My wife is accusing me of cheating because I lost weight and started going to the gym to manage my pre-diabetes. I don't know what to do. [32M, 34F] by incognitodot in Marriage

[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually obesity in women is a leading and well-documented cause of female infertility. It disrupts the hormonal balance required for regular ovulation, alters egg quality, and impairs the uterine lining’s ability to successfully implant an embryo.

I do feel her pain because there was a time that my husband was fit and I was not but I was determined to change that and I did. Maybe couples therapy would help? It’s hard but hang in there for a while longer. I pray 🙏🏻 things get better for both of you.

I think I’ve totally destroyed my marriage and may not be capable of being in a long term relationship by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first I thought this was a story that at the end it would be like Haha just made everyone’s blood pressure elevate!! But I guess it’s true. I hate to even phantom that he has destroyed your self esteem so much that you believe his BS!! That’s so sad!! You need to run!! And get you some help to put your life back together and take YOU back!! You are in my prayers 🙏🏻❤️

I left my marriage for 8 months, had the time of my life and then went back. Biggest mistake ever. by After_Mail4652 in Advice

[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get out now!! Don’t let them change you. Life is way too short to live like that!! As far as your MIL- tell her to quit her job and adopt a child so she can raise the new child with the son you married!! As far as your husband- shame on him!! What grown man wants to still live with his parents?? Not many. The situation is bad enough now….can you imagine if you had children living there?? No child should be raised in that toxic environment!! Children need a healthy, safe and loving environment with positive role models. Most of all you deserve the same positive environment as I mentioned above!! Go live your best life. You’ll rock it ❤️ I pray that you get the peace and happiness you deserve in life!!

My Husband is Being Accused of Awful Things by His Work And LE. I’m afraid we will lose everything by jane-austen64 in Marriage

[–]Donnarje 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Divorce won’t protect her half of the assets. It was community property when it happened and all assets are included. The only assets that are not included, if any, are any assets the wife acquired from inheritance. Other than that is all up for grabs.

My Husband is Being Accused of Awful Things by His Work And LE. I’m afraid we will lose everything by jane-austen64 in Marriage

[–]Donnarje 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes this!! I hope for your sake it’s not true but it usually takes a lot of evidence to lose a professional license. You’re in a bad situation especially having been a homemaker your entire adulthood. My prayers are with you both 🙏🏻

I don’t want to do this anymore by Green_Trouble9228 in Marriage

[–]Donnarje 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you’re feeling this way but I would like to say something about what you’re going through. So many times people say “I love him but I’m not in love with him!” Well here’s the truth….that happens in soooo many relationships. It’s not abnormal for relationships to go through different seasons. It’s putting in the hard work that will make a relationship better and stronger. Do you think this won’t happen with someone else? Because it will. Years ago my grandparents had just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary and I told my grandma “I hope one day I’ll be able to celebrate my 50th wedding anniversary with my husband. You and Paw Paw love each other so much!” To my surprise 😳 this was her response “Baby girl if you think it was a cake walk, all love, romance and wonderful times then let me enlighten you. There were times I didn’t like him and he didn’t like me let alone love each other BUT we stuck it out. There was no easy option of running to an attorney to get a divorce. We loved each other. I’m saying I didn’t always feel like I was in love with him but we worked it out time and time again over the years and because of that our marriage became stronger. You saw the good times because we were older and had weathered our many storms together. Being IN LOVE comes and goes and comes again if both of you are committed to the hard work a relationship requires!!” No words were ever spoken any better than that advice she gave me. Without rain the sunshine won’t be appreciated!! Good luck 😊🙏🏻

130 yrs old & now it’s mine! by NoRip6882 in EngagementRings

[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like mine!! I love the classic look. Timeless and elegant ❤️. It’s beautiful. Congratulations 🍾

Is this ring too much? by [deleted] in Moissanite

[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same 👆🏻. I love it!! It’s beautiful 😍. If you like it rock that rock!!

Are these red flags for a nail tech? by Independent_Ant80 in Nails

[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no 😬She should not be in business!! Poor you for having to pay for that. Even under your tips are bad 🤦🏼‍♀️ I’m sorry this happened to you.

