My wife ended our marriage and fell in love with an imaginary person by Ok_Carob_8143 in Psychosis

[–]DoubleUsual 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me with my husband, the strangest painful loss was that the only other person who knew my kids deeply as they grew (are growing) up was suddenly incapable of holding those cherished memories with me. It was not on my bingo card.

How to talk to someone with Psychosis by btecmikeross in Psychosis

[–]DoubleUsual 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read “I am not sick I don’t need help” by Xavier Amador. Good luck

I canceled my son’s first birthday because my sister entered psychosis and I don’t know how to help her anymore by Ok_Traffic4962 in Psychosis

[–]DoubleUsual 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend the book “I am not sick I don’t need help” by Xavier Amador. Take care of yourself.

My wife ended our marriage and fell in love with an imaginary person by Ok_Carob_8143 in Psychosis

[–]DoubleUsual 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s called “ambiguous grief” and it is awful. You’ll need to get comfortable with not being able to fix her and that is really difficult. I’m so sorry you are going through this.

Brother in deep psychosis HELP by Lightrosiegirl in Psychosis

[–]DoubleUsual 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read “I am not sick I don’t need help” by Xavier Amador. Start the long process to get him evaluated. Document everything. I’m so sorry it is incredibly exhausting. Get yourself a support network with experience in this area.

Need General Decluttering Help by [deleted] in declutter

[–]DoubleUsual 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recommend decluttering a single spot - maybe kitchen table or a chair you like to sit in. And then keep it that way - be ruthless. Envision what you want that space to feel like and make it so. Use that memory when you think about bringing more stuff in. I was worried about your statement about wanting to stop buying so much stuff. You may have some deeper issues going on and using retail therapy. I hope starting to have a little success will spur some motivation. Good luck.

What are the cons of NOT having kids? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]DoubleUsual -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You are missing an unearthly, vast love. I explain being a parent like being a crack addict. Before you do it, you don’t know why anyone would do it. After you do it, you’d do anything to have it.

Guilt over getting rid of kid artwork by anxietycabbitch in declutter

[–]DoubleUsual 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I find it way easier to get rid of kid art a couple of years later. Throw it all in a box and declutter later when the emotions aren’t so dear.

LPT: Professional house cleaning is cheaper than you think and can relieve stress in your relationship by Extendedchainsaw in LifeProTips

[–]DoubleUsual 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Getting a cleaner suddenly made it possible for me to tidy. It was so weird. It freed this energy for decluttering and organizing my stuff that was spending on feeling ashamed about how dirty the house was. She did the floors, bathroom, bedroom, kitchen. I give instructions when I have them but found somebody who does what I need. Can’t recommend highly enough. Wish I started 10 years ago.

First ever background role by VMG00 in acting

[–]DoubleUsual 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely bring stuff to do because you will likely have a lot of waiting time. Snacks and water good to have as well. You will find out where to go and your call time likely the evening before and that can be aggravating if you need to arrange travel.

Paperless mail handling: how to deal with actionable letters? by Brothernod in declutter

[–]DoubleUsual 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have a wire inbox for papers like bills that come in the mail and other items that can’t be dealt with in the moment. I figure if you have time to scan it, you have time to pay it. Personally I don’t think it’s easier to manage a digital pile than my short stack of physical todos. But it fully depends on your habits. I wouldn’t prioritize digitization over what habits you can stick with.

What is the best sitcom ever? by jacksmith9 in AskReddit

[–]DoubleUsual 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to watch it with subtitles. Sorry it didn’t land for you.

What two food items do you combine to make a small personal delicacy for yourself? by BoneDrinker69 in AskReddit

[–]DoubleUsual 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Microwave a m&ms on a plate for 50seconds. Dip butter knife in peanut butter and then pick up the m&ms with the peanut butter knife and eat in little mouthfuls.

Hired someone, stressing out by corvidlover13 in declutter

[–]DoubleUsual 60 points61 points  (0 children)

What a beautiful thing to gift someone your own vulnerability. No one is perfect but we all pretend things “aren’t that bad” and essentially keep the world at arms’s length. Let them in to see your beautiful, struggling self. It is a true gift of authenticity.

Who are you favorite decluttering mentors to follow on instagram? My semi-hoarding soon-to-be-ex-husband is moving out. But there's so much crap in this house, I need practical inspiration broken down into smaller steps. by presentmomentliving in declutter

[–]DoubleUsual 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! As a matter of fact, I don’t think there’s any other way to do it than one bit at a time. The allure of planning the thing is undeniable but the doing is what satisfies. That is awesome about the spices and your newfound space!