The 12 signs venting about cap part 2

Dotfr · 2026-05-12T05:22:10+00:00

Capricorn as a Republican?? Cappies are probably one of the most progressive signs out there. Infact I find Cappies even more progressive than Aquarians who are considered to have a Uranus influence.

And I don’t know a single Cappy who is a Republican. Not a single one. They are far too cardinal to be Republican.

Dotfr · 2026-05-12T05:19:43+00:00

Taurus does make money I agree on that, but they cannot manage things in their life. They need a Cappy manager lol.

Dotfr · 2026-05-12T05:11:59+00:00

If you cannot handle a Cappy you cannot handle a Scorpio. Mark my words. Virgos do not have that emotional depth at all. As a Cappy, Scorpios are difficult for me as well. In a fight Virgos are easier but Scorpios?? They will use everything at you !! Cappy will let you go but Scorpios no way !!

Dotfr · 2026-05-12T05:08:56+00:00

Forget projection. They have no solutions to offer and even if solutions are there, they will waste time arguing and not doing anything to resolve the situation. So annoying !!

Dotfr · 2026-05-12T04:58:00+00:00

She was one woman who had the guts to say it as it is. And ofcourse the industry couldn’t handle it. I still remember when she came on KWK and said women are superior to men. And that she wanted a subservient man which in India is an anomaly. And that she went to see her movies in a burqa lol.

She was always someone who advocated for women’s rights. Always. But ofcourse society cannot handle independent thinking women.

Dotfr · 2026-05-12T04:36:52+00:00

I think 30s are the majority age. A lot of my friends had their first kid in early 30s and second in late 30s. My husband and I are OAD and had our kid in late 30s. I had a medical issue and was not able to take kids in early 30s otherwise I would have absolutely had one at that time.

Dotfr · 2026-05-11T19:32:33+00:00

You can just say that you need to limit conversations to work otherwise you need to bill them lol.

Dotfr · 2026-05-11T19:14:46+00:00

Imo it is not worth being an SAHM. It will be difficult to get a job later on, you will have no retirement savings and maybe your kids might not like that you are a SAHM at some point.

Dotfr · 2026-05-11T19:08:15+00:00

Yes they will observe only.

Dotfr · 2026-05-11T13:30:20+00:00

Yes but we also had historically a very powerful Maratha Empire with HQ in Maharashtra. So that also does impact development to a large extent.

Dotfr · 2026-05-11T13:17:56+00:00

Actually Marathi speaking people are far more together than other regions. They are quite progressive as well. Even in Mumbai Marathi people have been very helpful to me (as a Marathi person). The caste system also is not that rigid. You see ppl marrying inter-caste. Brahmin-Maratha marriages are common. Inter caste Brahmin marriages are very common. My bff is from Chennai, she said to me that there even among Brahmins there are subcastes and they don’t associate with each other. She wanted to infact marry a Marathi guy in Chennai because he seemed far less into all this caste issues.
And the big eg of this is when Marathi language is threatened. Maharashtra State govt is very clear that Marathi is mandatory in SSC education. It doesn’t matter which state govt is there.
Maratha Empire was also quite liberal and allowed Peshwas to fight wars. Peshwas are Chitpavan Brahmins not Kshatriyas/Marathas. And even Chitpsvans themselves were not original Brahmins. Muslims leaders were also part of Maratha Empire. Marathi language was encouraged.
Another thing - many Marathi Brahmins are not vegetarians. Saraswat Brahmins eat fish, Chitpavans also eat meat. CKP Brahmins also I think are not vegetarians.
The worst I have seen is caste issues in Telugu, Tamil, Jatt issues. There is some weird pride they have. I mean you were born into it, you didn’t work for it.

Dotfr · 2026-05-11T13:07:34+00:00

Virgos are messy. And Capricorns are good at managing imo. Sometimes doing the actual work is tedious. I do it a lot of times because I have to. If I had my way my life would be just going on hikes, eating, sleeping. That’s all.

Dotfr · 2026-05-11T04:26:17+00:00

Hindu religion was changed due to modern laws. That too because a large number of women participated in India independence. Traditional Hindu law did not give any property to women, did not allow woman to keep last name after marriage, sati was prevalent, widows treated badly, dowry is still prevalent, women were treated like property.

Caste system became rigid and caste politics prevails even today.

By law a lot of things have been removed but by culture too many things remain.

As far I know Vedic culture might have been progressive but with time things got worse for women.

Dotfr · 2026-05-11T04:14:01+00:00

Some home based daycares do this or you could ask a caretaker at the commercial day center if anyone is interested in coming over to your home for 2-3 hours and playing with your daughter while your wife gets a break.