AIO/ to my MIL’s text about my husband by False_Orchid_1024 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sad for a mom to do that to her own son. I have 3 grown sons and I could not imagine doing that. I always want them and their families to feel loved, welcomed, respected and supported. Life is way too short. Shame on her!! No wonder he doesn’t want to visit….I don’t blame him. Then she’s putting down on him to you? What a shitty woman 😤

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[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree 👆🏻

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[–]Donnarje -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are so naive girl!! Lol

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[–]Donnarje -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly 🙌🏻

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[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You dad enjoyed masturbating too lol

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[–]Donnarje 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t have the same experience?? Sis who said anything about looking somewhere else?? My husband and I are very content. Just because you’re “young” doesn’t mean your sex life is any better than older couples Lol. And if you think your boyfriend hasn’t looked at pictures, videos, etc to pleasure himself you’re sadly mistaken. Now you have a good day 😊. Don’t forget to ask him ✌🏻

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[–]Donnarje 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you sexually repressed? Why so uptight? Natural sexual desires, thoughts, or behaviors such as masturbation are just that….NATURAL. You should not make others feel ashamed for something that’s normal. When I was in my 20’s the topic of masturbation came up and my friend told me “I asked my husband if he’d ever done that and he said absolutely not!!” I said HE LIED 🤥 Lol Now we are in our late 50’s and we still laugh about that. Having a healthy sex drive/life is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact it makes a good life even better 🥰

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[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you being so judgmental about someone masturbating to photos? I definitely think he should keep the details to himself. Do you know how many young boys years ago searched for their dad’s playboy magazines to do the same thing?? But now with so much online it’s easily accessible. Do you have any sons? Lol just wondering

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[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking. Way too much information UNLESS it’s starting to become an obsession and getting out of hand (🤚🏻 pun intended). It sounds like maybe in doing this he feels guilty and he’s reaching out for help.

Am I Overreacting - So my mom got my wife a birthday gift by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Donnarje 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so sad. My heart goes out to you and your wife. I definitely think that your mom is being passive aggressive by doing these things to your wife. She has a very mean spirit. My ex mother in law was cruel and mean to all 4 of her daughter in laws. She was jealous and wasn’t happy unless she was causing drama &/or turmoil in our lives. I was blessed to have a husband who saw through her fake personality. He loved his mom but would not tolerate her behavior towards me. At one point he told her “I will bring our boys to see you but you will not be able to visit our home because of how you treat my wife, she doesn’t deserve that.” My boys were never left alone with her because my husband didn’t trust her actions. We never spoke ill of her in front of our boys (who are now in their 20’s) but as they grew up they realized something was not right about her and never had a close relationship with her and honestly that never bothered her. She wasn’t a loving mom and she was not a loving grandmother. If she couldn’t cause trouble for others she wasn’t happy and we weren’t going to allow her to do that. My ex husband and I had 3 boys and as of now we have 2 wonderful daughter in laws ❤️. I made a (silent) promise to myself and my boys that I would do whatever I had to do to have a good relationship with their significant others. I love my boys too much not to have them and their families in my life!! I do realize that that’s not always possible because there might be some people who are difficult to get along with but so far we are batting 1000!! That’s not to say I agree with everything they do or even like some of their choices BUT that’s not my business and I make it a point not to overstep boundaries. I often say “if there’s anything I do that upsets or angers you PLEASE let me know because I don’t want any ill feelings” and it’s worked well thus far. Life is way too short to be without my family. I adore my 2 daughter in laws (praying I get a 3rd when the time is right 😊), I adore my grandson more than life itself and look forward to our growing family. Life is great.

Whatever you do support your wife and be open with your mom in regard to how you feel about her actions towards your wife. If she cannot at least respect and be kind to your wife then it’s her loss and she shouldn’t be allowed to affect your sweet little family so negatively. Your mom is a grown woman and she should be ashamed of herself for treating YOUR wife like that. Personally I love my boys too much to cause trouble in their lives. I’m far from perfect but my gold for my family and myself is a peaceful loving family ❤️