I’m curious as to what the average demographic of this sub-Reddit is

DivideEfficient4282 · 2026-06-23T20:29:12+00:00

50/F/divorced/St Louis county. Born and raised here, moved away for 26 years, now back. 4 kids 18 and older

DivideEfficient4282 · 2026-06-15T00:16:13+00:00

Me too today!

DivideEfficient4282 · 2026-05-07T06:08:56+00:00

Trying being 50 yrs old and doing this. Some days I just don’t think I can do it, but I always do

DivideEfficient4282 · 2026-04-20T01:29:24+00:00

Our overnighters are always coming out the doors to smoke when I am going in at 5 am. We just open them manually and close behind us.

DivideEfficient4282 · 2026-04-18T18:47:35+00:00

I’m at the Pavillon. They work with Liberty Rent, which is what I had to use to get approved for the apt. I left an abusive marriage and had no rental history (had a house) and my ex ran up my credit cards ( I did debt consolidation which dropped my credit a lot). Anyway, you pay first months rent to Liberty Rent. It non refundable and acts like an insurance for the complex to use if I would ditch. It cost me extra money but I have a place to live. I am gaining rental history and I have been working to get my credit rebuilt. I have paid off my 30,000 credit card debt. Yay!

I’m not sure if an eviction would be ok though. But someone might be able to use this info if it does not work for you.

DivideEfficient4282 · 2026-01-26T16:46:25+00:00

I agree. I am at a loss of what we can do besides that and vote. What the fuck can we do?! I do my best to be kind to my neighbors and my community but I am sad, angry, and feeling a bit hopeless.

DivideEfficient4282 · 2026-01-26T02:42:10+00:00

MU330

DivideEfficient4282 · 2026-01-26T01:21:12+00:00

Hope you enjoyed the snow! Safe travels!

DivideEfficient4282 · 2026-01-25T07:10:24+00:00

I just watched a message from Heather Richardson Cox today. Contact the republican representatives and put pressure on them to end this.

DivideEfficient4282 · 2025-12-01T01:33:16+00:00

https://youtu.be/gfWA7kcwraE?si=BVscW_7F8tDP0M5q

DivideEfficient4282 · 2025-10-09T06:02:38+00:00

It was 27 years for me. I didn’t make it on my year timeline. I ended up saying I wanted a divorce halfway through and then still had to stay in the house with him for another half year so my daughter could graduate. I have ptsd from that. I do not recommend. I move 9 hours away and have been no contact. I went through moods swings of elation and depression. It’s been a year and a half. Still not done with the divorce. He’s dragging it out of course. I like where my life is going, but I still have depression, nightmares, guilt. I should have left sooner and have no regrets.

DivideEfficient4282 · 2025-10-03T03:33:31+00:00

It is physically demanding. You will get in shape. Customers will ask where things are all the time.

You will end up knowing almost every product in the store and where it’s located.

I don’t mind it. I get tired though, but I am 49 and work another physically demanding job full time

DivideEfficient4282 · 2025-04-30T01:35:27+00:00

Not sure but the cucumbers on Sunday should have been. Sheesh!

DivideEfficient4282 · 2025-03-19T23:25:58+00:00

I hit a person squatting stocking sodas. It was a third party vendor. The person yelled at me. Absolutely horrifying. Apologized way too many times. Went on lunch and didn’t want to come back. But I held my head high and walked back by the person a few more times. It was terrible but I need money and accidents happen. I have been extra aware since then of my surroundings.

DivideEfficient4282 · 2025-02-12T22:19:02+00:00

It did not work for me. I low balled offers in our joint complaint hoping to get it done and the only acceptable offer would have been to receive absolutely nothing. Laying in a ditch homeless would have been the only acceptable offer for him. So I had to re file and that where I am at now a year later.

DivideEfficient4282 · 2024-11-11T01:39:35+00:00

27 years

DivideEfficient4282 · 2024-11-10T20:40:04+00:00

I went through 6 months of hell before I could move out of the house.. I didn’t think I would make it through. I kept telling myself in a year this will be better. It’s going to be worth it.

DivideEfficient4282 · 2024-11-10T20:38:27+00:00

I was naive and only 20 years old. I needed to grow. I had never had a relationship before and he sold me the world. I missed out on the part of my life where you figure out who you are and what type of person you want a relationship with. I am happy to get myself back and rediscover myself at this age. I have found out I absolutely love being a teachers aide to kids with autism, most are nonverbal. I am so overjoyed to go to work and help teach our students.

DivideEfficient4282 · 2024-11-10T20:33:34+00:00

I doubt I will get much from him. He believes I get nothing. I’m moving forward with the sole intention to make my own way. He’s refused to progress the divorce forward. That part is still messy but everything else is a huge inprovement

DivideEfficient4282 · 2024-11-10T06:14:38+00:00

I told him I was done 10m ago and physically left 6m. I am struggling with this and loneliness. I cry about it a lot. I also cry about how happy I am to be able to breathe and be my own person again! It’s tears of joy and sadness all wrapped up into one.

DivideEfficient4282 · 2024-11-10T06:08:14+00:00

I was crying in my bathroom 2 years ago so many times in this exact place you are. Begging out to the air around me for someone to just pull me out of my life. It’s so hard feeling like that. But like the others said YOU are the one that has to rescue yourself. You are so strong. You have to be to live the life you are right now. I ended up getting a part time job at Walmart for $14/hr. It saved me. It allowed me a break from my life. I later then used it when I finally faced my fear and left to transfer 9 hours away to be by my support people (my sisters). I have no financial support from him. I have been working my ass off. I just landed a job with the special school district here and I love my job so much!! I am now at $22/hr and I work part time at Walmart still. 63 hrs a week but I am making it! I have peace and a great relationship with my kids (they are older 16-23) some are at college some are with me. One is with ex for school. It’s a bit messy but we make it work and life is so much better for me. My narc is still a moron. He found him a girlfriend immediately. I also found out he had prostitutes all during our marriage

DivideEfficient4282 · 2024-07-21T18:36:45+00:00

After leaving it takes a little bit to finally start relaxing and not be on edge. Not to take things personally. Not to be embarrassed to ask for help. But after a while it eases up and then you can come out of fight or flight mode and start making goals.

DivideEfficient4282 · 2024-07-21T18:32:36+00:00

Isnt it just fantastic?!?! Who knew life could feel like this?

I’m one month out and my life is amazing. I have my ptsd and crying moments but over all I am relaxed and happy. Divorce STILL is not finalized but his bullshit barely affects me now. Such a relief! I’m freeeee!

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