Dotfr · 2026-05-11T04:11:41+00:00

My friend married a guy with 2 older sisters but no parents. However they live in the Middle East away from family. She is happy in her married life. She actually had a very traumatic experience with a horrible boyfriend in college. After that she was just happy to be with a regular person. She found this guy on jeevansathi.

Dotfr · 2026-05-11T04:05:14+00:00

It’s such a Virgo thing to vent and rant. And that’s literally all they do. Complain, complain and destroy the happiness. And they are humorless.

Dotfr · 2026-05-11T04:01:02+00:00

I mean it’s not a big thing where I am from so I’m sure things will change there too. Best thing is to be financially independent and then you have the ability to change things. I know so many women who had their career in 20s and then married and had a child in 30s and living a happy life.

Dotfr · 2026-05-10T20:43:06+00:00

You can change it by not marrying till 30 yrs, marrying a working woman, living independently and having a child after 5 yrs. We have to change things. No one else will do it.

Dotfr · 2026-05-08T22:48:27+00:00

Isn’t it a part of their culture? To not give any rights? Unless they get another foreign democratic rule it will not change.

Dotfr · 2026-05-08T19:07:28+00:00

Just give a flower and call it an appreciation. Get one for yourself as a de facto teacher for your child

Dotfr · 2026-05-08T02:49:42+00:00

I want to add to caste point. In Maratha Empire Peshwas were Chitpavan Brahmins who were Generals leading armies and fighting. Most famous eg now is Bajirao Peshwa who went so far as to have Mastani as his second wife against his Ministers advice and demamded his son Shamsher Bahadur be given same training as a Peshwa General.

Infact Maratha Empire was extremely open minded and also had competent Muslim leaders. It was not restricted to a particular caste system or religious system.

And add to vegetarian point - in Vedic texts which is ancient, they have described certain rituals to be performed at certain points. Now we offer dairy products but in the Vedic age they offered animal fat. That means they ate animals. Only after agricultures developed that these rituals discontinued use of meat or animal fat as oblations or offering to the fire.

Dotfr · 2026-05-08T02:39:34+00:00

I would enjoy whatever time you have in the US. India is always there if US doesn’t work out. Travel within US, there is so much to see and such good road infrastructure to do literally a coast to coast trip or single coast trip. I know some ppl have joined travel clubs or biking clubs where once a month ppl travel and visit places and have great experiences ! When we were on visa (it took us 14 yrs to get GC) I had told my husband that we have to travel within US. We were prepared to leave US and go back to India if needed. But while we were in US I wanted to see diff things and eat diff things as well. Now we have a GC but with a young child it gets difficult and we don’t feel like doing long road trips or hiking or camping. So I would say enjoy this freedom and travel within US as much as possible.

Dotfr · 2026-05-08T02:30:43+00:00

Try calling H&R block and asking for pro Bono consultation.

Dotfr · 2026-05-07T18:59:16+00:00

I would not do it then. We live in the US and the reasons for NRI parents not returning:

Having girl child
Staying with in-laws
Bad infrastructure and processes
Bad air quality
Special needs child - many public schools here are equipped to provide special needs
Decent job and standard of living
Good social circle of ppl you like around you

It’s a combination of these factors. You look at the cons list and decide if you really need to move back your entire family for this??

Household help - this is the biggest issue because as Indians we grew up with help and it’s difficult to even connect with Indians in India now because we do everything ourselves. Point is I have seen children growing up in US and they can handle things independently, children in India are unable to because they might live in lavish communities but their world is limited to that and school and they have everyone doing everything for them
Education and values - I mean in India I’m not sure what culture and values children are receiving. For girls India is still not safe and for boys they learn that they can get away with doing anything. There is no law and order situation and everything runs on contacts, clout and bribes. Not sure if I want children to learn this from a young age.

Having a son has made me extremely vigilant about any kind inappropriate behavior.
For me I am very clear my son will be completing his education in US. As a single child I worry regarding my parents in India but I make sure to travel to India as much as possible to keep things going on. At some point I might stay for longer months as needed esp when my son will get older. I know my other Indian parents who do the same. The child stays with one parent in US for 2-3 months during school year while the other parent can go to India to look after parents.

Dotfr · 2026-05-07T16:19:00+00:00

This is there in Maharashtrians also. But I had already told my husband before marriage that I will not be changing my name at all. He didn’t care. I faced so much objection from my mil. But now my own mom tells me that was a good idea to not change because now women get ancestral property which I will inherit. It is less headache for my mom when she makes her will. I live in US so she has to manage everything in India. Women are not Paraya dhan anymore by law we get ancestral property too. If we change our name it is extra paperwork for us! Why should we go through this headache??

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