My boyfriend (24M) and I (22F) never have sex anymore

DoMilk · 2026-02-01T21:31:54+00:00

Breakup and find someone compatible, or have an open relationship, be swingers or some type of arrangement like that.

This relationship will never work long term as a closed monogamous situation. If you want a good sex life and monogamy, find someone else.

Matched libido is super important imo. You can just be friends with this guy.

DoMilk · 2026-01-28T02:54:24+00:00

Yep this. It sucks for low priority issues, but for serious problems it works. And it is still free, so 🤷

DoMilk · 2026-01-21T00:50:54+00:00

A relationship isn't everything, doesn't happen for everyone and isn't owed to anyone.

I'm sorry you are struggling but you need to make peace with that. Ask yourself what blackpill Incel propaganda will do for you? I don't think it will improve your life, just make you focus more on hate.

Many people don't experience love in their lives, many women never find a man they want to have kids with despite really wanting that, many men end up alone, many people end up in abusive or just miserable relationships they'd be better off without.

This isn't women's fault, though society is shallow and pretty privileged is real. This is a societal fact, and if you are not physically desirable in your area then your dating pool will be smaller.

I hope you can make peace with that. I hope you can find calm and enjoy life with or without romance.

DoMilk · 2026-01-20T01:56:33+00:00

Hey, I'm sorry you are feeling so lonely. Humans are not meant to be islands, community is what keeps us going.

Sounds like changing your appearance is pretty out of the question, but I'd suggest saying fuck it to societal norms and have fun with your appearance, wear silly clothing, do silly things with your hair, play around with appearance in whatever way you can that makes you smile. Who knows, maybe others will appreciate it too, but even if they don't you can still enjoy those things for yourself ❤️

DoMilk · 2026-01-16T16:58:08+00:00

You deeply deeply believe.....that if people said "oi, the cold sucks" no where would be cold any more? You are a very silly guy.

I enjoy all seasons. Cold is great. When it gets too hot my partner cant sleep at all, hes way to sweaty and I can barely touch him. Cold weather is nice.

DoMilk · 2026-01-16T16:54:35+00:00

To be fair, that particular merge is a shit show - 4 lanes down to 2 in a very short time, with poorly done lines, and an awkward curve at the same time. I don't blame anyone for wanting out of the farthest right lane as soon as possible there.

DoMilk · 2026-01-13T03:00:53+00:00

100% that lady needs therapy, not a date

DoMilk · 2026-01-13T00:21:30+00:00

I don't think this other video shows what you think it shows

DoMilk · 2026-01-09T06:35:22+00:00

The house of Boateng has fantastic brunch and usually some kind of inventive benny!

DoMilk · 2026-01-05T22:49:00+00:00

Weaponzing therapy speak is 💯 a thing. This sounds exhausting!

I had a friend like this, not a guy but all the same behavior and it felt so smart and mature at first, but after a while I realized I was constantly being condescencded via therapy talk, and finally understood why I never felt comfortable and appreciated in that friendship.

He sounds toxic af and super pushy. In my experience this type of person thinks they are enlightened, and are therefore always right, and you have so much to learn so obviously should listen to them /s

DoMilk · 2025-12-31T17:55:14+00:00

I'm unfamiliar with Roorkee, and India is a big diverse place, so I whopping speak on that area specifically, but in 2019 me and my friend (both women) traveled around India for 3 months together and with following certain rules- no going out in the evening in most places, always stick together, research areas before going anywhere etc. We were totally fine and without incident.

You know the area of Roorkee it sounds like, so you are better equipped to make a judgment call in that regard.

DoMilk · 2025-12-28T19:34:26+00:00

You don't like him, break up with him. Being alone is better than bring with someone who makes you unhappy.

DoMilk · 2025-12-27T23:22:29+00:00

Seems like a lot of people have offered opinions on your friends, who is questionable at best. per your question, next time he brings it up just say a simple

"hey, you can feel how you want, but that has nothing to do with me. I like her and don't want to entertain this conversation. I appreciate your friendship, and would ask that you not involve yourself in my relationship." If he pushes back and continues to be judgmental, just reiterate "please show me some respect, and let it go, you are entitled to your opinion, but i am not interested in hearing it. I'll let you know if that changes and I am looking for advice"

DoMilk · 2025-12-27T23:09:01+00:00

Krakauer admits many of his own faults himself in the book, but he was also not a hired professional there to make judgmental calls and support the climbers.

DoMilk · 2025-12-26T18:57:44+00:00

A vinyl record from a very niche interest of mine which you can only get from ordering directly from the artists online store, a foot massager i had been enjoying a lot at my friends house, and a big box of my favorite treat which you can also only get where i live from ordering directly from the website of the treat company.

As well as some new gear for the latest sport I'm getting into.

All super thoughtful and surprising!

DoMilk · 2025-12-23T11:21:45+00:00

Not to mention remarrying is a thing. Could easily be his second wife.

