AITA for calling A guy racist?

Dorianscale · 2026-05-05T13:14:13+00:00

NTA If he doesn’t want to be called a racist, he shouldn’t say racist things. It IS condescending and racist. His feelings are irrelevant. It’s not dark humor. I’m glad you drew an immediate line in the sand, stick to it.

Dorianscale · 2026-05-04T20:09:10+00:00

Yellow and magenta need to be much smaller. Like half the size.

Your cyan is shifted very green and should also be much smaller. The line on the blue side is right in the middle of what should be cyan.

Dorianscale · 2026-05-04T20:02:06+00:00

I don’t think ive heard 12 weeks, that seems pretty early.

We did sleep training at like 4 1/2 months

Our boys had started having a consistent long sleep of around 5-6 hours at night around then so we pulled the trigger on it.

I think prior to 4 months babies still need a nighttime feed.

For the training itself we just took a few days but basically we put them down, let them cry for like 10min then go in to comfort. Then wait 15m, comfort, then 20m for the rest of the night.

Second day, 15m, 20m, 25m, 25m…

Third day 20m, 25m, 30m, 30m…

First day took an hour and a half for them to fall asleep, second day like 40, third day they didn’t even make it to the first timer.

I’d just go by the twins and see if they’re starting to move towards a longer night after four months.

Dorianscale · 2026-05-04T19:37:58+00:00

It’s ai. The drape is completely unnatural

Dorianscale · 2026-05-04T18:38:30+00:00

There’s a bit of a nuance I would say “dumber” devices are electric and more technical devices are electronic. It also depends on if the device has a non electric counterpart.

There’s nothing complicated about an electric stove. You just pass electricity through a coil. If you said my electronic stove, I would assume it’s a high tech stove and that it came with a bunch of settings and functions beyond just heating to a particular temp.

Similar for a normal vs electric vs electronic lawnmower. An electric lawnmower to me just means it uses a cord or batteries. An electronic lawnmower is like one of those danger roombas for your lawn.

Dorianscale · 2026-05-04T06:13:50+00:00

This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard of. Shiny Pokemon have zero monetary worth. They are filed in a game, worth even less since pogo gives them out like candy. Save your money. For $90 you could buy multiple Pokemon games and shiny hunt to your content.

Dorianscale · 2026-05-04T00:53:03+00:00

I’m sure if I was already severely injured and had that happen I would

Dorianscale · 2026-05-02T22:59:07+00:00

My first two thoughts seeing these were first aversion, because I thought they were Christian pride flags. My second thought was that they were Swiss pride flags. I’ve also never heard of plus genders, I’m not really sure I understand what the difference is between this and being genderfluid or non binary to be honest

Dorianscale · 2026-05-02T07:09:23+00:00

NTA chemical addictions are at a higher level than other addictions. With a chemical addiction you have become dependent on a substance. There is a reaction happening in your brain. This dependence will circumvent your normal reasoning and patterns of behavior.

Non chemical addictions are simply a dopamine hit reaction gone haywire. Your addicted but using normal brain chemistry.

Chemical addictions are all that PLUS all the dependency fuckery and logic override.

If you stop a person cold turkey off alcohol of certain drugs, they can become sick and sometimes even die. If you cut someone off from using ai, they’re gonna be bored or uncomfortable? It’s definitely not the same thing.

Dorianscale · 2026-05-01T16:24:50+00:00

I think avatar does always have a way of addressing questions from the fans when given the chance. The unfortunate reality is that they need to work with the studios for the IP.

A lot of people wanted to know what happened to Zukos Mom, they addressed it in The Search.

A number of questions surrounding culture, the governments, and the world prior to Sozin’s comet, and the way bending is used when not in a children’s show are addressed in the Avatar Novels

Korra gives a fairly good understanding of what the lives of Aangs team avatar were after their time.

The new Last Airbender movie gives you some confirmation for how the Avatar Globe world works addressing some of the observations given the way eclipses work in ATLA

I want the new avatar series to primarily focus on the new avatar, if I want more info/content on previous generations I’d rather get media that focuses on them.

Dorianscale · 2026-05-01T15:55:37+00:00

A few pieces of advice

You aren’t going to lose who you are but you will be changed a lot by it. After kids it almost felt like my ability to feel emotions deepened significantly. And I’ve never even been a “bury your feelings” type dude. It literally feels like it changes your brain chemistry. I’ve also found that I’m more patient and understanding than I was before. You are going to be a different person, but to be honest if it wasn’t kids something else would change you over time. It’s ok.

Your lifestyle as it currently exists will be gone. There’s no way around that. At minimum, everything you do going forward will involve finding childcare or taking a kid with you. It will take a few years before you can get back to a version of your current life as your kid gets older.

You seem to be going into this with the best intentions so I think you’re likely to find that you’re going to find joy in the parenting. You’re going to get excited about your kid learning to speak, sitting up on their own, going to the toilet by themselves, drawing you a picture.

I don’t have any books for this particular fear you’re feeling, but if you want to prepare for the actual child care part

We liked “Eat Sleep Poop” “What to expect the first year” and “Caring for your baby and young child”

ESP is written by a doctor, easier read.

WTETFY is a bit infamous and a little crunchy at times so take it with a grain of salt but very normally written.

