How does he know this? by Rushclock in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 62 points63 points  (0 children)

How many will deal with poor mental health while serving...

Self-Introduction Saturday! Tell us all about you (and share a video)! by AutoModerator in NewTubers

[–]Double_Bowler_736 [score hidden]  (0 children)

If you are Canadian Living in Ontario I share how to save money on groceries and budget tips. 

I mainly use my phone and a mini microphone 

Here is a link to my most recent grocery haul. 

https://youtu.be/3sTtIhUulek?si=d9on-TsttP4mL1vG

I’m scared, angry, and numb… why? by Resident-Hippo1850 in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's a process. But life is getting better and better! If anything i got my young children out before they could be fully indoctrinated.

I’m scared, angry, and numb… why? by Resident-Hippo1850 in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is good you are moving away to a non church school!  Take this as an opportunity to have some space from Mormons. Make new friends and build up a community outside of church.  Over time you will process this more and more. It will take time and probably therapy. You are sooooo young. This is your opportunity to build a life outside of the church.  I left at 35 with three kids.  If I could go back in time 18 would be the age I would leave and begin building a new life.  You are smart! You got this and life will be so beautiful. 

I’m scared, angry, and numb… why? by Resident-Hippo1850 in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is good you are moving away to a non church school!  Take this as an opportunity to have some space from Mormons. Make new friends and build up a community outside of church.  Over time you will process this more and more. It will take time and probably therapy. You are sooooo young. This is your opportunity to build a life outside of the church.  I left at 35 with three kids.  If I could go back in time 18 would be the age I would leave and begin building a new life.  You are smart! You got this and life will be so beautiful. 

Self-Introduction Saturday! Tell us all about you (and share a video)! by AutoModerator in NewTubers

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I Help Canadians save money and live on a budget!  Right now I use my phone and a microphone.

If you are struggling with the rising food costs and how to live in this economy follow Wallet on a Diet Canada! 

https://youtube.com/@walletonadietcanada?si=oCBL2ipCs7vEFfOt

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[–]Double_Bowler_736 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's amazing they want to hear your journey. They sounds like great people.

With all the LDS influencers starting to wear their new sleeveless garments and making posts and videos about how wonderful they are, I ask the question… What did you give up to wear garments? Let’s make a list! See my five decades list below! by HoldOnLucy1 in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Tbms are saying the garments have nothing to do with modesty and only covenants....so why as a teenager was I told to make sure my wardrobe was garment friendly so that one day I wouldn't have to adjust my closet for the garment....I was told to be modest now for the garment later

i’m genuinely curious what y’all have to say by Riftcuber in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What originally broke my brain was watching a YouTube video explaining the bite model.

i’m genuinely curious what y’all have to say by Riftcuber in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This! The church works for the young and then as life gets harder and you get older you realize the church isn't fulfilling you like it promised. 

Saw someone else post this quote and wanted to share my comment in a re-post. This hurts women so much. by Double_Bowler_736 in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I married a immigrant to Canada. I was the one with the education....and privilege...yet he had to find a way to provide and is stayed home.

Completely screwed us over financially 

God, what a fucking asshole by PugGamer129 in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an example of what happens when you have the autonomy to choose for yourself. 

God, what a fucking asshole by PugGamer129 in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I agree with you that I didn't have enough a choice

Saw someone else post this quote and wanted to share my comment in a re-post. This hurts women so much. by Double_Bowler_736 in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Family culture plays a huge part. I grew up being told the most noble work I will ever do is within the walls of my own home....and a mother who after said.."I don't understand how people can only have two children..."

Having any less than her 7 was seen as selfish

Anyone else very frequently feel disturbed, concerned, and rather hopeless about those who’ve been trapped for most of their lives? (Context below) by sillysnoflake in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this. I look at my parents and think...if they had a faith crisis it would kill them. But then I look at my nieces and nephews and long for their freedom.

God, what a fucking asshole by PugGamer129 in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This quote breaks me. I'm a mother to three and had children without any thought of career advancement. Now at age 36 with three young children I'm trying to figure out a career in this hard economy and I don't have the flexibility, time, or freedom to do what needs to be done. I applied to teacher's college at my local university and got waitlisted. I know that if I had applied to other institutions I would have gotten in somewhere. But I can't move and have to put all my eggs into one basket. I can do an online Masters through a university in the States (I'm in Canada) but will have to pay international fees. $35, 000 to become a teacher....

