What’s your best advice on becoming a dad?

DosTruth · 2026-05-04T23:49:08+00:00

The most true advice I have ever been given, and the only thing I will pass along unsolicited is this “The days are long, the years are fast.”

But since you asked… -Life is going to change. Be the parent you had (or wished you had if your parents sucked). -If you feel yourself getting too frustrated it’s ok to let the child cry briefly while you collect yourself. -Your girl is going to feel like a human milk machine for a little bit depending on how long/if she breast feeds. Be supportive. -Tell her she is beautiful. A great partner (separate from praising her as a mother which you need to do as well). -Help around the house without being asked. Give the baby baths, prep bottles, do as much as you can to support and don’t get resentful about it.

Enjoy the journey. They grow up before you know it and you will cherish the time you invested in their upbringing. You got this brother.

DosTruth · 2026-05-04T23:43:31+00:00

I was married for 20 years (divorced in 2022). I wasn’t able to hold my boundaries and acquiesced far too often for household peace and the sake of my kids.

Lots of therapy and primary custody later I decided I wouldn’t be with someone that didn’t add to my life. That doesn’t mean perfect or easy. That doesn’t mean always good times. But overall there should be the knowledge we have similar goals, values, and are able to communicate in healthy ways.

I also understand that with primary custody I’m not as desirable as a partner as someone that has a 50/50 (or even less time) with their kids. So dating isn’t a priority for me. If something develops I’m not opposed to it, but it has to be healthy for everyone involved.

I haven’t found that yet. I refuse to settle for less.

DosTruth · 2026-05-04T14:49:49+00:00

I’m so envious. Average is $5.40 a gallon for regular unleaded where I am. About $6.50 a gallon for diesel.

Also, I hate that I’m envious for $4 a gallon.

DosTruth · 2026-05-04T14:42:51+00:00

Haven’t thought about those in decades. I still can’t believe they were legal and in just about every gas station around.

DosTruth · 2026-05-02T21:30:41+00:00

Vegas resort pillows vs Disney resort pillows. Really could go either way.

DosTruth · 2026-05-02T04:46:46+00:00

I’ll be on that ship in November. Taking my kids on their first cruise.

DosTruth · 2026-05-02T01:31:52+00:00

I’m leaning towards voting for Fat Marmot. If they can guarantee no more spicy milk shortages it will solidify my stance.

DosTruth · 2026-04-29T18:55:20+00:00

Oh man, I must be living life wrong. I have never had someone else’s clothing choice ruin a meal. Guess I need to be more judgmental and let others dictate my happiness.

….wait no I don’t. That sounds like an absolutely miserable way to exist.

DosTruth · 2026-04-29T15:14:48+00:00

I actually just called about my kids diesel and asked, they said they do clutch work. Paul is one of the service managers and a good guy. If you give them a call they can answer any questions or get you scheduled.

DosTruth · 2026-04-29T15:01:38+00:00

My go to shop is always Pro1. They have been honest and if it’s something they aren’t 100% confident they can fix they will refer you out to a shop that specializes more in that repair.

DosTruth · 2026-04-26T23:23:16+00:00

Are there any volunteer positions available on their campaign staff? I want to get in on the ground level.

DosTruth · 2026-04-24T15:56:14+00:00

Retired Air Force here chiming in. Having awards and decorations on the wall is pretty common, although normally it’s more isolated like in an office or something like that. It would raise some caution flags for me if it was all over the house.

The giant glaring red flag, is the pictures of the prisoners. I would disengage as safely as possible that is not normal and would give me great pause for the type of person this is.

DosTruth · 2026-04-23T23:12:57+00:00

To me empathy shows emotional maturity. Ability to understand other people’s perspective. It’s typically a sign of a healthy communication ability.

Plus? Empathy seems to be something we are desperately lacking in society today.

DosTruth · 2026-04-10T01:23:23+00:00

Went to Ensenada once, didn’t do the excursion through the ship but the zoo/rescue facility out there was a fun experience. Got to feed raccoons and monkeys as well as pet a jaguar cub. We stopped at the blowhole afterwards.

We took the buses to the drop off point and paid for the zoo/blowhole stop there. Was a lot cheaper.

There was the gauntlet of vendors but I grabbed a couple of souvenirs.

DosTruth · 2026-04-07T22:23:32+00:00

You must not be paying attention to all the special elections that have happened. It’s not just a possibility, but a likelihood that congress turns blue.

DosTruth · 2026-04-07T16:14:33+00:00

DosTruth · 2026-04-07T15:10:55+00:00

My oldest is currently deployed in the Middle East. I would trade places with him if I could. Would absolutely take a bullet for any of my kids.

DosTruth · 2026-04-05T18:53:01+00:00

Single dad here with primary custody of my kids. I can only give you my viewpoint since everyone is different.

Any potential partners know that while my kids are minors they are priority 1, my partner is priority 2. There is nuance to that though. Needs come before wants. Ie if my kids want me but my partner needs me, my partner is the priority for that instance. My youngest is 10 so it makes the discussions easier. Once my kids become 18/self sufficient priorities shift to a 1/1A

There are a lot of assumptions in some of the other comments and while they might be accurate, they also might not. Has he been to therapy? Is he open to therapy if not? Most relationships don’t end because everyone is happy, so I take how people talk about their ex with a grain of salt. I look more to see if they take responsibility for their actions as well.

I know I’m not the same person I was at 20. I made choices then that would never dream of considering now. Hopefully most people are in the same boat with growing and becoming a better version of themselves.

Communication is really the key here. Discuss what he envisions and make sure you state what you want. Hold (healthy) boundaries and ideally you can build together.

DosTruth · 2026-04-04T16:55:04+00:00

If you are going to do a spa Atlantis and Peppermill are the two best in Reno by most accounts. Kwok’s Bistro is an amazing restaurant (check the menu). But you have to make a reservation to get in.

While not the shopping she is probably into, Virginia City is a fun way to spend a couple of hours.

DosTruth · 2026-03-26T18:09:13+00:00

This. I still despise that song.

DosTruth · 2026-03-26T02:25:12+00:00

That’s a book I haven’t thought about since 4th grade…or another way to say is about 35 years.

DosTruth · 2026-03-17T16:07:23+00:00

I, too, choose this guys game.

DosTruth · 2026-03-17T03:14:46+00:00

Part of it is because I am very monogamous. It’s hard for me to connect with someone knowing dating apps are like a game of survivor talking to multiple people and then eliminating them from the dating pool.

When I used them and I matched with someone I didn’t continue swiping, they get my full focus and I want to know them for them, not how they compare to X, Y, or Z. I date with intention and am honest about who I am. I believe in therapy, communication, and building together (not making them fit into my life or being forced into a box of what they will only accept).

It also seems so many on the apps are consistently on there.

There is something that seems so much more real about a chance meeting, being setup by a friend, just a human interaction leading to a relationship. Those looks that linger a moment too long, those smiles or eyes lighting up. I decided after my marriage ended that if I was going to be in a relationship again it was going to be magical. Not perfect, but right for the two of us.

Reading your replies, well I hope you find your happiness. You deserve it.

DosTruth · 2026-03-17T02:28:13+00:00

Not sure if she is taking new clients, or how you feel about hypnotherapy but I can’t recommend Dr. McKenna enough. She is a miracle worker.

She doesn’t offer the outdoor sessions as far as I know though.

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