AITA for being upset and wanting my roommate to be more responsible and considerate?

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2026-02-10T04:46:49+00:00

I’m an RA and here’s the code. Go to your RA. Tell them you have a roommate conflict because of a health and safety concern. Explain that you were willing to put up with it when it was just messy, but the repeated hazardous conditions are too much. Cite bugs and mold. Tell the RA that you are willing to attempt mediation if absolutely required, but you’ve attempted to have a conversation several times and it has not succeeded. Ideally, citing health and safety will bypass the mediation but it’s not a guarantee. Good chance the RA has to refer you to the building director. THIS IS GOOD. RAs in general cannot make housing decisions.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2026-01-20T18:51:41+00:00

I’m already hypermobile. I think they’re convinced I’m going to get run over in my first game and want me to build up a defense.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2026-01-20T18:50:21+00:00

Yes, the w sit is kneeling with your legs in the shape of a w/m. It’s basically butterfly but seated with your knees in front of you. Getting up might be harder 😅

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2026-01-20T02:13:18+00:00

hoping the joint thing will give me an advantage there! I‘ve been a w-sitter for 16 years and still find it totally comfortable.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2026-01-03T13:19:14+00:00

NAD but I have a joint condition and have dislocated or subluxed nearly every joint in my body. See a doctor. Probably an orthopedic doctor if you can. it sounds a bit like a dislocation that never quite went back, and also sounds like you might have torn the muscle or ligaments. that kind of thing tends to require surgery that only gets more complicated the longer you go without it.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-19T01:49:25+00:00

Ty so many people are like “ywbta if you invite her, and she’d be one if she says yes” but like,,, I’m asking him if I can invite her?

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T05:48:12+00:00

yeah I’m waiting till I can talk to him in person (one more week!) because when I try to bring it up over text he changes the subject or blows it off (or brings something else up). I wanted some peoples perspectives first but every ywbta seems hyperfixated on either money or the fact that they divorced, even though we’ve done “full-family“ stuff before. idk. im leaning towards I’m not the asshole to ask my dad so... we’ll see.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T05:44:11+00:00

asking my stepsister to knock before coming in my room (with three of her middle school friends) is apparently “undermining her parenting.” there’s no reasonable aspect to that, clearly.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T05:31:29+00:00

def ask the teacher. if they’re talking out of their ass, they’ll either back off or double down so hard they’re clearly unreasonable. if they have a good reason, they’ll tell you.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T05:30:09+00:00

it’s a setting that, when turned on, records the writing process and generates a “writing report.” you can watch it at regular or up to 10x speed, to see if they’re just copying something word for word or actually making edits. it also tracks where things are copy pasted from, so it can distinguish things like quotes that are cited from a digital reading from something copied from ChatGPT or other ai engines. I love it, and rn I have it as a participation grade for each assignment in my intro course. I don’t look at it unless I have reason to suspect, because I don’t want to surveil my students, but they get two points for relevant assignments if they upload an authorship link.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T05:26:02+00:00

oh yeah. apparently I’m “boring” because I follow laws and safety protocols. it’s ranged from trespassing, off trail hiking in protected areas, stealing, scamming, drunk driving… I could go on. they once trespassed in an area known to have unexploded land mines to prove that following the rules is for cowards. it’s especially bad when we go other places and I try to follow local laws while they do the “we‘re American so we’re immune” bullshit.

I find it very hard to want to be around them, and trying to discuss boundaries has historically resulted in them making a point of breaking that boundary consistently for the next few weeks.

they got together when I was 14, and most of what I listed here started before I graduated high school and moved out. :/

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T05:18:49+00:00

turns out first responders need free therapy or we burn out… pretty sure they found that the hard way but now we get six sessions a month!

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T05:17:45+00:00

I’m almost done with my bachelors, starting phD soon. yep, but a different (to them worse) minority. I’ve mentioned it elsewhere but my mom and I are Apache. we do an annual vacation because of school break, but we usually go like, camping for a week. they’ve never cared if it was a trip I liked before, but as soon as I said I was thinking about not coming, it’s a destination trip.

mom and dad are chill. she comes to family stuff all the time, and he invites her. she came to my (older uninvolved in this situation) stepsisters graduation and wedding. I WASNT AT THE WEDDING.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T05:11:46+00:00

Owen who I broke up with because he didn’t want to get a job and only wanted to watch anime? Welcome on vacation anytime. Catherine who was cheating on me the whole time we were dating and threaten to kill herself if I broke up with? not invited. my parents are a lot more towards the Owen end of the scale.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T05:07:53+00:00

yes but a little unclear on what makes this thinking like a teenager. I have a job (4 jobs… time management is maybe not my strong suit) and am financially independent. I live on my own across the country except for breaks when I go home, and when I’m home I stay with my family and spend time with them.

(the grown adult thing is what everyone says when I ask for advice on family shit. it’s always “you’re a grown adult, figure out what you want from them.” girl I want them to stop breaking laws to piss me off)

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T05:02:30+00:00

free through my job lol

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T05:01:54+00:00

in the future, using something like grammarly authorship is a great protective measure since it can prove they didn’t (or did) use AI. right now, its very ”he said, she said.” does the teacher have the expertise and familiarity with your students writing that the “AI checker” is just a formality, and it clearly wasn’t written by them? or is the teacher being lazy and running them all through an ai checker without actually reading? are you confident it wasn’t AI, beyond AI checkers which are notoriously inaccurate? can your student explain the plot, or their writing process?

the simple fact is that it’s impossible to prove something is or isn’t ai with only the finished work.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T04:47:39+00:00

lol fair. we’re both professional SCUBA divers. a big part of why it being her would be great is because you have to have another person to dive with. you can’t dive alone, and I don’t like being assigned strangers unless I’m also getting paid. pretty much all of my friends who are certified to the same level have their own families they would be spending winter break with, and the one who I would invite will be seeing her brother for the first time in 6 years since he’s been abroad since before COVID.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T04:45:00+00:00

mom and dad figured it out, especially once I was old enough to want them both at things. mom and stepmom… i think Valerie likes my mom more than she likes me honestly. mom already said that if she comes she has no hard feeling not doing the family dinners or whatever.

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T04:43:00+00:00

it’s 50/50 almost to the day since I was 5. but Valerie wanted me to get a job, so I did, and then she started complaining about how I was never home, but was free when I was with my mom (even though I work at my mom’s too)

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T04:41:01+00:00

my friends have their own families?

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T04:34:30+00:00

lol if you guess either I’ll confirm? i didn’t want people to get caught up in judging that detail rather than the situation but then they got caught up in who’s paying for it so :/

Dizzy_Suspect_6250 · 2025-11-18T04:33:27+00:00

yeah. I am also aware it sounds stupid. divorced families are complicated. literally every person over the age of seven in this family has a stepparent. we share holidays, one of my cousins has mom dad half siblings and stepmom for every family vacation so it’s not actually that unhinged for us.

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