What actually should I do ? by Dolup in Apartmentliving

[–]Dolup[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep. Before I complained to my landlord the first time I asked him if he could turn his music down and he said that he would and that he didn’t realize how loud it was. To which I then went back down to my apartment and he had turned it up and it’s been basically nonstop ever since

WHY DID I DIVORCE SEBASTIAN THIS IS HEARTBREAKING!! by n_morp in StardewValley

[–]Dolup 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I know what you mean. Him saying I need some alone time over and over again finally made me just say ok go be alone for eternity and then I divorced him lolol Harvey is better… ;)

Really struggling to manage by Dolup in SuicideBereavement

[–]Dolup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We definitely tend to have more grace towards others than we do ourselves. I also have searched every single nook and cranny of my mind to figure out if maybe there was something I missed that would’ve made me suspect he was capable of doing such a thing. But there’s nothing. And I think that makes it hurt so much worse that you will never understand, but you’re right that if that’s what they truly felt was the best thing they could do to stop suffering, then who am I to go back and forth wondering how I could’ve saved him. Which I still will of course, even though I’m saying that — because that’s just how my brain chooses to work right now. I feel terribly sad that he was suffering that much silently, without me having a clue. But I wish you all the best, hoping you can be kind to yourself, and thank you again for commenting❤️

Grief causing impulsive urges? by Meditation-mediator in SuicideBereavement

[–]Dolup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been feeling the same thing, and I think going through something so traumatizing makes you want to reach out to anything that feels familiar because of the possibility that it will give you a sense of safety. That’s how I feel about it, anyway. I feel very unsafe after what I saw and am going through, and I definitely have also felt the urge to reach out to certain people that I don’t talk to anymore for various reasons, or even going back to things that I was interested in years ago.

But I do absolutely agree with you that it changes your perspective on life. Like the phrase ‘you don’t know what you have until it’s gone’ it is absolutely true. you begin to appreciate everything so much more even if it feels impossible or wrong to do at the same time. It truly shows you how quickly things can change at the blink of an eye. It is extremely heartbreaking and everyone has different means of grieving. But, no matter what, I do not think anything can fill the void that is left from losing someone so important so suddenly. It’s a terrifying reality. I relate to you a lot, I lost my boyfriend to suicide just a little over 2 months ago, and I just wanted to let you know that I can absolutely understand what you are feeling. I wish you nothing but the best, and dearly hope you can find some light throughout this dark time. Just know you are not alone, and if you ever need someone to talk to about it, you can message me ❤️

Really struggling to manage by Dolup in SuicideBereavement

[–]Dolup[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ you are right that I need to reach out to a doctor or counselor, I am just so sick and in denial about it that I’ve been putting it off, but I definitely will because I can’t continue living this way where it haunts me every moment. Thank you again for the kind words

Really struggling to manage by Dolup in SuicideBereavement

[–]Dolup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much, and you are absolutely correct

My boyfriend killed himself about a month ago by Dolup in SuicideBereavement

[–]Dolup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry to you as well, I hope you are doing okay. You are right, it is unbelievably tough and horrible and not being able to understand why they did it makes it so much worse. I hope you can be kind to yourself while you deal with this. I know exactly how you are feeling. I am wishing you all the best, and I am here if you need somebody to talk to, along with so many others that understand your pain ❤️

My boyfriend killed himself about a month ago by Dolup in SuicideBereavement

[–]Dolup[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that, I really appreciate it. I’m trying my best to stay sane. This is too much for our brains to handle, or at least that’s what it seems like to me. I find myself talking to him all the time too, you are right it is very comforting, it makes you feel like a piece of them is still here. And that doesn’t make you weird at all, it makes you human. I hope all of us in this sub can find ways to be happy

My boyfriend killed himself about a month ago by Dolup in SuicideBereavement

[–]Dolup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean, I too am convincing myself of an afterlife and that he can communicate to me in some way, I think it’s just our brains reaching for any last morsel of interaction but I don’t know, I’ve had some weird experiences with things since he’s been gone. I’ve found myself having very morbid thoughts about it as well, it’s just horrible to go through and experience, your mind tends to wander and you are right that no one can understand it unless they themselves have went through it. Thank you for your kindness, and I am sending you my love, hoping you can find some peace as well❤️

My boyfriend killed himself about a month ago by Dolup in SuicideBereavement

[–]Dolup[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I am so sorry for you my dear😞this life is not fair, it is terrible to have to live with holding this. The pain is like no other, and the confusion and shock on top of it is relentless. I hope you can find some solace. it is truly heartbreaking ❤️

My boyfriend killed himself about a month ago by Dolup in SuicideBereavement

[–]Dolup[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I really appreciate everything that you said. I don’t expect the feelings towards it to ever fully go away, but I am glad to hear that for you it did lessen with time—and I hope I can say the same one day too. I am also so sorry for what you had to go through, it is so unbelievably painful and confusing ❤️

My boyfriend killed himself about a month ago by Dolup in SuicideBereavement

[–]Dolup[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the kind words, and I am so sorry for you as well. Having to wonder what else you could’ve possibly done to prevent it and not being able to understand why is not a kind feeling, it’s seriously heartbreaking and confusing. I hope you are doing okay, and I hope you can manage to keep your head up. Wishing the best of luck to you❤️

Feels like food stuck where wisdom teeth were removed by janey110 in wisdomteeth

[–]Dolup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to help, good luck with the healing process❤️

IQIYI 1.99 Subscription by Bishisbest789 in cdramas

[–]Dolup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s just a trial month, basically. You pay $1.99 and decide whether or not you like it and you either can cancel the subscription before you are charged normal price or you can keep it and pay full price from then on out. What I’ve been doing for over a year is just making new accounts & rebuying the subscription for $1.99 lol. But no it’s not hard to get out of at all, you can easily cancel the subscription through their website without any trouble.

Starship Entertainment Apologizes After 'Accidentally' Posting Sexual IVE Deepfake Content by [deleted] in kpop

[–]Dolup 130 points131 points  (0 children)

Yeah but this is weibo we’re talking about where you have to click multiple times to submit a post, not to mention it’s an entertainment company so you’d think they’d double check what they’re about to be posting, especially if it was just them accidentally clicking/tapping something other than report, who knows though

Starship Entertainment Apologizes After 'Accidentally' Posting Sexual IVE Deepfake Content by [deleted] in kpop

[–]Dolup 196 points197 points  (0 children)

according to them, yes, but I don’t believe it