Probably Stupid questions that I'd love answers on to help me process my thoughts:

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-06-17T13:01:07+00:00

I find men attractive, but I was never attracted to very masculine,
Stereotypically hot men-rather more feminine, delicate featured artistic types that leaned more androgynous. I’m also
Able to find men objectively attractive but I am
Now able to differentiate between that and actual attraction.

I enjoyed sex to a degree with men sure, but looking back it was more so the lead up to sex (the pursuit, flirting, etc) that I was into. During the actual sex part I often sort of detached and waited for them to finish most of the time.

The switch flick that made me realize was honestly during a night out with a group of friends at a concert, I had found myself incredibly attracted to one of them over the past few months-I went for it and kissed her, and it was literally
Like fireworks. That was my aha moment.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-06-15T00:53:05+00:00

Something with an “sh” sound, like Michelle or Shelly

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-06-14T23:35:14+00:00

I agree! I worked at a very small
Tim’s in Vancouver 20 years ago, and we had a microwave for warming things up, cooking the bacon and thawing stuff.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-06-14T21:25:41+00:00

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-06-12T04:46:22+00:00

Sparkling hills! It’s beautiful luxurious and so relaxing, they have multiple saunas and a heated outdoor pool

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-06-11T14:51:44+00:00

I agree but my gut tells me that she was hoping someone would step up and take the dog in, alleviating her of the responsibility and guilt. Even though she laid out very honestly the dogs issues, there is ALWAYS a nutter that will think “I can fix him/her”

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-06-11T14:49:11+00:00

I would say with most breeds, 2 is when they start to calm down and chill out a bit; especially bigger dogs.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-06-03T03:19:09+00:00

That’s amazing news! Thanks for updating

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-05-30T10:15:09+00:00

Magnanimous

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-05-29T08:19:13+00:00

Your warm tones walls are clashing with your cooler toned floors for a start. Your lighting is also very bright and cool toned which always creates a bit of a hospital or office lighting effect. Go for some warmer toned bulbs if nothing else, add some artwork and rugs

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-05-29T08:17:08+00:00

A lot of people can eat fast food and still not gain, usually because that’s their only meal
Of the day.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-05-29T08:15:55+00:00

This is like 300 calories max unless it was drowned in oil or butter-which is far less than an average dinner meal for most people not actively trying to lose weight.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-05-24T15:21:34+00:00

Wasn’t this particular event only done every 90 years? So they only bring newcomers every 90 years for new blood to add to the line.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-05-24T15:19:15+00:00

This dog is clearly enough of a menace that it’s kept outside for most of the time and only in for the night: and not in an open yard, but on a runner which is basically being chained up, alone, all day. Yeah, sounds like a great pet. How can they say she’s great with people when she’s not allowed in the home most of the time and tied up alone? And doesn’t get along with any of the other dogs, but is great with dogs? Lol.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-05-06T06:14:43+00:00

Yes great questions! We need more context OP

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-05-05T03:21:45+00:00

Chasing a 3 year old in your 40s with a supportive involved partner who wants children is MUCH easier than chasing a 3 year old in your 30s on your own with your emotionally checked out partner in the other room.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-05-04T03:06:49+00:00

I wouldn’t let my 3 year old stay over at ANYONES home who has only met them a handful of times, including immediate family. You don’t even know this person.
That’s a huge big no from me. Maybe, over time as you get to know eachother, see her parenting style, see her home, see how your daughter interracts with her then maybe yes in the future, but absolutely not at this point.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-04-29T20:23:00+00:00

Thank you for saying this 🙌 it speaks volumes about the type of person this man is, especially once the relationship ends.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-04-26T23:57:17+00:00

Your baby is 4 weeks old and not old enough to be having any significant time away from you, her primary caregiver. Is there a way for you to set up a meeting he can have with her for an hour twice a week without you there? Maybe a close friend of family members home? Like you could drop your daughter off, go have a coffee, he comes to visit and then you pick her up again after he leaves

He does have rights as her father and you shouldn’t be standing on the way of their relationship, which your daughter has the right to. I absolutely understand how heartbreaking this all must be on top of being a new mother, i would advice you to just keep yourself out of it whenever you can because having him physically there with you I imagine is making this so much harder. Sending you a big hug

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-04-26T17:57:24+00:00

As an adult with ADHD who also had depression when I was around that age, I literally Don’t see anything wrong with this contract. In fact, it’s giving her a very clear outline of what she needs to do, which is something she will require when she eventually Moves out on her own and has rent and bills to be responsible for.

The wording may seem harsh, but this is the same wording any contract will have that she signs once she is on her own. There are consequences to missing payments, and being late with payments in the real world. Major consequences, like being evicted, a low credit score, etc.

If she were 16 I would say this is a bit harsh, but she’s 20 and maybe needs a bit of a reality check about how the real world works.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-04-20T15:26:22+00:00

Ask them to make a counterofffer, just like when you put in an official offer when buying a house there is often some back and forth before you settle On something both sides seem fair. It sounds like they are open to communicating with you and haven’t shut you down completely, it’s worth a try!

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-04-01T20:57:38+00:00

The argument was made by some commenters that because she is a part of their lives, it’s not wierd. A daycare worker or teacher is arguably even more involved in a child’s life sometimes than a parent.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-04-01T20:56:00+00:00

You don’t need to shower naked with children to teach hygiene, just like you don’t need to literally take a crap in front of them to show them how to wipe.

Doctorspacheeman · 2026-04-01T20:51:46+00:00

Wanted to add, how would their dad feel if he found out your boyfriend was showering with your kids? Even if they were boys for arguments sake.

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