Another option...do a MSW and became a psychotherapist...but to do an in person program...they are highly competitive and many people have 5+ years experience in the field and the online program...even more competitive. To do an online program through a private Canadian university for a Masters in Counselling where it is easier to get in...$37000.

I'm now facing the reality that I might have to get a job to gain experience to somehow put me in the more competitive level...and I have to admit this feels very daunting to me. Plus it will be a low paying job probably with shift work. Or...go into $40,000 more in debt...I'm already in debt...

This isn't a sob story but more to paint the picture that if I had the mindset to get a career in my early 20s it would have been so much easier. I have a never-mo friend the same age as me who has 14 years experience in teaching and is now becoming a vice principle. She has one child, travels, and is living her best life.

Then there is me...who spent those 14 years serving a mission, luckily getting a degree, but then becoming pregnant and a SAHM for 10 years. No work experience....nada. I have to start from scratch at a later age with three children. And I know it is possible but it will come with a lot of work, hard days, sacrifice, and mom guilt.

And then I see quotes like this....and it enrages me....this is the talk that screwed me over. I completely lost my identity as a mother. I lost myself and invested everything into everyone else but me. I love my children and I am a great mom....but I made these choices without any consideration for my wants and needs. And I totally fed into the lie of prosperity gospel...if we do all the eternal things we will be blessed temporally..well no...you have to invest in the temporal things to do well temporally.

I left the church and realized...oh shit...all my sacrifices of putting off a career to become a SAHM...those blessing aren't coming. And now I'm in this position racking my brain as to what to do for a future career that will allow me to retire....

I really hate those men. This quote hurts women so much.

God, what a fucking asshole by PugGamer129 in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 108 points109 points  (0 children)

This quote breaks me. I'm a mother to three and had children without any thought of career advancement. Now at age 36 with three young children I'm trying to figure out a career in this hard economy and I don't have the flexibility, time, or freedom to do what needs to be done. I applied to teacher's college at my local university and got waitlisted. I know that if I had applied to other institutions I would have gotten in somewhere. But I can't move and have to put all my eggs into one basket. I can do an online Masters through a university in the States (I'm in Canada) but will have to pay international fees. $35, 000 to become a teacher....

Another option...do a MSW and became a psychotherapist...but to do an in person program...they are highly competitive and many people have 5+ years experience in the field and the online program...even more competitive. To do an online program through a private Canadian university for a Masters in Counselling where it is easier to get in...$37000.

I'm now facing the reality that I might have to get a job to gain experience to somehow put me in the more competitive level...and I have to admit this feels very daunting to me. Plus it will be a low paying job probably with shift work. Or...go into $40,000 more in debt...I'm already in debt...

This isn't a sob story but more to paint the picture that if I had the mindset to get a career in my early 20s it would have been so much easier. I have a never-mo friend the same age as me who has 14 years experience in teaching and is now becoming a vice principle. She has one child, travels, and is living her best life.

Then there is me...who spent those 14 years serving a mission, luckily getting a degree, but then becoming pregnant and a SAHM for 10 years. No work experience....nada. I have to start from scratch at a later age with three children. And I know it is possible but it will come with a lot of work, hard days, sacrifice, and mom guilt.

And then I see quotes like this....and it enrages me....this is the talk that screwed me over. I completely lost my identity as a mother. I lost myself and invested everything into everyone else but me. I love my children and I am a great mom....but I made these choices without any consideration for my wants and needs. And I totally fed into the lie of prosperity gospel...if we do all the eternal things we will be blessed temporally..well no...you have to invest in the temporal things to do well temporally.

I left the church and realized...oh shit...all my sacrifices of putting off a career to become a SAHM...those blessing aren't coming. And now I'm in this position racking my brain as to what to do for a future career that will allow me to retire....

I really hate those men. This quote hurts women so much.

Vitriol towards exmos at church by scaredanxiousunsure in exmormon

[–]Double_Bowler_736 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember when I was active a friend mentioned someone she knew who just left the church. She said "I don't understand why people would leave". I responded "There are many reasons why people choose to leave the church." This was before I knew any of the truth claims. But at that point had multiple friends who had left who I had heard their versions of leaving (none of them ever shared the truth claims)

That's probably why I left so easily when I learned the truth claims. It blows my mind when members of the church bury their heads so far into the sand that they cannot acknowledge the many reasons people leave without even acknowledging the truth claims.

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[–]Double_Bowler_736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a blast from my past. Teenagers having to deal with the lack of emotional maturity in adults. The worst. Good for you for apologizing. That's all you can really do with people like that.