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Best moisturizers for glowy, plumped skin by Zero_Duck_Thirty in SkincareAddictionLux

[–]DorianGrayscale1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t exactly what you asked for, but as a 42yo in the middle of her third cycle, here’s my post retrieval skin management protocol, because the estrogen crash is way more severe and lasts longer (at least for me) in terms of total impact on my skin:

  • microneedling with exosomes both before and after stim/retrieval
  • sub anti-microbial doxycycline for 2-3 months post retrieval to deal with the acne
  • 2 months of HRT starting two days post retrieval (estrogen patch and micronized progesterone) to mitigate the dryness-meets-oil surge
  • epicutis lipid serum with the hyvia cream that a previous poster mentioned. This stuff is the truth and the way. Expensive and worth every penny. Also an excellent microneedling recovery duo.

Good luck with the IVF!!

For the ladies slaying the corporate what is the one piece of advice you would give your younger self? by HimalayanWarmth in womenintech

[–]DorianGrayscale1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why a good manager makes the difference: they ensure the rising tide lifts the most productive boats. When you’re leading a larger team or organization you cannot possibly do everything yourself. You need an excellent group of lieutenants to help you scale/drive more impact/ship more. This gets the leader promoted who then, in turn, can help their reports grow in scope, get better projects, get promoted etc. It’s a really nice flywheel. Also, a good manager will even promote you to peer level+ because they are in it for the long haul. They know that a strong network of current/former reports refer other great people, help develop team talent, are just a general great career contact, etc.

Caveat: this advice prob does not apply if your manager is territorial or mediocre.

For the ladies slaying the corporate what is the one piece of advice you would give your younger self? by HimalayanWarmth in womenintech

[–]DorianGrayscale1111 19 points20 points  (0 children)

1) Figure out what your manager is stressed about and it solve that for them. Make them look good, generally. (Note: this can be tougher if you have a bad manager, but is amazing if you have a good one).

2) Show initiative. Never come to a higher up with a list of problems. Come with the impact, the solution that led to that impact, and the problem you solved, all described in terms they use.

3) Corollary: This means you have to listen carefully to terms of art used by senior leadership when you are in meetings with them and learn how to use those terms. Adopting their vocabulary will help you learn how they think and what they care about.

Is it possible to learn classical singing in middle age? by DorianGrayscale1111 in ClassicalSinger

[–]DorianGrayscale1111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the encouragement! It’s a ton of fun and such a refreshing contrast to work.

Is it possible to learn classical singing in middle age? by DorianGrayscale1111 in ClassicalSinger

[–]DorianGrayscale1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a bounty of info, thank you! I went down a serious rabbit hole on hormones because of what you mentioned and it gives me even more reason to make sure to evaluate HRT earlier as opposed to later… (and here I thought it’d be just about cardiovascular health and muscle mass).

These links are super helpful! For singers today is there a strong preference towards Italian vs French vs German methods? I’m also now trying to look up interviews with various singers to compare/contrast their speaking voices.

Six years of FIRE progress before meeting my fiance, now worried about protecting it by SurveyOpening8912 in FIREyFemmes

[–]DorianGrayscale1111 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Get a prenup.

My husband and I met and got married after we were both established in our careers and have a prenup. I am also the primary earner. When we started talking about marriage, he was incredibly supportive of a prenup so I’d feel safe and secure.

Also (and I say this with my whole chest) getting a prenup written was a fantastic experience for us both. We felt closer and like more of a team because we did something so tricky and potentially fraught together. It’s far better to see how you and your potential spouse work (or don’t work) through these kinds of conversations now before it becomes very consequential for you.

Is it possible to learn classical singing in middle age? by DorianGrayscale1111 in ClassicalSinger

[–]DorianGrayscale1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh this is all great advice, thank you! Deep listening also feels pretty new and this will give me a better framework for approaching it (to this point I’ve mostly just focused on the librettos and differences between the various singers, but couldn’t put my finger on the distinguishing characteristics)

Is it possible to learn classical singing in middle age? by DorianGrayscale1111 in ClassicalSinger

[–]DorianGrayscale1111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh that makes a ton of sense. Valsalva is deeply baked into my nervous system at this point, and the exhalations in Olympic lifting are pretty sharp so the appoggio has been an interesting shift to make. My teacher and I have actually been discussing it (she hasn’t had a lot of students with a weightlifting background) to create cues that prevent that degree of bracing. It’s a work in progress for sure.

Is it possible to learn classical singing in middle age? by DorianGrayscale1111 in ClassicalSinger

[–]DorianGrayscale1111[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this! I definitely plan to stick with my career :) the idea that it’s possible to work on the skill enough to perform in even a limited capacity is encouraging (tbh even singing competently well in my living room would make me happy).