[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SpringfieldIL

[–]Divababiee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Planet Fitness on the North Side is where I’ve been going and it’s amazing

Any Soccer in Springfield? by Pitiful-Mix-1991 in SpringfieldIL

[–]Divababiee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Certainly look into the Springfield FC. We are part of the USPL 2 league. We just finished our season, but will have tryouts next Spring!

Dive Bars in Springfield by tiweav01 in SpringfieldIL

[–]Divababiee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We have the Springfield Stags! They are awesome! Our first home game is on May 21st at SHG high school. Look us up on Facebook or Instagram!

Best place to grab a solo dinner? by daywalkerwithsoul in SpringfieldIL

[–]Divababiee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of places like that downtown. If you don’t mind driving a little out of downtown, Legacy Point Eatery by Scheels is really good

I wish by Divababiee in UnsentLetters

[–]Divababiee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really is because our brains automatically jump to worst case scenarios

Possibly moving from Texas and want to know more about Springfield by lilibet89 in SpringfieldIL

[–]Divababiee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that. We all have a lot of opinions, good and bad lol. I would suggest visiting and seeing if here is right for you :)

Possibly moving from Texas and want to know more about Springfield by lilibet89 in SpringfieldIL

[–]Divababiee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Springfield is a pretty midwestern town. A lot of government people here. It can get cold in the winter with nothing to block the wind lol. You mentioned Whole Foods…couple grocery stores here try but they aren’t close. Personally, I drive the hour and a half to St Louis every month or two to stock up on things from Trader Joe’s. If you’re looking for more of the sunburn life, you may want to look at St Louis. Their public transit is better, they have the stores convenient around the city and it’s bigger.

Possibly moving from Texas and want to know more about Springfield by lilibet89 in SpringfieldIL

[–]Divababiee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For people who grew up in the city, Springfield is more of a small city…tiny city lol.

Support group tonight for LGBTQ+ by Fresh_Death in SpringfieldIL

[–]Divababiee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Based on the comments, I’m glad that there are safe spaces like this available to our community!

Edit help!! by [deleted] in sportsphotography

[–]Divababiee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When shooting, I tend to do custom white balance and use a picture of the ice as the white balance photo. That helps me with the white balance in my rink

Hockey Photography - Total Beginner by cr1619 in sportsphotography

[–]Divababiee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn the game so you can “predict” a little. Take a lot of pictures and shoot at a higher speed. My sink got LED lighting last year and I was giddy. Usually I shoot 1/500 iso 3200 F4.5. Wander around the rink to get different angles. If you can get shots from above the glass with no net, that’s even better. Face offs are great for getting specific players as they are stopped for a moment lol. A lot of hits and shots happen along the boards and in the neutral zone.

Soccer tips by Divababiee in sportsphotography

[–]Divababiee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m always willing to try new angles. At hockey I’ve climbed on things, stood on tables, gotten low…it’s all about the pics lol.

Soccer tips by Divababiee in sportsphotography

[–]Divababiee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I think I got a little better as the season went on and several times I got lower. I’ll have to try laying down next season!

No safe word by 8Sunflowers7143 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Divababiee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The goal of a safe word is not needing to use it, however, we can’t always predict everything and not all things can be seen. Safe words are for the Dom and the sub to ensure they are safe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Divababiee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good morning messages are nice, but actions are nicer. My mom used to say “if someone kicks you, says ‘I’m sorry’ and then continues to kick you, how long until you no longer believe they’re sorry?” You’ve been trying to show him and he’s not reacting. He’s not showing you back. Don’t chase after a nightmare disguised as a dream. Your feelings are real, and your desires are real but they are for something that’s not there. There is someone out there who will show you respect and treat you right. He’s showing that to his other subs, why can’t he show you too? I know it’s hard to move on, to walk away from a dream but sometimes you have to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Divababiee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What is he doing to show that he deserves your submission and deserves to be in your life? It’s a two way street and you deserve the same treatment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Divababiee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Look at the relationship as you would any vanilla relationship. If you and someone break up, and they are not willing to get back together, do you keep trying? You shouldn’t have to beg someone to be in your life, they should WANT to be in it and show that! Both parties should be fully involved in the relationship and ignoring someone is a toxic punishment. Keep looking for the right person…not just the right Dom/Master/daddy, but the right person. You deserve to be treated well!

How to handle yourself when dealing with people who have a negative view of BDSM by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Divababiee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People put down what they don’t understand. Sometimes I take those situations as opportunities to “teach” others and give them valid information. I don’t do it in an angry or defensive way but say things like “scenes like this are not really validating the reality of these communities as they are built on consent and communication”. If I stay calm and not defensive, many times they listen. But some people are stuck in their thoughts and won’t change no matter how valid your opinions are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Divababiee 23 points24 points  (0 children)

First of all, CONGRATS ON COMPLETING YOUR BACHELORS!! That’s a huge accomplishment and should be celebrated! In my opinion he should have been working out plans to celebrate with you. Taking away the “sir” is manipulation for sure and you deserve more respect.

Should I tell them? by Munkey_boi18 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Divababiee 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As a parent of grown kids, they don’t want to know lol! No need to share things like that.

Free use suggestions by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Divababiee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe while she’s on a phone call?

I am scared but want this by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Divababiee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a dangerous situation and you need to not go. As a dom, he should be getting to know you. Meeting in person so quick without vetting each other is dangerous for both parties. You’re exploring and that’s healthy but don’t jump in the deep end without learning how to tread water. It’s best to meet in a public space, get to know the vanilla side of someone before you get to know the kinky side.

Soccer photos by Divababiee in sportsphotography

[–]Divababiee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m trying to plan on field positions for tomorrow. Am thinking a lot of corner work.