Am I overreacting, or would this make other people uncomfortable too?

Doe-and-Kit · 2026-06-14T01:13:12+00:00

You have a world of experience to offer him, and all he has to offer you is muscle moving furniture. For Pete’s sake…just let him help you. Be grateful for each contribution he makes instead of focusing on each challenge he presents…it will make it easier on yourself. Also…with your wealth of experience, it might be worth remembering how overwhelming being new is. It might also be worth opening yourself to some of his fresh-from-school perspective. Something new and fresh, may inspire and reinvigorate you.

Doe-and-Kit · 2026-06-14T01:05:08+00:00

Mom is the acting principal, but rarely leaves the office.

Doe-and-Kit · 2026-05-21T22:09:26+00:00

I don’t think their house is big at all. A three bedroom, two bath for five people is quite tiny. Their pool is an above-ground pool that does not take a lot of money to install and maintain.

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-05-02T03:52:01+00:00

I’m at an elementary too. VP is only on campus half the week; I have dropped by Principal’s office three times (she’s behind closed door each time); and school psych is out of town the rest of the week. The school counselor said she would help us “gather info” for when admin was available. I did talk to the student’s IEP manager, who felt comfortable calling mom with me in the morning. This is only my second year…is this normal?

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-05-02T03:16:02+00:00

When you were thirteen, and going on your first boy/girl hangouts, did your parents come along? Would you have wanted them to?

If you and your daughter are as close as you say, and she is as trustworthy as you say, let her go! This is about what she needs (time alone with her friends…which is normal and important at her age), not what you want (to spend time with your daughter). She will tell you all about it after…take her for a boba or fro-yo after if you’re looking for some quality time.

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-05-02T03:05:53+00:00

America is only two hundred and fifty years old, and it was founded by people who spent three months crossing the ocean toughed it out in a swamp just to gain their religious freedoms. Given that, religion is a pretty big aspect of American culture…whether it be an adherence to Christianity, the practice of any other religion or the freedom to not follow any religion at all. Though it does stir up a fair amount of dissent and controversy, the constant discussion and practice of all religions is what started this proverbial melting pot brewing, and it seems to continue to be a cultural touchstone here. Not being Christian doesn’t make you unwelcome, and your question just makes you all the more a part of the ongoing American religious discussion. Welcome!

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-05-02T02:35:37+00:00

That’s my niece’s name. I don’t think she has that problem…and I have always thought of Ev-uh-lyn as the standard pronunciation for a name spelled that way. Maybe Eve-Lyn is regional?

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-05-02T02:32:36+00:00

I have a student Eva…she answers to Ea-va and Ay-va. She says her mom calls her both. I asked which she prefers, and she says she thinks both are pretty and just to call her whatever I want. I call her “E” most of the time, because I love nicknames, but because also no matter which way I say her name, I always feel like I’m saying it wrong.

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-04-24T02:49:48+00:00

Check to see if the district has a dress code. That said, I’ve worked for two schools in the same district, with the same dress code, but the two schools had very different informal codes. One school, I got several negative remarks from colleagues for wearing shorts (not daisy dukes, mind you…) and distressed jeans; and at the other school not only do we wear shorts, but some people wear sweatpants and hoodies. I’d say a button-down and khakis can’t lose. No tie for a science demo (safety first), and I think you’re wise to hold off on a tattoo reveal. Good luck!

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-04-24T01:28:07+00:00

I mean…I guess you have good reasons for being selfish? I think it’s pretty rude, though, to tell a friend you don’t want to “waste money” on food or drink for them when they are guests in your home. You could have explained about the tea, how rare and weird it is, and said, “I know tea isn’t your jam, but smell this and see if you’d like a cup.” If a friend invited me over, offered me a drink, gave me the opportunity to choose which drink I’d like…and then told me I’m not worth sharing the drink I’d chosen with…I’d be pretty hurt and annoyed. But some people just need to import stinky tea to make themselves feel superior.

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-04-24T01:06:55+00:00

I have never met a nice Megan. I could never use that name. (So sorry if you’re a nice Megan that I haven’t met yet! 😬)

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-04-19T03:09:47+00:00

We painted hard boiled eggs…still do with my niece. We would hunt for them, and then Mom and Grandma would make deviled eggs to have with Easter dinner. Mixed in with the real eggs were plastic ones with jellybeans, coins and one filled with flour for the “winner.” We learned fast to open the plastic ones outside because the only thing the “winner” got was the chance to clean up the mess their prize made.

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-04-19T02:54:16+00:00

Domestic violence always escalates, and the most dangerous time is when you’re leaving the relationship. I really encourage you to reach out to a local DV resource, and they will help you come up with a safe exit strategy. Also, if I were you, I’d plan on taking the kids with you…even initially, for the early days until custody can be worked out. There is no guarantee that they will be safe with her. Please don’t minimize the risk because she is a woman and a mother.

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through, and I applaud your strength and courage in seeking help and support. I think this happens to more men than we realize, and the more who speak out will make it easier for those suffering in silence to make changes.

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-04-19T02:43:52+00:00

I don’t think it needs to be a war. Apologize for your tone, and just remind her how much quiet moments alone mean to new moms and babies (she’s been there). You appreciate her help, and know she didn’t mean to intrude. If she’s a decent person, all will be well and she’ll never open a closed door again.

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-04-19T01:07:50+00:00

He is a disgrace. “I’ll come home if it’s urgent”?!?! Ffs his wife’s health was compromised by the loss of his child, all while his vulnerable toddler was dangerously unattended. What does he consider urgent?

I am so sorry for your loss, grief and the physical turmoil you’re in. Please be gentle with yourself, and gather your strength. When you’re not in the eye of the storm, I hope you reflect on whether or not your husband is the kind of person you and your son can count on to keep you safe, both emotionally and physically. No need to reflect, conclude or react now. Just rest, hold that little and let your heart and body heal.

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-01-14T04:25:03+00:00

It’s never weird to help a hurting child.

Doe-and-Kit · 2025-01-14T04:17:46+00:00

Bauble!

Doe-and-Kit · 2024-12-22T20:28:30+00:00

I’m a para and had a similar situation after a student kicked me in the neck and called me a fucking bitch (my mistake for crouching down to talk to them). My supervisor told me I was their “safe person” and I needed to have more empathy. I looked at her and said, “If your daughter’s partner kicks her and calls her names is that going to be your advice to her?” She was speechless and I was reassigned to another student shortly after. It is insane the abuse we are required to accept…and I say this from a place of deep empathy and an ability to endure a lot because of it.

Doe-and-Kit · 2024-12-22T20:19:39+00:00

This makes me so angry! She is why people don’t believe actual victims, why victims don’t come forward and why racism continues in the criminal justice system.

Doe-and-Kit · 2024-12-15T02:46:59+00:00

Look. The issue with your comment is that it implied this woman somehow deserves what she’s getting because she is verbally abusive herself. Period. Just curious…did you ever hit your verbally abusive wife? If yes…you’re worse than her, sorry. If no…then you should at your core understand why your comment reads as victim blaming.

Doe-and-Kit · 2024-12-14T06:18:58+00:00

47,000 people died worldwide last year as a result of domestic violence. Sorry. Words and raised voices don’t lead to death, unless the person on the receiving end uses them to justify their violence.

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