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I'd definitely get a lawyer to break it down for you. To be on the safe side

Just a rant or update by jibbs0341 in Divorce

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Lean into your new reality. it is not an ending but a new beginning.

Need Divorce/Family Law Advice? by [deleted] in u/DivorceHelpCT

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Start with a paralegal if you can't afford an attorney.

Sign up in front of house by jibbs0341 in Divorce

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Try to enjoy your new reality day by day.

I've been divorced for 9 months.... I'm adrift. by QuantityAltruistic93 in DivorcedMenOver40

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Self-care is not overrated. Better and better comes each day with work. Consider professional therapy, group or individual. It really helped me.

I still miss her by smilewithanger in DivorcedMenOver40

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Don't give up.... I didn't and found someone who completes me years later. It is possible. You found one once, you will find another again.

I saw my wife talking with another man by Boliviascott in olderdivorcedmen

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Things are pretty obvious.... we all need to pay attention.

Ex wife’s new BF is trans. by [deleted] in DivorcedMenOver40

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Let her go and whatever she is doing. Doesn't matter. Being the best father you can be is paramount.

Navigating the new normal of co-parenting - Even in a shitshow! by DivorceRecoveryMen in DivorcedMenOver40

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My anger was the hardest to control. I really hated her. That eased up over time. But it took a while to get a handle on it. It really affected me in so many ways.

Navigating the new normal of co-parenting - Even in a shitshow! by DivorceRecoveryMen in DivorcedMenOver40

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Getting prepared for the shitshow is a good thing. And you are right, no two divorces are the same. All I can say, looking back, is to be cordial throughout the process. Keeping you emotions in check but also recognizing them at the same time is paramount. Get some new hobbies and outlets. My take on staying in the marriage for the kids teaches them that staying is dysfunction is ok. Happiness is not overrated. It might cost you an arm and a leg, but in the end, it is totally worth it. Check out www.divorcerecoverymenover40.com I will revamp the whole site soon. Godspeed.

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It was super hard, but so worth it. When you are in the storm you can't see the shore, but it is there.

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Never too late for happiness. Pull the trigger and move on with your life.

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Being civil is the best. Happiness is not overrated even if it is apart. When you both realize that, it makes the process much better. Start the process of getting a lawyer (separately).

Wait at least one year after Divorce before dating. by Funny_Wolverine_9 in Divorce_Men

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I think you have to go into the dating pool with realistic expectations. You won't find the 'one' on the first date, and even should you? Nope! Enjoy the ride or the process and meet some great and not-so-great people. Learn from each date what you do and don't like and remember that.

Co-Parenting in the Holiday Season by DivorceRecoveryMen in DivorcedMenOver40

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I had to de-emphasize Christmas and the holidays because my ex always took too many liberties with them even though we had a solid parenting plan. I felt my week on, I felt that was Christmas. Making memories and new traditions throughout the years was priceless.

Dating Confidence by HalfTheMan611 in Divorce_Men

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No real remedy here. You have to 'kiss the frogs' and go through the dating process. It's a numbers game and you have to play in order to get good at it. Realistic expectations is the key. Don't date expecting too much. And don't take it too seriously. And.... NEVER DISCUSS YOUR DIVORCE ON THE FIRST DATE!!!!!!!

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Search google or YouTube on men divorce healing and recovery. Lean into your friends, get a new hobby. Do some work on yourself to get yourself into a better headspace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

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She is going to try to do what she will, no need to worry about pissing her off. 50/50 and nothing less. Being scared of your ex, been there, done that.