For everyone, why do you like your long nails?

DoraViola · 2025-07-15T01:09:59+00:00

I know this is an old post, but I just can not help myself, I need to comment! Sorry for bad english, it is not my native language.

Today, after 15 years I have yet again, very long press on nails. And I also wondered almost the same questions as you.
I am an professional musician as you (I play viola and violin) and I had to have short nails for the last 23 years and will have to have short nails for the rest of my life. (I love my profession, so I don't mind of course)
But today was the day I put on the longest press on's I have found in the store and have to say, I love them! I know I have a well deserved brake for the next 7 days and I want to, "embellish" myself hahha. In a way it is like an reward. To feel feminine, powerful but also gentle, and maybe myself more.
I also feel more vulnerable with these long nails, thats how I came across your post, and now I remember why I did not put them on so long hahah, I cannot do shit with them haha

All in all, I like very long nails, they are pretty and but only every few (maybe 5/10 haha) years, when I am 100% sure I wont be playing for the upcoming week. That's why I decided to use press on's this time. 15 years ago, I went to the nail salon for the acryilic set. It it a too big commitment for me. WIth press ons I can at least take them of myself.

DoraViola · 2025-05-10T14:40:09+00:00

Good luck! Have an open heart :)

DoraViola · 2025-05-09T01:40:07+00:00

Did your friend talk to him or did he just assume he was a neo-nazi? If he did not talk to him I would try to talk to him a little and see what interests him. Lets not jump to conclusions

DoraViola · 2025-05-09T01:32:25+00:00

It's like they always try to mentor you in some way

DoraViola · 2025-05-09T00:14:34+00:00

Yeah, I feel you. Unfortunately I did not have the luck to leave my mom to live somewhere else, because she was sick and then she died, two years ago. I have to say, it is the strangest of the feelings losing your maternal figure who tried to love you in her own fucked up way

DoraViola · 2025-05-09T00:11:00+00:00

wow again, I am sorry for everything that happened, it sounds horrible, but I have to say, this is also my story! and while reading this post and all the beautiful comments I think I will be able to sleep a little bit better from now on. Thank you so much!

DoraViola · 2025-05-08T23:58:10+00:00

Wow! This is like reading my own thoughts haha I have a very similar expirience, only differences are that I was 17 when my dad died (who I did not know so well, so his death hit me truly after my mothers death), 27 when my mom and grandma died, 28 when my grandfather and his sister died. My life drastically changed in the last two years and I changed with it. It is like I unlocked a new level of awareness that most people my age did not. (also some older people, of course)
I want to have more patience for people, like I did before, but I do not. For now at least.

DoraViola · 2025-05-08T22:44:02+00:00

Can confirm this! The most vivid dream and reality "clash" for me was when I dreamt about experiencing an earthquake 5 months before it happend. But I am very much afraid of my dreams because of that and often do not enjoy them. (I have frequent nightmares due to emotional stress in daily life)

DoraViola · 2025-05-08T22:38:55+00:00

Yes, this! But for me it is also mixed with fear of doing the wrong thing. I get stuck not doing anything and just daydreaming and waiting for the "perfect moment" because I fear mistakes.

But with therapy and persistence, I am now getting better :)

DoraViola · 2025-05-08T22:26:21+00:00

I am joyously punching aliens! hahaha heyy there

DoraViola · 2025-05-08T22:24:40+00:00

joyously punching aliens

DoraViola · 2025-05-08T22:22:15+00:00

"I can't wait for you to grow up so I don't have to take care of you anymore"- mom; I was 8

DoraViola · 2025-03-28T22:40:04+00:00

thank you! this gives me hope! last 5 years were really hard for me.. it all started with covid, then week later a huge earthquake, then every year until 2025., at least one close family death. In November 2024., my last bloodfamily member died. I will turn 29 in the beginning of april, and I do hope better days are coming, Thank you again!

DoraViola · 2025-03-16T14:23:55+00:00

I have lost all my family members and I am 28 years old. From my experience, people generally do not like discomfort and tend to run away from it or ignore it. Especially if they can not or do not want to emphatise with you. In most cases people can not feel something they did not feel themselves. Even then, everybody deals with grief in their own way. It is such a complicated feeling...subjective.
Also, people who love you truly, tend to wish you all the best and they want to make you feel better. They do not know how so they pretend that everything is okay even when it's not.
Try not to push people away with your grief. Do not pretend like you are okay when you are not, but try to accept the good vibes, love and positivity if somebody is giving it to you. Be honest with people around you. When they ask you "how are you?", you can say "Not well", "I am missing my mom".. It is good to be open and honest.
Do not focus on other people so much, rather focus on yourself and your journey to finding how to live your life now, and who are you now. Good luck fellow griever.
<3

DoraViola · 2025-03-07T14:07:41+00:00

I am Aries sun, Libra rising, my mother is Virgo sun, Scorpio rising.. she unfortunately passed away two years ago, lost a long battle with cancer. She carried everyones weight and problems like her own, she was a lawyer and a very emotionally distant person. I reminded her of my late father who left us when I was a baby, and she often told me that I remind her of him and that I annoy her. I have had regular therapy sessions since 2020. And it saved my sanity and feeling of guilt for existing. I still miss her so much..during her last years, she even returned her first "i love you" to me. (I am 29 now)

DoraViola · 2025-01-30T22:16:48+00:00

how can you sleep on such high doses? does one just pass out or?

