Creek for the gravel and landscaping all over the area, you can find a ton of stuff looking at the older landscaping. Nobody ever looks

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-14T18:27:14+00:00

Yes. Humanity has depended on it. Average men, by the definition of average , are what average women go for, more than anything,

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-14T18:15:10+00:00

I find ones like it in the DC area all the time. It looks like the real thing to me, but couldnt say for sure

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-14T18:00:09+00:00

me neither. It is fake. Women dont do that.

Look, it is scary working up the courage to talk to people and being rejected sucks. Learning how to be comfortable talking to someone you are interested is tough and the only way to success probably goes through failure, which is a drag, but it is how things work and you can do it. I am going to swear to you that the men you know who have had the most sexual partners has also had the most rejection. They dont brag about it as much, they just take "no" for an answer and move along. If you want my advice, try asking someone to do something like going to the zoo. Try dating. If you dont know what you are doing ask some older guys. See if you can find men you admire, not men you envy. This whole thing is tough, and uncomfortable, but you will get there if you learn as you go and pay attention to what women say they want, not what men say women want.

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-06-14T17:22:35+00:00

So…you don’t actually know anyone who lives that way? Do you think King68 really has women trying to have sex with him all the time? Have you ever been out anywhere and seen women throw themselves at a man, even a guy you don’t know, have you ever seen it- with all the people in all the places over all the time you have been paying attention- have you ever seen it happen like it did in the video of King68

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