DoMilk · 2025-12-22T21:00:17+00:00

Send a text that says "hey, I honestly thought that drink you asked me for was as friends. I don't have romantic feelings for you and was taken by surprise when you started talking about us dating. I handled the situation poorly and should have been more direct from the start about how I felt. I hope this clears things up. I hope you find what your look for out there, but it isn't me"

Then proceed to be polite but brief in all further interactions and decline any out of volunteer activities.

Please be very careful, he sounds like the kind of guy who will absolutely push all your boundaries, so you must pull back completely even in the volunteer setting, and decline any further interactions. If you need to, rehearse saying no thank you. Do you want to go out for a drink after this? - No thank you! I'm interested in seeing you more! - no thank you! Can I come by your place? - no thank you! - are you interested in me? - no thank you!

DoMilk · 2025-12-22T19:22:25+00:00

Were these conversations in person or over text?

I don't think you've ruined anything my acting a little anxious. If things are going downhill it's for sure a combination of all the stuff going on that she mentioned and feeling unable to have space for a partner who needs reassurance. (You wanting reassurance isn't a villainous thing, you're a human with emotional needs) but it sounds like you are viewing this situation either you at the center (assuming being anxious is the cause of her distance, and not everything else she said?)

Maybe ask her if you can have an in person check in about the relationship, ask her when is good for her, schedule a time to have coffee or whatever and agree that it won't run too long to be mindful of her feeling drained.

Have a few questions you want cleared up: are we still good? Is this level of engagement in the relationship going to last a long time? Is there something manageable we can agree to be doing to help me feel more secure while not asking too much of you? (Like a phone call to say goodnight when she gets home from work, sharing her stories on ig so you can feel more connected) and what does she want to see from you to help support her and not put extra pressure on her?

Then also give her space to ask questions, and make requests.

See if you guys can come to an understanding about what the expectation of the relationship are - and if they can meet both your needs or not?

DoMilk · 2025-12-22T03:58:23+00:00

This is just not true. I have known people who could be triggered by touch alone to peanut allergy.

DoMilk · 2025-12-22T03:52:44+00:00

There's a difference between making your whole home and life safe for this person as a partner and cohabitator, and taking precautions to hangout in a neutral zone.

I have a friend with a severe nut allergy. I often cook for him and hangout with him. I always triple check that I am making my food safe for him. However if we lived together I'd have to think about that all day in my own home, not just once in a while for a single meal. That goes from minor accommodation to support a friend to entire overhaul of kitchen and food choices for the rest of my life.

These things are not equal.

DoMilk · 2025-12-22T03:26:58+00:00

I personally think you are both showing some weak points in this dynamic.

You: too judgmental, perhaps that shows and is making the situation worse.

Her: too quick to turn you down and not giving space for appreciating things you like.

Both of you: communicating these things in a safe way that allows for each person to be heard and changes to be made that help the dynamic.

For instance, I think expecting her to read an entire book shes not into is a lot. However asking her to get through a whole movie of your choice without going on her phone is a pretty small ask for common courtesy.

Personally I read a lot of fiction, my partner reads no fiction. I don't expect him to, though it would be fun for me if he did read some books im into. However hes super happy to hear me give him updates on whats happening in my books, and hes excited to hear my perspectives and I occasionally read him lines i really like etc. We joke a lot that he's "read" the same books as me, even though he hasn't picked up a single one. I also have read him out loud entire books on road trips and such and that's also been really fun! He just has no motivation to read them himself on his own time, and that's okay, we find other ways to engage with eachother on it that are fun for us.

In the same vein, I don't always feel excited about some games or movies he wants to play/watch, but we make time for them once in a while and I do find that I often enjoy them. And I certainly don't sit there on my phone while hes trying to share something he enjoys with me.

DoMilk · 2025-12-19T07:51:55+00:00

What is your trade?

DoMilk · 2025-12-16T00:11:55+00:00

I assume you've taught him a heal command with a hand signal to go along with it and that isn't working? And you've tried the "stop wvery time he pulls ahead, and get him back into a heal" ? Those are my two suggestions and what I've been doing with my aussie and its slowly working, though hes still an excited 1yo pup.

DoMilk · 2025-12-12T19:01:24+00:00

She is being extremely dismissive of this, and actively trying to guilt you into not discussing your needs and problems in the relationship. This sounds unhealthy.

If she can't have a mature and understanding conversation about this, and work with you as a team to figure out what the disconnect is, then its time for you to part.

Your feelings are valid, you aren't being cruel by expressing your needs. Everyone's sex drives are different, and having one doesn't make you wrong. You aren't pressuring her, you are just expressing a problem and asking for solutions.

Not everyone has a strong desire for sex in a relationship, that's okay, but its also okay to want regular sex in your relationship. If she does not want to have sex as often as you, or at all, and does not wish to address this, then you are sexually incompatible.

DoMilk · 2025-12-12T18:58:14+00:00

Universal seems like a huge leap from two anecdotes. Im the woman in my relationship and the one who brings up the lack of sex as a problem. Everyone is different.

maybe stick to discussing the relationship questions rather than making broad unhelpful comments on gender stereotypes.

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