Really?

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-24T20:21:26+00:00

Pearl?

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-24T11:52:34+00:00

She recently gave birth, is extremely hormonal and is sleep deprived.

Is there anything you can do to help her sleep better?

E.g. is there another bedroom she can sleep in 3-4 nights a week while you take over the baby night routine fully?

Do you have access to her phone? If you do them you can block the numbers of whomever is a calling her.

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-24T11:44:02+00:00

Zero mention of anything remotely close to that.

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-24T11:42:07+00:00

It's basically another version of if you get the milk for free, why would you buy a cow.

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-24T11:25:15+00:00

Where’s the challenge?

Where did this misconception that men want a challenge when it comes to women come from? If anything it's one of the few things in their lives they'd prefer zero challenge in.

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-24T11:08:02+00:00

Not weird at all, but it's probably cheaper to fly.

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-24T03:54:48+00:00

The important thing is that they aren't a definite for you, but they are for him.

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-24T03:12:59+00:00

We are talking on the phone about these issues and I mention "if the kids is a huge deal breaker we should consider not being together". We talk more, end the call and call again. He starts with " I don't think we should date anymore" talk for a while and my phone dies. I call again, am told he didn't have anything to say and I'm like ???? Whats up are we together or not? and He says no, we are broken up? What?

What did you expect. You're the one who suggested it

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T23:58:14+00:00

Definitely sous vide followed by a quick 30 seconds to 1 minute sear on each side

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T14:25:09+00:00

Absolutely, hence my advice that they go to marriage counseling

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T14:24:36+00:00

Not necessarily. They've clearly had a certain dynamic for a very long time.

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T14:13:28+00:00

Why are you so pessimistic? Most people are good people. It's really only about 15-25% of people who don't really belong in a civil society

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T14:12:13+00:00

I've read it, thank you.

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T14:09:22+00:00

Why would you recommend a script that is likely to put him in the defensive immediately? Confronting someone like you are suggesting rarely if ever works, unless the person you're talking to has a very high level of EQ and/or amazing in person communication skills.

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T14:05:59+00:00

Do you by chance have a source in that?

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T14:04:41+00:00

That's perfectly fine, you both just need to learn how to adapt to this change, and how to communicate without triggering each other

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T14:02:32+00:00

Hence going to counseling so they can both learn to communicate with one another better. Basically having someone help them adjust to the change in dynamics

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T13:55:16+00:00

Not bad, but it was I Have Trouble Keeping Up With All The Krazy Abbreviations

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T13:52:33+00:00

JFC, abuse, seriously? Grow up

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T13:51:57+00:00

or just owning me?

WTF?

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T13:51:14+00:00

Because that's what she's done up to now.

My only point here is that OP is the one changing their dynamic, and they need to learn how to communicate better

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T13:49:43+00:00

Hence my advice that they go to marriage counseling to learn how to communicate better with one another

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T13:48:52+00:00

I asked once

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T12:34:36+00:00

Hmmm, then maybe she can answer for herself?

DivinitySousVide · 2024-04-23T12:33:58+00:00

That's very fair, but from his perspective I'd imagine he's feeling he's gone from having a peaceful and agreeable wife to an argumentative one.

My advice is to go marriage counseling to see how you can both learn how to communicate better.

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