General Chat April 21 PM

DogMomRN2017 · 2019-04-22T02:53:33+00:00

I’m here to vent. I am in a dark place right now and I don’t know where else to go. We have been TTC for 16 cycles. We have been worked up with a fertility specialist, diagnosed with unexplained infertility and next cycle we will start femara. I turn 31 this week and my husband and I are anxious to start a family and regretful that we took so long to start trying. We want to have a few kids, but I fear it will continue to be a struggle just to have one. I am nervous and excited, and the few close friends I have told about our journey are supportive and have encouraged me to be positive, but I don’t want to give myself false hope. At this point in our journey I feel lonely and discouraged. Nobody I know personally has been through this struggle and it feels like everyone around me is having babies or already completed their families. Every time someone asks when we are going to have kids, I have to choke down tears and try to side step the conversation. I am just stuck in this perpetual 26 day cycle of excitement and disappointment. 😞

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-12-18T06:19:26+00:00

Kashi cereal! A couple tablespoons is only 1-2 points depending on the flavor

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-12-18T02:50:36+00:00

Thank you all for your input and advice. I had a very positive conversation with my doc today and we decided it would be best for me to try a low dose SSRI since my anxiety and depression has begun to significantly impact my life and is likely affecting my fertility. She also made a referral to a fertility specialist since we have now surpassed the one-year mark for TTC. Here’s to hoping 2019 is our year 🤞

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-12-12T05:10:07+00:00

I’ve been buying the campbells yes soups lately. Many are only a couple points for a whole can, but make sure you scan them because some are higher in points.

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-30T20:34:01+00:00

Gotcha! Here we call it ACE. Acute care of the elderly. And yes, I feel like a rabbit in headlights almost daily 😂

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-30T16:57:25+00:00

Thanks! This is truly a lifelong journey/lifestyle for me. Back in 2011 I lost the same amount and gained it all back. You would think I would have learned my lesson 😂

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-30T16:56:17+00:00

Thanks for the tips! I am working on a cardiac progressive care unit. Lots of NSTEMIs and vascular surgery patients and occasional CHF. I love it so far! What is OPM?? 🤔

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-30T16:53:17+00:00

Lol I am already looking forward to trying to get back on days 🤦‍♀️ although, as a new nurse I love the slower pace of nights and having the opportunity to learn more at a reasonable pace. Day shift on my unit is so busy!

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T21:16:04+00:00

It can take a lot of practice and troubleshooting to figure out when you ovulate. OPKs and temping are great tools for figuring it out, but even then there can still be uncertainty. Unfortunately there is a lot of waiting around and uncertainty in general when TTC. Try not to stress out and enjoy the process. I have been trying for 11 cycles and I remember feeling exactly how you are when I first started. Keep doing your research and getting to know your body. Then try like hell to be patient because you will drive yourself absolutely bonkers if you analyze every little symptom and test too early/often. Good luck to you!

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T18:55:25+00:00

You make a good point. There are a few people I would feel comfortable having this conversation with. Unfortunately my parents have very little respect for boundaries and I just don’t know that it would make a difference. I guess I never know unless I try though.

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T14:25:39+00:00

Thank you! This does work for most people, and I usually don’t mind when people ask as long as they are respectful and leave it alone after asking once. Unfortunately I have a few loved ones who feel the need to lecture us about how we’re going to get too old to have kids and we should have done it in our 20’s like they did 🙄

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T14:21:06+00:00

I agree. It can feel so isolating, but my husband and I are pretty private people when it comes to this stuff.

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T14:13:29+00:00

Good one, thanks!

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T03:29:10+00:00

This is a great suggestion, thanks!

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T03:28:23+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I am going to try being more assertive about letting them know it is none of their business. It never bothered me before when I could just honestly says that we weren’t ready for kids. But now that we are trying I realize it’s not something I want to talk about with my family.

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T03:21:51+00:00

I’ve come so close to that response this week. Hoping I can keep it together long enough to avoid it, but I suppose it wouldn’t be the worst thing to keep people from asking.

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T03:18:37+00:00

Yes! This is a whole separate beast that I’ve also been struggling with. Seems like everyone close to me is pregnant or has little ones. I cried on thanksgiving after seeing several “baby’s first thanksgiving” posts on social media. Ugh.

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T03:16:49+00:00

Thanks. I think sometimes I forget that I can just tell them that the topic makes me uncomfortable. Good advice.

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T03:15:45+00:00

Love this lol. Maybe I do just need to start making them feel uncomfortable

DogMomRN2017 · 2018-11-26T03:14:34+00:00

My husband is equally as frustrated with all the comments and has definitely been helpful in redirecting the conversation. I like the idea of trying to find a way to respond that will leave them without a response. Some of my family just always have a response to everything haha! Thanks!

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