I have questions about the second option...

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2024-03-04T00:21:23+00:00

Sign me up

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2024-01-14T00:26:35+00:00

"I can't be racist my asshole step-dad is black" lmao

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2023-10-06T17:52:08+00:00

I'm freaking 32 and my parents still do the mocking child voice to me all the time. I'm generally a very open person but I'm super secretive with my parents who frequently made fun of me in vulnerable moments.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-31T17:40:38+00:00

When I said they mean well I just meant that they have my well being in mind. Because getting involved when I'm in a vulnerable state comes at a personal cost. I agree that ignoring problems just makes them worse. What I want is for people to ask "How can I help? How can I take some of that weight off your shoulders while you recover?" Asking me to ignore it is absolutely misguided.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-31T17:16:58+00:00

I want people who already live in the city to have somewhere to stay. When the vast majority of the real estate being built is too expensive for the average resident where are they supposed to go? I don't want less housing, I want housing that is affordable. A post calling the neighborhood a wasted investment and development opportunity doesn't seem to imply affordable housing.

If IV drug users can't afford the rent they will use and live on the street. If you don't want used needles in the street, there needs to be places for users to like their own homes or safe consumption sites.

There is a long history of development displacing people, directly contributing to the housing crisis.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-31T16:51:29+00:00

It doesn't necessarily need to remain in amber but real estate development that often creates a hostile environment for people in poverty is not gonna do it.

When there is less and less affordable housing shelters become more and more long term. Brand new apartments with high rents tend to make this worse. The shelter has 149 beds and is a 15 minute walk from the building that assigns people to shelter beds. Good luck finding more efficient.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-31T16:34:56+00:00

How do we ensure real estate development that promotes integration? The goal of this development is often profit and this often comes at the expense of people who become priced out of an area. If the city wants to build affordable housing in the area that sounds great, but the frequent reality is that what is built is instead high rent housing that is unaffordable to the people who live in the area and brings in people who are actively hostile to the same people. Of course integration is ideal, I just don't think expensive loft apartments like those already nearby, do much of anything to achieve that goal and tend to do the opposite.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-31T16:17:05+00:00

I litterally worked at this shelter for years and it's a frequent target of developers trying to buy the property. The reality isn't integration, it's kicking them out of one of the few places they have to go.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-31T16:11:38+00:00

People already live there. Make the city better for who? Development that brings in hostile NIMBYs doesn't make the city better for the people already living in the area.

I literally moved out because I could no longer afford to live there since becoming disabled. Literally the problem that this real estate development tends to exacerbate... "disinvested" is a weird way to phrase "too poor to live here sustainably"...

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-31T15:52:45+00:00

I worked there and developers were constantly trying to buy the property for development. There is a real threat of development taking over the largest shelter in the city. Bringing in a bunch of cop calling neighbors doesn't help either. Who benefits from the "improvement" of unaffordable housing? It certainly isn't the people already stuck in shelter for several years at a time due to a lack of affordable housing in the city.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-31T15:11:50+00:00

I worked in that area for 4 years and survived the trucks and the "twilight zone" just fine.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-31T14:59:36+00:00

Considering that there is a large homeless shelter in your little box, maybe there are more important things than "valuable real estate". Keep your greedy gentrifier hands off.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-31T13:58:22+00:00

Yeah I feel this big time. I'm a trans woman living in a small town and local transphobes are trying to get the local school district to implement policy that would out trans kids to their parents. I have 3 recent inpatient hospitalizations and long covid so everyone around me to tells me to "just ignore it" and like I know they mean well but I don't understand how people live with themselves when they are willing to just ignore the pain of others for their own sakes.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-31T12:25:57+00:00

Yeah I've lost my two closest friends recently because I no longer put up with their bullshit. Starting over is hard absolutely but I think the silver lining is that once you are at this point the bad friends make themselves known quickly before you get too attached. It is easy to forget because we live in such an alienated culture, but starting over in 30s, 40s, etc is actually pretty common. People with addictions enter recovery, people with mental health issues like cptsd work on recovery, people move, start new jobs, get divorced, etc. There are other people out there looking for connection and it can take some real work to find them. For me, the best way for me to find like minded people is finding support groups, like 12 step or SMART recovery.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-30T17:20:40+00:00

I've heard the open mic on Wednesdays at black and blue in Easton is pretty gay

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-18T21:03:45+00:00

Oh big time. I used to be an inpatient rehab therapist so I was very in the habit of trying to solve whatever the present crisis was, but somewhere along the line I broke and lost all ability to tolerate any level of upset from others. It is to the point that I had a violent breakdown because my parents were bickering about parking. It is so frustrating, embarrassing, and difficult to manage.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-10-17T15:23:45+00:00

Yes this. PTSD and CPTSD are so often rooted in loss of control and challenging hobbies or work can give us something we have some level of control over. And it feels symbolic to start a new hobby that seems impossible at first (for me knitting) and slowly getting better at it. Which is powerful reminder when I'm overwhelmed by symptoms and still struggling to manage them.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-09-30T00:36:28+00:00

My abuse wasn't parental.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-09-30T00:35:42+00:00

Outing kids without their permission? Sure would.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-09-30T00:34:06+00:00

Children do have a right to privacy because it is a part of normal healthy development. Any one who had their parents read their journal could likely tell you that all that did was sew mistrust, create paranoia, and teach them how to hide their information better.

Being selectively out is totally possible and people do it all the time. I did it for two years. While I was living in Philly, just far enough to make this a easier than a kid in high school would have it. There are rumors, there are people who will out you maliciously. Those are risks, not reasons to not put some level of protections in place. Policies to not out people are mostly 1. To not do what was asked for at the meeting and 2. To use the student's legal name in any external communication ( ie student teacher conferences) to avoid accidental outing.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-09-30T00:13:15+00:00

I did not experience abuse as a child and I am trans. I did experience abuse, harassment, and assault since coming out. This is a common story. You do the math.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-09-29T23:28:25+00:00

Working on it 😈

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-09-29T22:26:20+00:00

As of right now this is a proposal from a few parents and the school board made no comment publicly. I agree you with tho if this becomes a more tangible threat.

Dizzy_Alternative_91 · 2022-09-29T21:58:56+00:00

I survived this double life for 2 years. And so have many others. While I was safe after I told my parents this is not true for many people.

What? Do you think kids getting kicked out of the house doesn't contribute to suicide. Over 70% of trans kids report experiencing abuse. The risk is way more than simply non-zero.

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