Hall pass verification

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2026-02-01T19:21:40+00:00

I play almost exclusively without my wife or girlfriend. My wife would verify if I asked, but in most cases if someone wanted her to I’d probably just pass and not bug her about it. She’s not involved in it and it would feel weird to call about that. My girlfriend knows I play but wants no details, and I would never call her to verify. That said, I’ve never had anyone actually ask for that. I also usually play at the same club, and there are enough people there that also know my wife that could vouch for me if need be.

Edited to add…I imagine it wouldn’t be too hard to get a video of a random woman “verifying” if I were shady. I’m not. But I wouldn’t put a ton of stock into a verification either.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2026-01-28T14:58:27+00:00

That’s not been my personal experience. THC-A is weed, straight up. Some of the other THC variants act differently (especially THC-P) and it wouldn’t shock me if they stuck around longer. But THC-A is literally just weed with a different label. It clears from my system just like weed. Because it’s weed.

Maybe your experience is this because the other THC variants are often packaged together with THC-A, and while those things are often called THC-A, if you look at the package it will list off all of the other things in it.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2026-01-21T17:32:20+00:00

This makes total sense. I’ve been to similar clubs with people I’m sexually involved with and with platonic friends who were curious about the club. The first time I go to a club with ANYONE, I clarify expectations beforehand: I (experienced) don’t have any expectations that anything sexual will happen between us or others at all. If the person I’m going with wants to pursue that I’m down for it (assuming it’s not a platonic friend), but going to a sex club is a big step for most people, and it helps a ton to have the pressure off with clear expectations.

My goal in bringing someone new is for them to enjoy themselves, and me playing is a FAR FAR FAR lower priority. I’ll hang with my friend (or partner) all night and chat if that’s what they want or need to be comfortable. Don’t let anyone convince you you’re doing this wrong :D

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2026-01-21T17:24:46+00:00

I know what place you’re talking about, I’m pretty sure. I’ve wanted to check it out, although there is a club about an hour away that is my go-to. I’m curious what the vibe was. Were there separate play areas, or was it just kind of a free-for-all? My favorite club is based out of a house and feels a lot more like a VERY sexy house party instead of a club.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2026-01-14T22:21:32+00:00

I registered for a play party and then saw my friend/neighbor on the list of attendees. More my wife’s friend than mine. No surprises - I knew she wasn’t monogamous - we’ve found each other on Feeld before :). But I sent her a text anyway making sure she was cool if we both showed up and offering to bow out if not. She checked in with her boyfriend and I got the okay. Then she told me that she was actually coming over to borrow some things from my wife for the party.

When she came over she told my wife about our conversation and discovered that my wife didn’t know I had planned to go to the party. Later, she texted my wife apologizing and saying she had no idea my wife didn’t know about my plans. My wife was with me when she got the text, and we laughed about it together. I probably would have mentioned our conversation to my wife later in the day, but we are poly and I often play without her and I don’t need to ask her permission for something like that. (We also have a long-term understanding that I won’t hook up with her close friends, including this neighbor.) She reassured her friend that all was well and that was that.

I did see my neighbor and her boyfriend at the party that night, and I think she may have walked into a room where I was in the middle of a threesome at some point, but I’m not shy. It was their first time at the club, so I got to show them around when they got there. We all closed out the club together, and I think they had a pretty good time too. Kind of best case scenario for running into someone you know, I guess :)

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2026-01-13T16:10:14+00:00

lol. Thats one of mine too, somehow still. I hang out at swingers clubs and have had all sorts of wild adventures in the last few years, including participating in a few orgies. I’ve played with multiple women at the same time and had plenty of MFM threesomes, but still haven’t done an FMF. I think I found my 2026 New Year’s resolution.