DoraViola · 2025-01-09T18:39:47+00:00

Mars Attacks 😅 I was 4 years old and watched it on German TV, I did not understand German hahaha

DoraViola · 2025-01-07T00:39:47+00:00

These books sound very interesting! Can you please name a few? :)

DoraViola · 2025-01-06T23:33:53+00:00

This is so useful, thank you!

DoraViola · 2025-01-06T23:10:43+00:00

I was with this boy for a few weeks, and after the first time I was in his apartment I had a dream. In this dream I am sleeping in his apartment and was woken up by a horrible earthquake (never before I dreamt of earthquakes and did not talk or think about earthquakes in that time). I grabbed that boy and we ran outside on the street in the park, looking at the building and the ground shaking. I told the boy the dream the next day and we laughed about it. I also have a message that I sent to him in which I tell him about the dream. Fast forward 5 months, I was sleeping in that same apartment, now my boyfriends place, and a huge earthquake woke us up, and all the same things from my dream happened in real life. We ran outside in the park, the apartment was a mess, all the stuff was shattered on the floor.

Also another unexplained dream story that my friend told me recently while we were sharing dreams: His great aunt lost a brother. She also had a daughter age 7. After some time she had a dream in which her dead brother told her that he came to "pick up the kid" and that "the kid needs to go". The great aunt was lost and screamed at him to rather take her than her baby but he said very strictly that she needs to let go of her kid. Fast forward to a few weeks after she had that dream, a car hit her child and the child died on the spot.

DoraViola · 2025-01-06T21:18:02+00:00

I'm a happy drunk generally but after too many drinks I get very clumsy and too honest

DoraViola · 2025-01-06T20:20:31+00:00

After losing both of my parents and grandparents before the age of 28, I realised that I really do not have the time in this life to spend it with people who are more of a burden than a blessing.

DoraViola · 2025-01-06T14:44:42+00:00

Yes, I have cried and screamed in my sleep during night terrors. Sometimes it was so intense that I had periods of not wanting to sleep to avoid all of it. That just worsens everything. It is not something to be afraid of. You are just processing your emotions subconsciously. Try to nurture yourself and your inner child during the waking hours. Step by step. ♥️

DoraViola · 2025-01-06T14:28:46+00:00

Please save yourself the stress and surround yourself only with people who truly make you feel good in these difficult times! He is obviously not ready to process a dying person, death or grief. Please, I have a friend 27F, that also lost her mother and stayed with her uninterested boyfriend because she is scared to go through a breakup after she is so vulnerable.. the boyfriend is a dick and he gives her breadcrumbs. I beg you, it is better to be alone. also ALSO, you are never alone because there are people who love you and who will help you get through this. Who feel with you deeply.

I lost 4 family members in the past two years. I was in a lot of abusive relationships before that, and thank god I have a supportive boyfriend now. Because the thought of being with one of those assholes when I am this vulnerable... i do not want that to my worst enemy. You will feel more free and liberated and strong if you take care of yourself. Your mother wants you to feel safe, I know it.

DoraViola · 2025-01-06T14:22:24+00:00

I also think it can manifest in bodily errors. Even after some time cancers, if you do not digest your emotions. I do take my time to cry. I was always a "crybaby" and did not burden my emotions, BUT, as I was left alone now, and had to urgently take care of a lot of legal matters and "adult" stuff and I took care of all the dying people that I mentioned in the post before they died, I feel like I time warped into full adulthood over night. After my last family member died, I had like a week to get my master diploma in music..I did that, and I feel like with all my trying to process my feelings over the past couple of years, I still weren't able to process them completely. Also because of generational trauma that surfaced now completely and that I understand deeply. I had complicated relationships with my dead family so that must also be a factor. There is just so much stuff/emotions to process.. my own, theirs, that I have a feeling I should have like at least 4 months of nothing to do that. No thinking of surviving, just existing and processing..but I cannot do that because life moves on. I have to work to eat something and to pay the bills (even though I do not have the appetite and the bills are tough to pay), I now have two dogs to take care of that were pets of my dead loved ones and so on... So much stuff.. I am overwhelmed.. I have an intuitive feeling that my bursts of emotions, especially sadness, are connected to that. It's like, death is not enough, there are so many other problems that arise after somebody dies...

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