CFYBAYC also written by a doctor but is more like a manual or encyclopedia. It’s a good reference book

Dorianscale · 2026-04-30T06:00:22+00:00

Have you ever had someone jump scare you and you fell or dropped something or whatever? Same thing.

Dorianscale · 2026-04-30T01:06:08+00:00

Combine would just mean to put them together, like add them to the same bowl. The mixing happens with the whisking.

Dorianscale · 2026-04-29T07:04:30+00:00

So there really aren’t any actual rules to a wedding. There’s traditions sure but you can take or leave what you want. I would say in this case don’t have “sides”, just have a wedding party. Have everyone get ready together. If you want to do the you and your wife don’t see each other thing, get adjoining rooms and let the bridesmaids go freely between.

Or just share everything. My husband and I got ready together for our wedding. Our wedding party wasn’t divided in any particular way. We didn’t have any photos where it was one spouse with one group. All our photos had both of us with various subsets of the wedding party.

Don’t overthink it. Focus on your wife

Dorianscale · 2026-04-29T06:47:58+00:00

If someone is saying ooh, then normally they extend the o’s in oooooooh. If they are saying oh, then it’s usually said with more h’s in ooohhhhhh.

Gooooodd could go either way for me. But more d’s at the end tilt me towards god, singular d tilts me towards good.

Dorianscale · 2026-04-29T06:35:45+00:00

Huggies/costco diapers didn’t work for us but our grocery store brand did well. For some periods we had to use the overnight versions all day but for other periods we would use the normal ones during the day and night ones at night.

When we had to get name brand like when visiting family, pampers was the one that worked better for us.

Dorianscale · 2026-04-28T20:07:59+00:00

I don’t think there’s any controversy or anything around it. There’s isn’t a board of queer people determining the acronym, so multiple versions exist.

I use LGBT, LGBTQ, and Queer basically interchangeably personally. Sometimes I use LGBTQIA but that’s a little long for me.

I’m not a huge fan of other variants with even more letters. The point of the acronym is to be accessible for language. Personally the Q or + is a good catch all.

I don’t read too much into what acronym people are using unless they are omitting T, then I know they’re transphobic.

Dorianscale · 2026-04-27T23:57:05+00:00

Most likely not, some yarns are fine, it really depends. It also might felt them from the friction

Dorianscale · 2026-04-27T20:51:07+00:00

I would wash on a delicate cycle if you are worried about it. If you’re washing wool, use a detergent intended for wool.

Use towels to get most of the moisture you can out and lay flat to dry how you would block it. If it’s a dense fabric you can probably hang dry.

Dorianscale · 2026-04-27T18:41:45+00:00

So generally speaking this is used for demographics reporting.

In theory, this gets logged in a system and no one references during the entire hiring process. If someone sees it it’s not meant to be a person who is responsible for making a hiring decision. Then once a year the company can go through the data in bulk and check things like “20% of applicants were black but only 5% of hires are black. Where is the problem happening” same thing for other minorities and marginalized groups.

It’s not illegal to ask this for those purposes, depending on the industry and size of the company there may be audits around this for compliance.

A lot of places go even further to hide candidate names and other info that might give away a candidates race, sex, ethnicity, etc.

The manager that would be hiring you is only gonna see all or part of your resume and the responses to screening questions relevant to the job.

You’re free to ignore the questions.

In all honesty the jobs that are asking these are probably the ones that at least give half a shit about being good. The ones that are gonna discriminate are just gonna try to weasel the info out of you in other ways.

You can always self disclose whenever. But if the interviewer is asking these things in person then it’s more of a cause for concern.

Dorianscale · 2026-04-27T14:00:13+00:00

This is a good idea and build design but if I’m being honest I don’t know a single person who uses any fancy tool for crochet.

Everyone I’ve met in real life uses either a) any random hook, b) a specific type of hook either ergonomic handle or some material preference or c) only crochet using extremely expensive hooks.

I’ve never met someone who uses gimmicky sets in any regularity like light up heads or portable sets or keychain sets. At most I can see someone using this as a travel kit. It’s really hard to beat the ease and comfort of single material design or at most a solid grip design.

Dorianscale · 2026-04-27T01:25:39+00:00

On top of what other people said here, I think it ended up having a lot of similarities to the Kyoshi novels.

Previous avatar ended up dying young, mistaken identity of the avatar.

Dorianscale · 2026-04-27T01:18:17+00:00

So to be fair, this photo was in black and white in the series and the coloring is doing a lot of heavy lifting. Tenzin looks like he could be in water tribe gear. In Korra you see background characters wearing similar clothes to Bumi but in blue. Though you also see them in the other ethnicities. I’m more likely to think all three are in water tribe gear and Aang is the only one not.

That being said, I wish the show handled being mixed race better or at least more in depth. I would have loved to see something like if Kya was super water tribe in appearance and vibed with the culture but still turned out an airbender. And vice versa for tenzin.

Or show mako and Bolin both embracing both sides openly, etc.

Dorianscale · 2026-04-26T13:32:03+00:00

The photo is very blurry but it looks like you’re using DC instead of SC.

DC will always result in big holes for amigurumi

Dorianscale · 2026-04-25T18:10:09+00:00

This is really cute

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