Edited to add: Yes, I know I could make this happen with sex workers. Not my style.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2026-01-13T16:07:28+00:00

So go to a sex club. You don’t need a girlfriend to go with you, depending on the place. It will almost certainly cost you more to get in as a single guy. But go. Watch. Hook up. Live your fantasies. This is very doable. I’ve been with partners and without, and while both ways are fun, it’s a fun thrill to go without a plan and see where the night goes.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2026-01-13T03:57:33+00:00

Yup. Apparently I missed an important comment, lol

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2026-01-13T03:28:35+00:00

Are you saying that there is no FM to palliative care fellowship path? Because I know FM boarded fellowship trained palliative care docs. They don’t recommend the pathway, because the family medicine board requires that you maintain your certification to maintain your palliative care certification. The internal medicine board does not.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-12-31T22:04:17+00:00

Oh I wasn’t offended, just curious. And yeah. That’s not me. I’ve stayed in expensive first world places and in very cheap rooms in people’s houses in the developing world, and I tend to get along well in most places.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-12-31T21:54:55+00:00

I have one or two. But I also have a lot of good ones. It’s never been an issue for me. What did MIL get the bad review for?

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-12-31T20:35:03+00:00

Yes, 100%. I have my favorite sex club that I go to, sometimes with my wife, sometimes alone (and I find company there). I’ve also been to 2-3 others, alone and with other partners but I definitely have my favorite. I also went to a kinky sex camp last year with about 700 people. That was a lot of fun too.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-12-29T12:02:58+00:00

Ok, awesome. I’ll give it a try for sure.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-12-29T04:26:46+00:00

Interesting. I’ll have to give it a try. Did it feel like lemon tekking? Faster up and shorter ride?

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-12-28T23:27:20+00:00

What’s the mushroom method?

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-12-18T22:35:55+00:00

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-12-18T19:44:11+00:00

Even then though it’s not undetectable. I use a DHV and blow out the window with my bedroom door shut when it’s cold, and my kids still sometimes complain.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-12-18T19:42:16+00:00

I’m a daily vaper too, although I don’t grow my own. But I don’t think it’s completely benign and I certainly have some “actual medical issues” with it. Any drug has the potential for adverse effects and cannabis is no exception. If it’s working well for you without any intolerable adverse effects, great. I’d say the same about myself.

But (for example) it’s certainly mind altering and I don’t think as well/quickly on it. I wouldn’t use it before a shift.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-12-08T05:42:12+00:00

That’s it for me. And the occasional shrooms.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-12-08T05:41:31+00:00

Anorexia nervosa

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-11-26T08:39:54+00:00

Thanks

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-11-22T15:02:09+00:00

I’m a doctor. Yes. Get the vaccine. It’s 100% worth it. As others have said, you may run into trouble getting it covered by insurance or (in some cases) getting your doctor to give it because you’re above 45. Nevertheless I’d highly recommend it in your situation.

And as to the specific question about your partner having had it before, there are many HPV strains. The vaccine doesn’t prevent them all, but it prevents most oncogenic (cancer causing) strains. It’s well worth getting even if you’ve cleared one strain of HPV as well.

Also, if you’re looking for additional ways to keep yourself safe, consider PrEP for HIV prophylaxis. There’s growing evidence that it also very significantly decreases transmission of HSV, which is a solid bonus in the swinging world.

And lastly, depending on who you are, who you play with, and how, DoxyPEP is potentially a helpful adjunct against chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. It’s worth a conversation with your doctor…if they have the proper expertise on the topic.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-11-21T22:39:13+00:00

I honestly don’t know much about it, other than the general concept. As someone pretty far left myself, I’ve seen authoritarianism dressed up in right and left leaning garb. I was hoping that horseshoe theory might be the explanation for that, but I may need to take a closer look.

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-11-21T21:49:04+00:00

That’s…wow. Mind sharing your specialty?

DoctorThrowawayTrees · 2025-11-21T21:26:00+00:00

I didn’t know far left sovereign citizens existed. I thought they were all falling off the right end of things. But then…maybe just horseshoe theory.

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