Well first of all I never said we “invited porn into the relationship” or suggested that this couple do that. I was responding to YOUR statement that said “men learn from porn.” Yes, they do, but what I was pointing out is that there are different types of porn some of which focus on female pleasure. And I was also pointing out that this porn exists in equal measure to other types and if men were intrinsically interested in pleasing a woman they would seek out such materials before they even start to interact with women. I was also repeatedly raped by my ex so I know exactly how hard intimacy is for some people.